Weird things happen every year, especially here.
Outside the window, it was scorching summer one second, and then there was heavy snow in the sky the next.
The persimmon trees were sparsely grown the day before, but overnight they were covered with branches.
Is this some kind of magical place?
「Say your wish」
If You Wish Upon Me
022.8.10
The last wish
The story takes place in "Our Hospice".
All patients living here are near the end of their lives. Modern medicine is helpless and can only slightly alleviate their pain.
then waits for death.
"Hospice" is like a transit station between heaven and earth.
Every patient admitted here is forced to enter the countdown of life, months, weeks...
This place is negative, silent and painful.
But there is a group of people in the hospital who are very different. They are called the "Magic Lamp Team".
"Magic Lamp Team" is a volunteer group organized voluntarily.
They are regardless of age, occupation, or gender. They are just a group of kind-hearted people who gather together to help dying patients fulfill their last wishes.
They are positive, enthusiastic, and optimistic, and call themselves the "Avengers of Wishland."
An old man’s last wish was to see a snowfall.
So they turned midsummer into cold winter. Everyone wore cotton clothes and pretended that winter had arrived.
An old man wanted to return to the seaside of his hometown before his death to reunite with his deceased wife.
So they drove thousands of miles to send the old man home.
An old man’s last wish is to return to his former home.
They tried their best to contact the current owner of the house. spent one night to load the bare persimmon tree with fruits, just like the old man remembered.
There is also a young girl whose last wish is to stand on the stage and complete a musical.
There is no regret, and death seems not so terrible.
This is not a magical place. It is just a miracle of a group of ordinary people trying their best. It is a rare warmth in the heavy reality.
But there is always one person who is incompatible with this warmth.
His name is Yin Qiaolai ( Ji Changxu ) , and he is a volunteer who provides social labor services in the hospital after committing a crime.
is a gangster, acting loosely and running rampant.
has a disregard for life and scorns the kindness of others.
can also say something like "It doesn't matter, he will be gone soon anyway" in front of the patient.
is so sad and such a jerk.
As the plot slowly unfolds, his character gradually becomes fuller.
It turns out that Yin Qiaolai was a victim of domestic violence when he was a child. When he grew up, he became a gangster and a frequent visitor to the police.
has no relatives, no dreams, has never experienced happiness, and lives with a stray dog.
He once thought that life would be different when he had money, so he embezzled a sum of money from the gang boss.
But when he stayed in luxury hotels, drove super cars, and squandered cash in front of the floor-to-ceiling windows, he found that it was nothing more than that.
Unable to find the meaning of life, Qiao Lai decided to commit suicide by taking his dog to see the sea.
was chased by gangsters on the way to suicide. Qiao Lai lost control and hit the ambulance of the hospice hospital.
By chance, he became a social worker.
In this place closest to death, he began to learn to listen to regrets and let go, and his understanding of life was slowly changing. "Say Your Wishes" is based on the Dutch ambulance driver Kees Veldboer.
Kees heard the last wish of a dying patient during a transfer, so he drove the ambulance to the seaside to accompany him to see the sea for the last time.
After his retirement, he founded the "Ambulance Wish Foundation" to fulfill the final wishes of dying patients who rely on ambulance transportation.
Picture source network, the foundation helps patients fulfill their wish to see giraffes
Film and television works about "death" are not uncommon.
The movie "The Embalmer" helps the deceased to bid farewell to the world in a dignified way by dressing up the deceased.
The drama series "I Am the Organizer of Relics" organizes memories by sorting out the belongings of the deceased and speaks the unfinished words on behalf of the deceased.
But "Say Your Wish" is different. It faces the eve of death and fulfills the wishes that can still be spoken, like "The Last Summer Before My Death".
uses the form of a pseudo unit drama to pay attention to the reality through the people who are about to say goodbye, and achieve two-way healing.
currently has a Douban score of 8.3, and IMDb.0.
The male protagonist Yin Qiaolai felt the kindness he had never experienced before in the hospital, a lollipop and a home-cooked meal...
In the hot life, he truly felt needed and liked, and also Responded awkwardly.
Only when people have connections and concerns can they have the motivation and expectation to live.
The old man returned to his former residence with a calm and serene face.
In the dead of night, Qiao Lai asked the old man the question buried deep in his heart: Aren't you afraid of (death)?
The old man did not answer the question directly, but held his hand and said with a smile: Thank you for driving me here.
Because the Persimmon Tree House is a home for the elderly, it holds countless precious memories with his wife and daughter. If he can return home at the end of his life and be with his family, he will have nothing to fear.
Relatives are caring, but also the courage to face death.
The girl who sings the musical shines on the stage and does not look like a seriously ill person at all.
Qiao Lai didn't understand. She was in so much pain that she couldn't speak the day before, but at this moment, she was dressed elegantly on the stage and was extremely dazzling.
A girl would rather collapse on the stage than stay in bed to survive longer.
is a dream that makes her not afraid of death.
For most terminal patients, hometown, relatives and dreams are the most difficult to let go of.
But these were all luxuries to Qiao Lai.
is like Abbas 's Palme d'Or work " Taste of Cherry ", the man who seeks death, Buddy.
He searched for someone who could help him commit suicide, but in the end he turned to death.
The same goes for Qiao Lai. In the past, his life had no relatives, friends, dreams, and meaning.
But now, he seems to have found some.
Screenshots from the movie "Taste of Cherry"
The right to die
"Say Your Wish" is both healing and depressing.
Ultimately, the protagonists of this show are a group of dying people and their regrets and fulfillment.
Movies and TV series are mostly painless and regret-free, but life is not.
In our country’s discourse system, death has always been kept secret.
It seems that if we avoid it, it will not come to our door.
But birth, old age, illness and death are all natural laws that humans cannot resist.
Screenshot of the documentary "In Life"
We often wish each other five blessings, but few people know that the five blessings are-longevity, wealth, health, good virtues, and a good death.
A good death is a blessing, and a good death is also a basic human right.
Screenshot of the documentary "In Life"
The dead die well and the living farewell. We often say this, but we often fail to do so.
When a loved one is dying, we always selfishly want to keep him for even a second longer, self-righteously treating him well, but unable to empathize with the pain he endured.
Screenshot of the documentary "In Life"
"Old Man of the Century" Ba Jin suffered from excessive medical treatment in his last days.
He spent the last six years in the hospital. First, his trachea was cut open, and then he could only rely on a feeding tube and a ventilator to maintain his life.
The great pain made him mention more than once:
"I live for you, and living a long life is torture to me."
Phoenix.com "Journey" filmed a program in which Lu Guijun, head of the hospice care team at Beijing Tsinghua Chang Gung Memorial Hospital, always asked patients a question during outpatient visits.
Which is more important, one day of happiness or ten years of pain?
An aunt in the terminal stage of cancer said bluntly: As long as it hurts, she doesn’t want to live anymore.
In Eastern philosophy, tolerance is a virtue, but tolerance of pain is a kind of soft violence.
What's more, the pain level of terminal cancer is top 10, comparable to childbirth.
I really like the most commonly expressed attitude in "Say Your Wish": You should shout out when it hurts, and there is no need to pretend to be strong.
Frankly speaking, in the terminal stage of cancer, modern medical treatment does not have much room for maneuver, and what patients need is pain relief, comfort, care and care, and more importantly, psychological comfort.
In recent years, hospice care has entered the public eye.
It pierces the last layer of window paper, not allowing patients and their families to struggle in the false expectations of cure and improvement, but to alleviate pain and improve quality of life as much as possible.
and allow patients to face death and maintain dignity.
Screenshot of the documentary "In Life"
In 2018, China's first documentary "In Life" focusing on "hospice care", entered the soothing care area of Linfen Community Service Center in Shanghai.
This place is like a utopia. Medical staff can laugh about life and death, and patients are calmly preparing to say goodbye to the world, accompanied by their families.
There is also a grandfather who, like Xiong Dun in " Get Out, Mr. Tumor ", arranges his own funeral.
Here, you can clearly feel the danger of life, and death is really not far away from the world.
But I feel calm and orderly, and death is no longer a frivolous topic.
But in the footage, we can also see that the implementation of the hospice ward is not going smoothly.
Some patients initially end up in hospice because they just don't want to die at their daughter's home.
Residents living near the hospital also hung mirrors outside their windows to reflect bad luck.
In the final analysis, our death education is far from enough.
Just like Dr. Lu Guijun said -
" We should talk more about life and death like a wolf coming. Only by talking enough can we overcome the learned fear of death. When death comes, we will be less fearful and more rational. "
A lot of it. Talk about death and love the people around you well.
