Hello everyone, I am Zhu Xiaoqian who writes true stories. Follow me to see today’s story: 01 I have two WeChat IDs. Last Saturday, I used my work account to read the story of the day. I switched back to my private account at 5 o'clock in the evening, and saw Zhu Xiaolan's overwh

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01

I have two WeChat accounts.

Last Saturday, I used my work account to read the story of the day.

I switched back to my private account at 5pm, and then I saw Zhu Xiaolan’s overwhelming messages.

She started posting in the morning.

My heart skipped a beat, it’s over, I haven’t replied to her for so long, I’m definitely going to curse her.

I quickly replied, Sister, I just saw it.

As expected, Zhu Xiaolan’s voice came over like a machine gun. What are you doing, is it intentional? I treat you so sincerely, and you treat me like this! You ungrateful thing...

I am also in my forties. I can support the scene outside and shoulder the responsibilities at home, but I am taught by Zhu Xiaolan like a child.

Li Bin once asked me, why do you bother? Be angry with this!

Li Bin is my husband. We have been married for 15 years.

I said, you don’t understand. I have been best friends with her for so many years, and she is really good for me.

02

Zhu Xiaolan and I used to be colleagues.

works as a sales representative in an old state-owned beverage company.

Li Bin and I got married in 2007. At that time, my family's conditions were much better than those of Zhu Xiaolan's.

Li Bin’s parents are both retired civil servants. Their family has several properties and front houses.

In a small 18th-tier county like ours in Shaanxi, Li Bin and I can live a good life without working very hard.

When Zhu Xiaolan and her husband got married, they still borrowed money to buy a shabby house.

So at work, she works harder than me. She said she was scared of being poor and had had enough life without money.

Zhu Xiaolan gave birth to a son in 2007.

I gave birth to a son in 2008, and later I had a daughter.

Zhu Xiaolan said it herself, it’s not that she doesn’t want it, but that having a child involves too much energy for a woman.

She is devoted to her career and does not dare to give up.

Different choices lead to different lives.

I was dawdling in the company. During the years when I was preparing for my second child, Zhu Xiaolan became a middle-level manager in the company with her excellent performance.

But even if she becomes the leader, we are still friends who talk about everything.

Zhu Xiaolan often told me that relatives are not necessarily the ones who can dig deep into their hearts. On the contrary, they are friends and can be more sincere.

03

In fact, "relative" in terms of blood relationship is a word that does not have much meaning to me.

Because I was adopted.

My biological parents gave me away in order to have another son.

My adoptive parents are very good to me. After graduating from technical secondary school, I was able to work in a state-owned enterprise because my father retired and gave me the only quota to enter the company.

However, the first half of my life was not smooth.

When I was more than one year old, just after I could walk, I discovered that my left leg was disabled.

The medical conditions were not good at the time, so my adoptive parents took me to the hospital for treatment. The doctor said I was suffering from calcium deficiency.

After taking calcium supplements, there was no change, and it was determined that I had polio caused by high fever.

It was only after I became an adult that I went to a large hospital for a check-up and found out that the left hip joint was dislocated.

Because I didn’t check the system when I was a child, it delayed the reset. As an adult, I found that it was useless.

Time has dragged on for too long, hip joints have been worn out, and the legs will be long and short for the rest of their lives.

This caused me to have very low self-esteem. I only fell in love for the first time when I was 25 years old.

My ex-boyfriend loves me very much, but his family strongly opposes it because of my disability in my legs.

had a great impact on me at that time, and I even committed suicide. Saved by family.

Later, I met Li Bin.

04

Li Bin and I were introduced by my aunt.

He is 6 years older than me. He is the only son in the family and is usually very filial. His parents knew about my situation and did not agree to the marriage.

But Li Bin loves me very much and believes that I am his forever.

He went on a hunger strike to confront his parents, and finally married me.

Li Bin and I have been living happily.

Until 2016, when my second daughter was born, my nightmare came.

My daughter was diagnosed with a terminal illness when she was four months old. Unfortunately, she died when she was ten months old.

This hit me hard, and my whole body collapsed.

After that, I joined many charity organizations that help children. If you can't save your own child, go save other people's children.

At that time, Li Bin traveled with me all over the country to take care of me.

Later, whenever Zhu Xiaolan had time, she would chat with me, share my sorrow, and wake me up.

She advised me that you two can’t always be like this. Don't you care about your son? Isn't the business done? There are many ways to transfer sadness, but you cannot give up on yourself. Your daughter has a spirit in heaven, and she doesn’t want you to be like this.

I hugged her and cried loudly.

It was probably from then on that I became dependent on her. In my heart, I really regard her as my elder sister.

05

During those two years, Li Bin started his own business, dealing in food raw materials and additives.

Zhu Xiaolan was promoted again, joining the company's core leadership and becoming vice president.

She is really excellent in her career. Strong ability and wide connections.

To put it bluntly, some women rely on men to reach high positions.

But Zhu Xiaolan is not. She is a strong woman like Dong Mingzhu . All the achievements were achieved on his own two legs, fighting his way through the sales department filled with men.

After becoming the vice president, Zhu Xiaolan has purchasing power. In order to help me, she gave many of the company's categories to Li Bin.

I resigned long ago because too many things happened before.

Zhu Xiaolan urged me to find a job quickly and not to be separated from society for too long.

She asked someone to introduce me to a foreign company.

Although my academic qualifications were not enough, people liked her and admitted me.

During those years, Li Bin and I were very grateful to Zhu Xiaolan for giving us a lot of business.

And she herself actually completed the leap from the dragon gate.

Once upon a time, a little-known girl from a small town became the female leader of a large company. She bought a bigger house and a new, more expensive car.

always brings secretaries and assistants with him when he comes in and out.The whole person's temperament is different from the inside out.

And the relationship between her and me has quietly undergone some changes.

06

In my opinion, it should start from the house.

Li Bin and I’s first house was a second-hand house with a staircase.

Because the developer lives in it, the decoration is particularly good. The furniture and appliances were all left to us.

Before, Zhu Xiaolan brought her son to my house to play, and she was envious of him.

But ever since she moved to a new home, she has become disdainful of my family.

She often told me that you really failed to buy that house. Not to mention that the decoration was out of date, and there was still a staircase to the top floor. I don't think I can even sell it.

After all, it was a house that she had envied, but now she said it was worthless.

Later, Zhu Xiaolan also fell in love with Li Bin.

Her previous evaluation of Li Bin was that he was a good husband, loved me, took care of the family, and was a man who could live a lifetime. Although he is only 168cm tall, he is a warm man.

At that time, she often praised him and asked her husband to follow Li Bin as an example.

But now in her eyes, Li Bin has become a short, fat, unenterprising, incapable of achieving big things, worthless, useless trash.

She said, look at your husband, the little money left by his parents, what does it mean now? He is already over 40 years old and has accomplished nothing. If I hadn't helped him with some business in the past two years, he would have been gnawing at his old age. What's the use?

Sometimes it’s like this, a person can see both sides.

A man who loves his wife and listens to her in everything probably doesn’t have a strong career ambition.

I didn’t think about this before, so I didn’t feel it. But Zhu Xiaolan’s little hint made me feel anxious.

When I go home and see Li Bin again, I will inevitably criticize him. After going back and forth, Li Bin couldn't stand it and often quarreled with me.

Sometimes things got really bad, and Zhu Xiaolan came to me again to persuade me that my family would be in harmony and everything would be prosperous.

She said, I told you about Li Bin’s problems so that you could supervise him, not to make trouble with him.

suddenly felt that she had said everything.

07

At that time, losing my daughter had always been a concern for me.

I want another one.

But Li Bin is over 40 years old, and the quality of his sperm is not good, so it is difficult for me to get pregnant.

In 2018, I heard that private hospitals in Southeast Asia could do test-tube babies.

The conditions were good and the price was affordable. I was tempted and took Li Bin abroad for a checkup.

When Zhu Xiaolan found out, she directly scolded me for being stupid. My family didn’t have much money, and we had to have a second child. It wasn’t enough to raise a son. How do you say

? At that time, it had become a habit for me to listen to her on everything, but my daughter was really my only opponent.

I said, sister, don’t stop me about my daughter. This is my pet peeve.

Zhu Xiaolan scolded me so much that I was mentally ill and couldn’t think straight. I was so angry that I went home and lost my temper with my husband and son.

Li Bin said to me, you are just taking it out on us. If you can, send it to Zhu Xiaolan.

I said, I really offended her, you don’t need to stop doing business!

Li Bin said disdainfully, I don’t want to have a second child anymore, I have enough ability to raise a son. There is no need for her to give you food.

I almost screamed, no, I have to get another one!

08

Sometimes I have to admit that in the adult world, it is difficult to simply talk about feelings.

Zhu Xiaolan’s self-expansion of ability and mentality, my attachment to her in my heart and life, and various factors intertwined together, making it difficult for us to return to the pressure-free friendship we had before.

In 2018, Li Bin and I spent a lot of money and energy on recuperating our bodies.

At 10 months, the hormone level finally met the standards for in vitro fertilization.

We have booked flights to Phnom Penh and are preparing to leave.

But Zhu Xiaolan’s mother suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and was hospitalized.

I postponed my flight and went to visit and stay with her every day. Sometimes Zhu Xiaolan is busy with work and can't take care of her, so I go there by myself.

Clean the stool, change diapers, wipe the body, and massage. To be honest, I have never served my parents and in-laws like this when they were hospitalized.

Her family members say that we are sisters who are not related by blood.

It’s a pity that her mother couldn’t survive in the end.

I looked at such a strong person like Zhu Xiaolan, and suddenly I became depressed and canceled my appointment at the hospital.

Although it was the opportunity that I had been looking forward to for more than a year to go abroad for IVF, Zhu Xiaolan was my best friend after all.

She encouraged me and pulled me up when I was in my most difficult time. How could I leave her when she was most sad.

09

I canceled my air ticket to accompany Zhu Xiaolan and arrange the funeral.

I keep telling myself that this is what I should do for my best friends.

But when I am alone, I still feel a dull pain in my heart.

That year, I was 38 and Li Bin was 44. It is too difficult to wait for such an opportunity again.

However, God may have pity on my kindness. In the second month, I actually conceived naturally.

is a daughter, born in 19 years.

When I held her for the first time, I was ecstatic that I had finally healed the pain of losing my eldest daughter.

But there is always someone who reminds me from time to time that your life is terrible.

She is Zhu Xiaolan.

Zhu Xiaolan always told me how unmotivated Li Bin was, and if he didn’t work hard, the mud wouldn’t stick to the wall.

She also said that my daughter is ugly and has not inherited our advantages. She will need plastic surgery when she grows up.

As my son grew up and entered junior high school, she began to say that my son was not good at this and that was not good at that. She always used my son's shortcomings to compare her son's advantages.

She often says that my son is the shortest in the class. I signed my daughter up for a modeling class, but she said the models were all tall, so why should I join in the fun?

At that time, I was extremely anxious after what she said. When I got home, I scolded my children and my husband for not living up to expectations, which made the whole situation a huge fuss.

is really worse than death.

Zhu Xiaolan came to comfort me again and said, it’s not worth it. A family must value harmony.

10

Of course, the most important thing is that Zhu Xiaolan still dislikes me.

She doesn’t like anything about me.

She feels wrong with all my decisions.

She said all my choices were wrong. The clothes you wear are wrong, the way you talk to people is wrong, and the way you educate your children is wrong.

I began to doubt myself and felt that even my life was a mistake.

Everything he said to her had to be carefully considered, lest he say the wrong thing and draw criticism from her again. There is an illusion that accompanying you is like accompanying a tiger.

I was living a very depressed life at that time, almost depressed, and wanted to stay away from her.

But after so many years, it is said that staying away means staying away.

No matter what she says, I have to listen and recognize it.

Sometimes, I ask myself, are Zhu Xiaolan and I still best friends?

Li Bin said I was too stupid.

He said that real best friends are not like this. She hates you every day for having it and laughs at you for not having it. Why can’t you see through it?

I can’t say.

Over the years, I have been thinking about my old relationship, and I am grateful for her help to my family. I have never thought about what kind of role I am in her eyes.

Li Bin said that friends are equal. Do you feel you are equal to her?

I am speechless.

11

The year will be 2021.

html On the weekend of March, Zhu Xiaolan invited me to her house for dinner.

I had something to do that day, so I asked my son to go there first, and I didn’t arrive until noon.

Zhu Xiaolan and her two children ate first.

As soon as I walked in, she asked me with a dark face, "Do you feel comfortable eating ready-made food?"

I was a little confused, thinking she was joking.

I smiled and said, well, it’s quite comfortable. Didn’t I cook the meal last time? This time it's your turn.

Then she exploded and scolded me in front of the two children.

Trash, useless, nothing ugly, nothing to scold.

The scene was extremely collapsed.

The two children, one 15 and one 14, are not too young. No matter how bad I am, you can't say that to me in front of my son.

My son and I were so angry at her that we cried.

After returning home in the afternoon, I realized that maybe she and I really weren’t the best friends people often say.

At least, she wasn't to me.

She never cares about my feelings, she only cares about her own comfort. Maybe I am the best place for her to release her stress.

When I am with her, I have to be on tenterhooks all day long. I have to answer her call immediately and reply to her message instantly.

She said that my husband and children are not good, so I must change them according to her words, otherwise it is my fault.

She clearly knows how important my second child is to me, but she still insists on telling me from time to time that I shouldn’t have a second child, and if I don’t have money to support it, I am harming the child...

I really can’t stand it!

12

From that day on, I began to slowly alienate Zhu Xiaolan and try to meet her as little as possible.

I rarely see her, but she still sends me messages.

The anxious aura exuding from her still tortures me.

In 2022, the company's personnel changed, and Zhu Xiaolan stepped down from the key position.

She will have more time to chat with me.

The topic always brings up my husband, son and daughter, saying that there is something wrong with them. Then teach me how to tame a husband and take care of children.

To be honest, I really saw it through. I gradually no longer wanted to listen to Zhu Xiaolan's "teachings".

Actually, it was not very good for my son to start studying. But in the past two years, I have grown up, become serious about studying, and my grades have improved by leaps and bounds. I am very satisfied.

As for Li Bin, I actually prefer him when he is not so motivated. Can't he choose to live a more relaxed life? Isn't it possible for Li Bin to just want to be a man whose wife and children love each other?

Being a little rich is also a kind of happiness.

As for my daughter. She is only 3 years old, is there any need to worry about her appearance early?

Let her grow up happily and confidently, and find her own beauty?

Perhaps as Li Bin said, Zhu Xiaolan does not want me and my family to become better.

She just wanted to tell me that my life was not good enough. It is really a pity that Zhu Xiaolan and I cannot understand each other.

Just last weekend, on the recommendation of a friend, I followed Xiaoqian’s official account.

For a whole day, I read nearly a hundred stories.

In various stories, I read a word called PUA.

Many scumbag men use PUA to make women unable to live without them.

And I seem to see the shadow of Zhu Xiaolan.

She is a woman who has worked hard from nothing, and is more afraid of losing than anyone else.

Maybe she is used to using blows against me to hold on to this friendship so that I can never leave her.

At 5 o’clock that night, I switched back to my personal account from my work account and saw the message sent by Zhu Xiaolan on WeChat.

My heart is still shaking subconsciously.

I really have too much psychological inertia towards her. Even if I figure out the problem clearly, I can't get rid of it all at once.

I replied, sister, I just saw you talking.

As expected, Zhu Xiaolan started scolding.

In her eyes, I alienated her because she stepped down from her high position. She angrily called me ungrateful!

I don’t know how to explain it to her, or even how to reply.

I especially want to tell her that I value the relationship between us, but I just can’t bear the way she holds back our friendship.

In fact, the sun does not go down suddenly, nor does the heart become cold all of a sudden.

Many relationships that we thought were good fell apart over time.

I think I will always remember that in the most difficult years, Zhu Xiaolan and I treated each other with the utmost care.

But our relationship is unhealthy. It is better to tear than to accept. Accepting separation is the normal state of life.

From then on, everyone has his own ferry and everyone has his own boat.

PS Xiaoqian said: The picture below is the heroine’s narration. In fact, the relationship of friendship cannot be broken off easily. The heroine should realize that this relationship between best friends has already deteriorated, and she must either change it together or stay away.