I am 30 years old and have a full-fledged house given to me by my parents. I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 years. Now I am pregnant, and my boyfriend asked me to add his name on the real estate certificate.
01 My love with my poor boyfriend
After graduating from university, I went back to my hometown and worked as an English teacher in a training institution for about 10,000 yuan a month. The boyfriend works in a private company and costs 6,000 yuan a month.
We met during an offline blind date event. The two people have a lot of common interests and hobbies, and then they got together naturally.
The boyfriend's family background is average. He also has a younger brother. When his younger brother is in college, his boyfriend also uses part of his salary to subsidize his younger brother's tuition and living expenses every year.
And I am the only daughter in my family, and my parents bought me a house in the city center early on. Of course, I bought it early, and the full price of the 120 square meter house was 700,000 yuan. Now it has tripled.
Many people ask me why I haven’t gotten married after talking for so long. When I first fell in love, everyone was busy with their careers, so they didn’t want to get married. Secondly, my boyfriend’s conditions were so bad that my parents never allowed me. Finally, my boyfriend was really nice to me and tolerated my little ones. Temper, I can't bear to leave him.
02 After pregnancy, her boyfriend promised to marry me
Just like that, we have passed seven years without knowing it. During this period, my parents have been persuading me: "He is so diligent now, it may not be anymore after marriage. Besides, he still has nothing, what does he take to marry you? Daughter, don't be so stupid."
But me I didn't listen at all, as long as he treats me well, I also believe that he will try to marry me.
But one day, I found out that I was pregnant. After my parents found out, they just sighed helplessly: "Hey, get married now. What else can I do?" I informed my boyfriend with some small surprises, and he said without hesitation: "I will discuss with my family. Come to my house as soon as possible.”
My boyfriend’s attitude comforted me, and then I also asked him: “Your family’s conditions are not good. Everything is fine for the wedding, I don’t care.” The boyfriend also said moved, “Don’t worry. ,I won't let you feel wronged, I want to marry you in gracefully. _P1p
03 My boyfriend asked the house to add his name
I waited with great expectation for my boyfriend's reply. The next day, my boyfriend said to me, "Our family can make up 350,000 gift money," I was surprised: "This is the savings of your whole family. It doesn't need to be so much, just tens of thousands. "_P1p
The boyfriend went on to say: "The bride price is 350,000, but our family has a small request. The wedding room will temporarily use the one you live in now, and my name must be added. _P1p
I looked at my boyfriend in surprise, but patiently explained: "The house belongs to my parents. Your 350,000 down payment can be a small set, and we can repay the loan together. "_P1p
But her boyfriend shook his head: "My brother will get married in the future, and the family needs money. It is impossible for me to borrow money to buy a house now, and I will have to leave a part of my salary as a subsidy to my family. Now, don't you live alone in your house? Isn't it good to use it as a wedding room? _P1p
When I heard that I would not add his name on the real estate certificate, my boyfriend said, "There is no way. Your house is still a wedding room. We can only pay 18888 yuan for the gift. "_P1p
04 The man refused to give in, and I was angry and returned to my natal family
I went back to my natal family angrily, and my parents quickly said to me, "His family must buy a new house. They don’t even have any sincerity. Marry me." The past will not be happy. _P1p
But her boyfriend's attitude is also very firm: "You are all pregnant now, and if you don't get married, the children will come out." I always said to give 350,000 gifts, you add my name, it is also a kind of guarantee for me, and I don't plan your house. Or, just give it a try. Of course, it is impossible for me to take a loan to buy a new house. Anyway, your family's conditions are good, why do you care about it? "_P1p
After listening to my boyfriend, I was very sad. Obviously, my boyfriend’s family recognized my unmarried first pregnancy, and when I was over 30, they had their own little abacus for getting married.
Now, The two families are in a stalemate. My boyfriend blames me for not trusting him. My parents advised me to get rid of the child early and start again. I also hesitated, what should I do?
05 Octave has something to say
I heard your story ,I feel sorry for you, you guard love, but in the end you are hurt by love. I have a few words in my heart that I want to say to you:
1. Although the house is yours, it costs your parents' money, and it must not be distributed to your boyfriend.
This house is your pre-marital property and the best guarantee for your future life. Even if you get married in the future, at least you will have some support and will not end up homeless. Therefore, no matter what the situation is, this house can't let others get involved.
2. Your boyfriend is obviously ill-intentioned. You have to evaluate the value of this relationship.
The man's family can make up 350,000, so there is no problem with borrowing to buy a small house. But obviously, their goal is your house.
They don't want to take on debts, but they want to make some profit, and they don't want to suffer. Why are they so emboldened, because I feel like I'm overwhelmed. He has been in love for 7 years and became pregnant after unmarried. The man thinks he can marry you at a low price.
3. Stop loss after marriage is not as good as short-term pain before marriage.
I always think that a marriage that is awkward because of "money" before marriage will have many hidden dangers after marriage. There are many such examples around me, and the ending is not very good. It's not too late at 30, at least still unmarried. After you become "divorced", it will be really difficult to start again.
What do you think about this? What wonderful things, regrets, and happiness did you encounter when you got married? Welcome to share in the comment area.
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