Today, have you "learned"?
This summer, 30+ women have been on fire. Before
, there are 30+ female stars who brave the wind and waves, and later there is "Thirty Only". This TV series focusing on three 30-year-old women is so popular.
and the "Gu Xue" at the beginning is from Gu Jia, who is called the "perfect wife" in the play.
30 years old, full-time mother, cute and cute son, husband has a small career, and the family moved into the famous and wealthy district of Shanghai Grand Hyatt.
is put in real life, Gu Jia, who has these labels, has long been the envy of everyone. Even the 30-year-old girlfriend Zhong Xiaoqin, who lives in a "shared-rental" married life in the play, is envious.
Because this full-time mother is so omnipotent that she is embarrassed and embarrassed.
Highly educated, high IQ, and good appearance are the basic standard equipment, speak fluent English, make beautiful and delicate cakes, and handle all things at home and abroad in an orderly manner.
She has a goal, a brain, and a strong ability to act.
My own company, on the surface, is managed solely by my husband, but in fact, without her, strategizing, "intervene and save the field" in time when a crisis occurs, it may not necessarily turn the crisis into peace and thrive.
Apart from the relief of the crisis, it can quietly deal with the unruly female employees.
looks like an outsider in his own company, but in fact he is the real "pillar" of the whole family.
For the sake of her son, she can "soft" carry shoes for Kotai, and "hard" can beat women who bully her son. Able to bend and stretch, be courageous and strategic, and be upright, kind and principled.
I am also a full-time mother. Like everyone, I am full of admiration.
couldn't help but compliment this sentence: "Gu Jia perfectly interpreted what it means to go to the kitchen and go to the hall", and nodded sharply.
But until now, the husband’s cheating, Gu Jia’s divorce, the company is almost bankrupt... Strange, when you reach the new peak of your life.
I suddenly realized that we really want to be Gu Jia, such a "perfect mother" and "perfect wife"?
is not necessarily true.
Just looking at this "time management master"-level calendar, you have to take a breath.
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"Gu Jia" desperately, for the baby for the family The place must be this fight.
rushed to the home of his son’s classmates and found that his son was maliciously targeted.
Gu Jia, who heard his son's cry, patiently comforted his son, throwing a piece of bread, picking his watch, and shaking his high heels. Apart from anything else, he pulled the two women into the room and beat him violently.
gave his son a sigh of relief with a one-to-two momentum.
not only refreshed everyone's understanding of mothers, even we, who were mothers, shouted out in our hearts, cool.
The camera turned, holding the sleeping son and staggering on the dark road, we only saw the weakness of a mother who was decent and strong.
As she said: “On the day of her confinement, she felt that Gu Jia was dead, and it was Xu Ziyan’s mother who survived.”
"I am thirty years old and hit someone for the first time. Because there are more precious things and people who want to protect than decent."
Yes, for the sake of their children, almost all mothers in the world can fight desperately against everything.
Wanted to give his son the best education and give him the best starting point, Gu Jia persuaded her husband to bite his teeth and buy a mansion in Grand Hyatt Shanghai, a set of 20 million.
In order for my son to go to the best aristocratic kindergarten just like the children in this building, it is really a twists and turns.
Carefully prepared for the interview. The initial test was not good. I went to court Mrs. Wang, the honorary school manager on the top floor, to send cakes, repair the telescope, and guide the purchase of asteroids... just for a letter of recommendation.
In exchange for Mrs. Wang’s disdain and arrogance, she did not give up. After the elevator broke down, she deliberately ran up to the top floor, helped Mrs. Wang downstairs, and exchanged her shoes for herself. Go down the 20th floor barefoot.
Just a small letter of recommendation, let Gu Jia put down her pride and go to please an ignorant wife in every way.
Apart from admiring, I feel more empathetic, because in the education of children, we have done the same. We did our best to get numbers all night and buy school district housing...
This is just the beginning.
On the first day of school, I have to hurry home and make cakes for more than a dozen children quickly. On the school party day, Gu Jia is responsible for all the desserts.
Her husband’s company encountered difficult customers, and she not only had to appease, but also went to a feast alone.
Your girlfriend has something wrong, you can also be on call. A female employee in the company tried to seduce her husband. She could detect the clue only by an orange, and finally let her "actively" leave.
In order to develop the company's business, "wholeheartedly" entered the circle of rich wives, relying on wit and keen insight, won several big orders for the company.
There is nothing bad or impossible for Gu Jia like this. He is simply "invincible".
02
The imperfection of "Gu Jia" is that she is too perfect.
To be honest, the hot discussion and pursuit of "Gu Xue" made me faintly worried.
When a mother really becomes a Superman, what about the father?
Many people said that in front of Gu Jia, her husband was very weak and he didn't know what to do. He was a scumbag of the century.
It is undeniable that slag is real slag.
But on the other hand, he is not useless. He is a talented artist. He once loved his wife, loved his family, and worked hard for his children.
But gradually, under Gu Jia’s plump wings, he doesn’t hear things outside the window and is accustomed to "willingly" going away from customers. Gu Jialai is a little childish when encountering things, facing other women’s look up and taste. To a little bit of sweetness, there is nothing to extricate...
When Gu Jia took over and worked hard to get everything done and hold up a safe haven, he I was complaining and blaming, and I felt that everything was easy, and I realized it.
But I don’t know how much effort and effort the wife has made behind her back.
At the same time, Gu Jia also lost herself.
As the name suggests, Gujia, she gives everything for the family and the children.
became Xu Ziyan’s mother. She willingly returned to the family and became a full-time mother. She said, “I often wonder when he can grow up quickly, eat alone, sleep alone, and manage Good his own emotions can give me back.
But in fact, I cannot do without him. You will be weaker than ever, because you want this world to be more tolerant to your children. You have to be stronger than ever. Whether it’s wronged or seeking peace by force, you don’t want any harm to fall on your child."
"You will not be able to beat the fitness because you Fear of illness, more fear of death. Then there is effort, because you have to catch up with the speed of the baby's broken banknotes."
is such a perfect and hard-working woman. It is worthwhile, but it is distressing.
in exchange for "perfect" "Prefix tag, for most women, especially full-time mothers, is it not a new kind of kidnapping?
We often say that women should be independent and can do everything by themselves without relying on others.
Before, some people compiled a set of standards for being a mother in the new era:
can go to the market and can step into the classroom;
made a cake and taught the Mathematical Olympiad;
knows how to play chess, I will also get calligraphy and painting;
I searched for the strategy and found the attractions;
I can carry my luggage, I can take the photos;
I want to be creative, and I have the activity...
This is the mother of the "capable", and it is the perfect correspondence we found in the "Gu Jia".
But, put it another way, take care of everything, the growth of the child and the life of the husband , The operation of the family, is the "independent" women we really pursue?
No, no!
We should hope that women's "can", not the omnipotence to the family and husband , Not to do everything for him and arrange everything.
is the omnipotence of "self".
Even if you become a mother, you have your own clear goals, find your own life happiness and value, and know how to manage yourself Happiness.
I like the dance, I want to learn it; I want to travel, work hard to create conditions to achieve it; I want to be romantic, even if I’m 50 years old, I’ll have a spoiled relationship with my husband...
Don’t run to the "perfect wife", and don’t be ashamed of not being able to do it. This is a huge pit.
is in your overwhelmed "Almighty Gu Jia" When surrounded by "Gu Xue", you will suddenly find that you don’t seem to be qualified to be a housewife.
Just imagine, if a "wife’s role norm" becomes society, family, and even self-seeking That’s terrible.
This society is not friendly enough to women over 30, and the requirements for mothers are high enough.
Housework, workplace work, which one does not require all efforts Go ahead, gritted your teeth, who is not a commendable full-time independent woman.
| A mother, with her children, went out to work. Who can put it down?
Why use a "perfect wife" role, kidnapped by the society again, and then kidnapped by myself.
In this world, you need to take care of yourself the most. This is not selfishness, it is the foundation of everything.
Learn to love yourself to love others better.
I hope you and the mothers will always remember this.
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