He warmed everyone, but in the end no one could warm him.
7 days ago, Haruma Miura committed suicide in his apartment.
The sudden death of this popular actor has shocked and sorrowed the world. You can't connect this gentle big boy who has infinite light and is always considerate of others with cold suicide.
After Miura Haruma passed away, everyone learned about his unknowing pain and gloom: about his complicated native family and the family that kept asking him. And the overloaded workload that ordinary people cannot bear.
He grew up in the Japanese gentle culture of "Don’t bother others and treat others warmly everywhere". At the cost of suppressing all his negative emotions, he eventually exhausted everything he had to warm everyone, but no one could warm him. .
01 The original family is complicated and the mother-child relationship broke down
In the week after Miura Haruma (hereinafter referred to as "Haruma") passed away, the Japanese police launched an investigation and found his family’s notebook It says "I want to die."
Although his real motive for suicide has not been ascertained so far, the police have launched a detailed investigation into the native family of Haruma Miura. Everyone knows that the native family of this sunny warm boy is so complicated:
Haruma's hometown is in Ibaraki, and he has experienced his parents' divorce since he was a child and then lived with his mother.
(Haruma has loved dogs since he was a child)
When he was 4 years old, his mother sent him to the local children’s theater troupe "Actors Studio Tsukuba School" to go to school. High hopes are placed on the road to performing arts. Haruma did not disappoint his mother. He showed his talent as an actor very early. At the age of 7, he appeared in the NHK morning drama "A Li" and was hailed as a "gifted child star".
Mother loves Haruma very much, and Haruma has become a particularly gentle child under the care of her mother, and is especially filial to her mother.
My mother worked in a custom shop in Ibaraki, and remarried a male publicist when Haruma was in middle school. After remarrying, his mother quit her job in the custom shop and ran a small restaurant locally with her stepfather.
However, her mother divorced her stepfather three years ago. She left Ibaraki and went to Tokyo to join her son. Haruma specially purchased a high-end apartment for her mother as her residence, while she lives in a simple apartment built in the 1990s with a monthly rent of only 180,000.
According to the Weekly New Trends report, at this time, the unemployed mother began to ask Haruma for money. Haruma feared that her mother would be financially intemperate and would be easily deceived. Therefore, her mother's unreasonable demands were not met every time.
In fact, in addition to his mother, Haruma has always been the breadwinner of the family during his lifetime. He always unconditionally provided financial assistance to his biological father, stepfather and other relatives, even the house loan was all repaid by him Yes, he did this just to prevent the family from becoming disorganized.
Two years ago, his biological father was seriously ill. Haruma reunited with his biological father more than 20 years ago. Taking this as an opportunity, after the biological father was discharged from the hospital, the chances of the two fathers and sons having a meal together increased.
(Haruma's previous life plan)
Haruma was already eager to retreat and return to the garden, but unfortunately his mother, who was once regarded as a "spiritual pillar", strongly opposed him This idea is very strong and requires him to continue to make money as an actor. As a result, the relationship between Haruma and his mother has taken a turn for the worse.
At this moment, Haruma continued to use alcohol to relieve his sorrows, and even showed signs of alcoholism. He accumulated too much distress and worry in his heart. But he didn’t show it, only a few of his very close friends knew about it, but Haruma always didn’t want to cause trouble to his friends.Say "I'm fine, don't worry about me." After many friends have dinner, they always see Haruma walking into the bar alone, drinking alone, enduring and avoiding.
And this year, Haruma has no contact with his mother at all, and is almost cut off.
02 Overloaded workload, the dilemma of perfectionism
After Haruma's death, there are as many as 8 of his various works to be released, filmed and unannounced.
He made movies, TV shows, musicals, and recorded singles at the same time. In addition, there are various CMs. The schedule is always full by Amuse. This is also the current situation of his work over the years.
Haruma won the “Best Newcomer Award” at the Japan Film Academy Awards in 2007 for his "Love in the Sky". At only 17 years old, he was regarded by the firm as a jewel in the palm for key training. The way is unlimited.
Anyone who has seen Haruma's works can feel that he is very serious, sensual and delicate in handling the characters. He once lost more than 10 kilograms of weight for a certain character, and he was a perfectionist who completely pushed himself into desperation.
Therefore, Haruma's works are not only popular in Asia, but also well received in the United States and France.
Unfortunately, the office has always arranged for him a series of appointments. The state of the previous role has not been completely removed. Haruma is about to face the next new role immediately, and he cannot rest. , Adjust your own state.
In fact, Haruma had the idea of retiring as early as 19 years old. At that time, he starred in "Samurai High School", unable to remember the lines due to various pressures, and was forced into a mental dilemma. He longed to return to his hometown of Ibaraki, and wanted to be an ordinary person, do some farm work, and lead an ordinary life. Unfortunately, with the persuasion of his family and office, he could only give up.
Even if he planned to study in the UK for half a year in 2017, he was opposed by the firm. The firm believed that "he was just wasting time" and only spent the best of life. After two months of freedom and freedom, Haruma returned to Japan from the UK to continue working day and night.
On the day of his suicide, the office found that he did not come to the work site according to the agreed time, so he went to his apartment. Although Haruma still had a weak heartbeat when the paramedics arrived at the scene, it was a pity that everything was too late late.
(the obituary of the firm)
Afterwards, the firm was criticized by everyone, because the agency’s agent had always been on standby at the artist’s residence half an hour earlier, rarely Like Haruma, let artists with extremely high popularity come to the work site alone.
03 Everyone must be gentle, but the premise is to suppress oneself
In Japan, suicide is a reality that cannot be ignored. During the economic bubble of the last century, the number of suicides began to surge, and now 30,000 people commit suicide every year.
Although the number of suicides in Japan in 2019 was the lowest since statistics, compared with other countries, the number is still high, especially the suicide rate among teenagers.
According to statistics from the Ministry of Health and Welfare, in 2019 alone, about 20,000 people committed suicide in Japan, and about 5,200 people under the age of 30 committed suicide.
The reason why a person commits suicide is actually very complicated. In addition to the problems of health, economy, and native family, there is also Japan's gentle culture-don't bother others, be a person who can bring others warmth, but the premise is to suppress yourself and eventually exhaust yourself.
Gentle culture allows Haruma Miura to grow into a very responsible, disciplined, delicate and sensitive person. Before his death, he entrusted his seniors to take good care of Ryo Yoshizawa in the same office:
Anyone who has interacted with him will praise him as a "polite, very considerate and gentle" person. He takes care of the emotions of the staff at work and is extremely sincere in communicating with fans. , There is absolutely no scandal.
Following Haruma’s wishes during his lifetime, after his new single "Night Diver" was released on August 26, a part of the single proceeds will be donated to his annual participation in "Act Against AIDS" "Supported Children's Hospital.
is as gentle and beautiful as him, so his suicide also made some young people feel helpless, and even bravely said a word hidden in their hearts:
Successful people like him committed suicide. What's the point of being alive? Such discourses are everywhere on Chinese-Japanese social platforms.
Coupled with the impact of the new crown epidemic, the more people fall into loss and despair.
(friend Yu Shirota shed tears on LIVE)
In order to protect more lives and maintain the dignity of the deceased, the Japanese Ministry of Health, Welfare and Welfare urged the media not to report suicide Introduce suicide methods and locations in detail, and should not make sensational descriptions and performances, so as to avoid imitating more suicides.
Society requires us to be positive and gentle people. Any trace of negative energy revealed will be regarded as wrong and irresponsible. For a long time, the repression of individuals is naturally incalculable. Therefore, we should face up to the positive and negative energies and continue to live well.
(20-year-old Haruma writes to his 30-year-old self)
"I took the name of Chun Ma, because he was born in the spring of the year of the horse, so I hope he can Become a child who runs free and vigorous on the grassland."-Relatives of his biological father's family.
Finally, I sincerely hope that Haruma can live happily and freely in another world.
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