According to the "Eight Precepts Saying Zen": "Although there are ten thousand family wealth but no greed, and although there are groups of wives and concubines, there is no lust. This is the real bodhisattva behavior and the real way to Buddha."
in this paragraph In the record, the idiom "wife concubines in groups" is mentioned, which means that it is used to describe the large number of wives and concubines of men.
Presumably what every reader knows is that in ancient my country, we did not pay attention to the monogamous marriage system. Therefore, as long as there were skills, three wives and four concubines were common, and there was even a high authority. , The wealthy family, the wives and concubines in the family.
However, in modern times, people pay attention to equality between men and women, and women's status is no longer so low. At the same time, they also advocate a monogamous marriage system, which is still in use today. However, in 2010, people unexpectedly discovered that there were still two wives!
What this article is about is the emotional entanglement between Liu Lili, Dong Linghu and Wang Mei.
1. The man and woman fell in love. The woman accidentally discovered that the man was married. After hearing the name Liu Lili, I believe many people are no strangers to this character. As the most appealing female director in Taiwan Province in the 1980s, has filmed dozens of hot movies and TV series in the past decades, and the works she created are very popular among TV audiences. At that time, Liu Lili also had a special title-"Godmother of Qiong Yao Opera".
When Liu Lili was thirty-seven years old, she began trying to shoot Qiong Yao's movies. Due to her outstanding ability and close relationship with Qiong Yao, Liu Lili became the queen director of Qiong Yao. The works created after the two people collaborated have also aroused a lot of repercussions among the public and won unanimous praise from a large number of audiences.
But in Liu Lili's life, in addition to these achievements in the film and television industry, the most talked about is the love story between her and the director Dong Jinhu.
When Liu Lili was in school, she was not only talented, but she also looked extraordinary. A beautiful woman like this is naturally sought after by people, so she can be regarded as the school's number one "man of the wind" during her studies. Among Liu Lili's suitors, Dong Linghu was included.
At first, Liu Lili did not favor Dong Linghu. It was not until the two worked together after graduation that Liu Lili discovered that Dong Linghu was different from most men she knew. Dong Linghu was always able to take good care of other people in the details, and this also made Liu Lili, who was more careless, feel good. After a long time of contact, Liu Lili developed a special feeling for Dong Linghu.
However, when the two were in love, Liu Lili accidentally discovered a shocking truth. It turned out that Dong Linghu was a married man! For Liu Lili, who loves Dong Linghu but is unwilling to destroy other people's families, the truth makes her unacceptable.
Just when Liu Lili didn't know what to do, Dong Linghu's wife Wang Mei also learned of their relationship, so Liu Lili plucked up the courage to meet Wang Mei. At that time, Liu Lili constantly apologized because of guilt, and Wang Mei knew that she didn't mean it and didn't blame it too much. However, she felt helpless with Dong Linghu. In order not to destroy the family, Wang Mei had to live it away.
The relationship between the three was very awkward at the time, and they didn't know how to deal with each other. It was not until one thing happened that the awkward situation was finally broken.
2. Liu Lili moved Wang Meicheng into the home of three people and chose to sterilize the family in order not to affect the relationship. Under the circumstances, Dong Linghu and his wife who could not get out had no choice but to call Liu Lili for help.
After learning the whole story, Liu Lili immediately set off to take the child to the hospital for treatment, while Wang Mei rushed to the hospital as soon as she had time. After arriving at the hospital, she was surprised that Liu Lili treated their children as if they were his own. Not only did he sell some of his belongings in order to advance the cost of treatment, but he also took care of the child for three consecutive days with great care!
Such behavior of Liu Lili deeply moved Wang Mei. After thinking about it, she took Liu Lili into the family to form a family of two wives. The two of them managed the family inside and outside, and Liu Lili also took the initiative to protect herself Wang Mei's income was all taken care of by Wang Mei, and they have been living in harmony since then.
Later, Wang Mei gave birth to two more children, and they both regarded Liu Lili as their mother, and Liu Lili treated the three children as if they were their own. However, Liu Lili unexpectedly discovered that he was also pregnant.
Wang Mei was also very happy about Liu Lili's pregnancy, but Liu Lili at the time was determined not to affect Wang Mei, so she chose abortion on her own, and finally underwent sterilization.
Judging from Liu Lili’s series of practices, we can see how much she cares about Wang Mei’s feelings. At the same time, we can see how much she cherishes the life of three people living in harmony. It is these emotions that make her have With such courage, he made up his mind to perform abortion and sterilization.
After learning about this, both Dong Linghu and Wang Mei were puzzled by Liu Lili's thoughts, because her children would not affect the relationship between the three, but it was done.
And because Liu Lili had no possibility of having children, she also poured her maternal love into Wang Mei's children, and those children also called her mother after feeling Liu Lili's care.
may seem to many people that it is difficult for a three-person couple like them to maintain harmony, but what is surprising is that their harmony has lasted for forty-five years! After a long time together, Wang Mei and Liu Lili also became indifferent to each other.
However, even if the three of them reconciled, Liu Lili is still more like a "concubine" in the true sense, because from the country’s marriage system, only monogamy is supported, so Liu Lili has no status, but in the end Wang Mei's decision changed things.
3. Liu Lili was ill in bed and Wang Mei made an amazing decision to make her perfect.
was in 2007 when Liu Lili was working in the crew, but fell down because of an accident. I thought it was due to work fatigue. What came to mind was that after an examination in the hospital, it was discovered that Liu Lili had the same disease as her mother-cerebellar atrophy.
As the condition worsened, Liu Lili was hospitalized in 2010 and completely lost the ability to take care of herself. At that time, Wang Mei took care of her in the hospital.
However, the hospital's treatment and Wang Mei's meticulous care did not improve his condition. The hospital even issued a critical illness notice several times. It was only then that Liu Lili remembered that he had no children and no status. She, no one can sign her critical illness notice. For Liu Lili, although this is the life she chose, it will inevitably be a little sad.
Wang Mei saw all of this, so she made a decision-divorce Dong Linghu. Wang Mei filed for divorce to allow Dong Linghu to marry Liu Lili and to have a place in Liu Lili's last life.
So, in October 2010, Liu Lili, who was in bed at the time, and Dong Linghu, who were 75 years old, held a simple wedding in the ward. At that time, Wang Mei’s children were also present to bless This marriage, , and for Liu Lili, it finally ushered in completion in the final stage of her life.
By 2015, Dong Linghu passed away due to heart and lung failure. Three years later, Liu Lili followed him, leaving Wang Mei alone. The marriage between them, which lasted for forty-five years, came to an end. Summary of
Nowadays, people often use the term "xiaosan" to describe those who intervene between husband and wife, but this term does not seem appropriate for Liu Lili. As the "third party" in Dong Linghu and Wang Mei's marriage life, Liu Lili did not destroy the family between them, but joined the family and got along very harmoniously afterwards.
For the three of them, living together is the result they think is appropriate, and as a resultThose who joined, Liu Lili also consciously lowered his posture, and tried not to change everything that Wang Mei originally had. Wang Mei knew Liu Lili's intentions, and in the end, she was also an adult and gave her a name.
A three-person relationship like this is subverting cognition for many people, and it is precisely because of this that people often say that the relationship in the world is the most inexplicable.
However, although this love story is indeed touching, it cannot be easily imitated. Its values are not promoted in today's society, so I hope people still maintain the concept of two people forming a small family. , If there is a third party, it is hard to guarantee that there will be no "war"!
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