A good habit, people will be immersed in it, and will receive a lot of praise and will benefit from this good habit for life. For example: go to bed early and get up early, exercise, and study for life.
On the contrary, a bad habit that people are attracted by will not only affect their own health, but also their quality of life. For example: addicted to the Internet and unable to stop.
Whether it is a good or a bad habit, it becomes dependent on what you do. If you don’t do it for a day, you will feel panic and itchy in your hands. That is “addiction”.
Many things are easy to addictive, such as: exercise addiction, reading addiction, drugs addiction, gaming addiction, social addiction... Unfortunately, good habits are difficult to addictive, while bad habits are extremely easy to addictive.
The best-selling book "Can't Stop" written by American author Adam Alter in 2018 is a book that comprehensively reveals and solves "behavior addiction", and science guides readers to "how to get rid of behavioral addiction in the era of screen sweeping".
The author said that in our lives, more than half of people will have symptoms of "addiction". Taking "Internet addiction" as an example, list 5 small self-test questions, readers will score their own scores, 0 to 5 points.
0 means never, 1 means very few, 2 means occasionally, 3 means repeated, 4 means frequent, and 5 means always. The more scores, the more serious the Internet addiction is.
We can test it ourselves to understand whether we have symptoms of addiction to the "network".
1. Have you found that you have been online for longer than you expected?
2. Have other people in your life complained about your online time?
3. Do you have to check your email if you have something to do?
4. Are you sleepless all day because of deep internet access?
5. Do you find that you like to say, "How many minutes will I go?" If I asked me to answer these 5 questions from
, I will definitely have a much higher score than I am now.
At that time, when I opened my eyes in the morning, I must turn on my phone; when I was sitting on the toilet, I must hold my phone in my hand; when I walked, I also looked at my phone when I was eating; before going to bed, I must hold my phone until the early morning...
At that time, when I browsed videos and circle of friends, I just had my fingers slipped, and it would be gone for more than an hour; once Taobao was opened, I couldn't come out for two hours; if I was chasing, I couldn't get out for more than two hours; The drama is even more exaggerated. If you don’t finish watching a TV series, you won’t be able to rest on your phone…
At that time, the mobile phone and the Internet were filled with every gap in my spare time. The various information on the Internet always affected my life. I was busy every day, and I didn’t turn the clock and didn’t sleep. I couldn’t get up again when the alarm clock rang in the morning…
I recalled through “Can’t Stop” that I had serious symptoms of “Internet addiction” at that time.
On the Internet, you will see a lot of new things every day, and it seems that it is really achievable that "a scholar can know the world if he doesn't go out."
When watching videos, she smiled like a madman, and when watching TV shows, she cried like a fool, and her life seemed colorful, but she was always groggy and couldn't cheer up many "offline" things. I don't like the days when I can't live without my mobile phone and the Internet. I tried my best to change the situation where I could not stop with my mobile phone and the Internet.
So I chose to read.
When I first started reading, I always read a few pages of books, so I picked up my phone to read and brush it. As soon as the phone rang, no matter whether it was a message or a phone call, I would put down my book and pick up my phone, for fear of missing any important work and schedule.
In order not to let the phone affect reading, I tried to turn the phone into silent mode when reading, put the phone outside my sight, and tell myself "Don't take the phone, wait until I finish reading the book before going to read the phone."
After deliberate practice, slowly, the mobile phone will no longer be the invisible person who dominates my spare time.
Want to quit what is already "addiction", the book gives many methods - changing the city of life, changing the existing house, choosing a new job...
Compared with those big changes, I prefer Fan Deng when talking about "I can't stop": "Change the language method" first.
Change "I can't play mobile phone", "I can't play games", etc. to "I don't play mobile phone" and "I don't play games"; change "I can't" to "No", and there will be a big change.
When we say "can't", we feel that we are controlled by others, and it seems that others dominate us. When we say "I don't", we are the masters, suggesting that we can make decisions on our own will bring a huge change to our habits.
in the era of screen sweeping, we can try to start by changing the language method, quit some of our "behavioral addiction" and make us a better selves.
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