On October 1, physicist Yang Zhenning celebrated his 100th birthday. Yang Zhenning in the photo has gray hair, but she is still energetic and healthy.

htmlOn October 1, physicist Yang Zhenning celebrated his 100th birthday. Yang Zhenning in the photo has gray hair, but still has abundant energy and good health.

In addition to needing the support of his wife Weng Fan when walking, he looks very good both in spirit and appearance.

This state is really rare for centenarians who often do research.

However, Yang Zhenning's past century has not been peaceful.

There are two things that have always been controversial.

One is the quantum collider called the last battle.

This should have been heard of, and the reason why Yang Zhenning opposes is very simple.

things cost money, not many Chinese scientists can use them, and there are very few places to use them at this stage of research.

It is easy to make wedding dresses for Westerners in the end.

The reason for opposing Yang Zhenning’s views is also very direct. How can you know it’s useless if you don’t create it? What projects do you need to spend money on research?

Another thing is his marriage to Weng Fan, who is 54 years younger than him.

From 2004, 82-year-old Yang Zhenning married 28-year-old Weng Fan. This "year-old love" has been in its 18th year since this year.

Weng Fan also spent the best years in a woman's life from the age of 28 to 46.

Eighteenth bride, Eighthsouro, takes his beautiful wife to do scientific research.

Technology or hard work? It's the most asked question.

The scientific community may be difficult to tell right or wrong in a short period of time.

But in recent years, the love story about Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan has gone from the original "I am greedy for beauty, and the young wife is greedy for fame and fortune", "both sides are just taking their own needs, what love can they have?"

To now, when I think back, I am full of understanding.

Changes in the popularity comments stem from some subtle things.

For example, regarding remarriage, Yang Zhenning once bluntly said:

"After my wife passed away, I was very afraid of the loneliness of an elderly person. So when people asked me, I answered honestly that if I had not met Weng Fan, I would still remarry."

And Weng Fan's view of this love is, "I just chose a path with few people."

Another example, before marrying Yang Zhenning, Weng Fan liked to drink coffee and often stayed up late.

But after marriage, she cooperated with his habits, went to bed early and got up early, and had regular schedules.

From the industry insiders, they also gave official evaluations - physicist Ge Molin said: "Some of the peers who were mean in the past have a high evaluation of Weng Fan."

is familiar with it and not mentioned much. Most of the media should have written all these stories.

In summary, marriage is like water, and you will know the warmth and coldness.

Is the marriage good or not in others' mouths, but in your own heart.

More bluntly said: Go your own way and let others say it.

Indeed, compared with those couples in the entertainment industry and life who are of the same age but live in the same bed and dreams, who is qualified to accuse Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan?

But looking back a hundred years later, I personally feel that their marriage is not only sober and not regretful, but also has a more advanced transparency.

Sober can only make timely choices, and only by becoming transparent can you take the path of choice.

List several things that were more profound in my mind:

One thing is the process of Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning getting to know each other.

That was in 1995, Shantou University was preparing for the first World Chinese Physics Conference. Weng Fan, who was a freshman, was responsible for receiving Yang Zhenning and his long-term wife Du Zhili .

Because they have a particularly good impression of each other, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning have maintained letter exchanges for many years since then.

During that time, Yang Zhenning and Li Zhengdao studied physics with Li Zhengdao, while Du Zhili worked as a Chinese teacher at the State University of New York, Shixi, and raised three children.

, Weng Fan has been working in Shenzhen, and during this period, he completed the marriage procedures with employees of an ordinary company in Hong Kong in Hong Kong.

However, the few people who should have been happy again due to accidents.

In 2003, Yang Zhenning's wife Du Zhili passed away, and at this time, Weng Fan had just ended her failed marriage.

So the two people who also experienced the loss of love made an appointment to travel to Beihai .

After the journey ended, Yang Zhenning proposed to Weng Fan. On December 24, 2004, the two registered their marriage with the Civil Affairs Bureau.

One is an old man whose original wife died at the age of 82, and the other is a beautiful 28-year-old woman who ended her failed marriage.

The combination of the two looked like a major earthquake at first, but now it is a natural result when you look at it carefully.

Like there is a passage in "Siege ", which roughly means:

Honeymoon trip after getting married is in reverse order. You should travel together for a month first, and you can only see through each other and hate each other after a long journey. If you have not yet turned against each other, this kind of couple is guaranteed to be true love.

This is different from the love between grandparents in Taiwan. Lin Jingen's story, no matter how touched it, in the final analysis, is a failure of family education .

A girl who has been missing since childhood wants to leave her original family, but she has no independent consciousness, thinking ability, corresponding knowledge and vision.

And Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan changed from worship and friendship to feelings, love, partners after traveling together...

Step by step, they saw each other's shining points and thought through their future lives.

As a result, the long-term outrage has not affected the normal life of the two, but their condition has become better and better.

Every little thing we saw before is a proof of love.

Another thing is an interview with Weng Fan’s father. He said:

I understand my daughter’s choice. Xiaofan is willing to make sacrifices to take care of Professor Yang’s later life. This is glorious!

Many people expressed shock at this sentence.

Is there still such a martyrdom-like "glorious sacrifice" now?

Comrade Yang Zhenning needs your daughter to make sacrifices before she can contribute to the motherland?

In fact, Weng Fan’s father’s statement is not unreasonable. After all, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning are too different in age, so the two people’s living habits must be different.

Weng Fan is expected to make more efforts for Yang Zhenning's health.

But for the two parties, this is not a sacrifice, but a mutual fulfillment.

Weng Fan was very opposed to her father's statement. She said: "We have always lived a peaceful life, I enjoyed it very much. He gave me a very pure world."

For her, Yang Zhenning is more like her "leader of life".

And Yang Zhenning said:

"If I had not married Weng Fan, I would think that what happened thirty or forty years has nothing to do with me; now I know that what happened 30 years later has a very close relationship with me through Weng Fan's life."

He believes that Weng Fan is the "last gift" given to him by God.

Appreciate each other and be grateful to each other.

Can be responsible for your own choices, can eliminate interference from parents and children, and stand together with the other party as an "independent" attitude.

The best love in the world is just like that.

Of course, age is always a reality that cannot be erased.

No matter how deep the love between Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan is, you must face the most realistic life.

Specifically for this couple who are almost like death, it is childbirth, life and death, and life.

Whether to give birth to a child is a difficult problem.

Let’s have a birth, it is inevitable that there will be suspicion of robbing the family property. If you don’t have it, this relationship is really a regret at this age.

Faced with this question, Yang Zhenning answered this way:

"I think we shouldn't have children, because I have been thinking that if I'm gone, Weng Fan will take one or two children alone, it will be very difficult."

Some time ago, Yang Zhenning also made a will:

He left all his cash assets to his three sons and a daughter who had a former wife. Weng Fan only obtained the right to use one villa, and the property rights of the villa belong to a certain university.

After 18 years, the estate only has the right to use the house, which is so embarrassing.

"At least, we should leave some living security for the woman. When he dies, will the house be taken back?"

may be indeed a bit too selfless, and there may be other allocations in private.

But no matter what, it proves, Weng Fan really didn't come for profit.

At least Yang Zhenning is unwilling to let Weng Fan bear the bad reputation of marrying him is a picture of money.

If there is that day (Yang Zhenning passed away), would you allow Weng Fan to remarry?

Yang Zhenning said that there have always been two voices in his heart. The young one does not allow Weng Fan to remarry, and the old one allows Weng Fan to remarry. "

So "When I leave this world in the future, you (Weng Fan) can remarry."

It is said that Weng Fan was very angry at this answer.

Because she felt that Yang Zhenning said this was not a sign of loving herself enough, but later she also figured it out:

" Looking at it from the perspective of a perfect romanceist, I didn't like that sentence at that time. But today when we talk about this sentence, I am grateful for his words when we look at it more maturely and rationally. ”

Yes, from the perspective of perfectionism, no one hopes that their partner will say such things.

But in reality, there has been a change, and it cannot be said that this is not perfect.

It seems contradictory and it is easy to understand.

Because love is selfish, but it is also the most selfless.

It is true that Yang Zhenning loves Weng Fan, and it is true that he lets go.

When I am not here, who will take care of you?

This is the heartfelt words of a person who loves you. It is not noble or low.

Many people once "disgusted" the marriage between Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, and they also ignored this matter.

"Life is very complex, and feelings are also very complex. You cannot say that you are just right or wrong. You can only say that you cherish your own and do not care about gains and losses."

People who live a transparent life often know more tolerant, more honest, and understand what you and others need.

When you have it, don’t talk about your debts when it’s time to say goodbye.

It is perfect.

Yang Zhenning once said, "Thirty or forty years, everyone will definitely think this is romance."

In the face of everything passing, time is the biggest threat, and time also gives the answer.

Love for 18 years, the mountains and rivers are vast, and the result of the extreme sight is that you are all you, and you are all you.

As for the next 18 years, it is still impossible to conclude where the story will lead.

But we don’t have to judge people who are beyond the world.

I wish them to continue living happily.

We must also live in the present, live today seriously, and leave the future to the future.

It is difficult to always love and be new. It is because of the difficulty that tests people. Try to live like the truth.

lit up "watching" and encourage them with friends.

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