interview started, Sister Hua was a little nervous and asked us several questions, "I'm a little bad at expressing myself, would I be bad?", "If I didn't say this, can I re-record it?", "Can you show me your interview outline?" She was very serious about what she did.
Before coming to Jiajia, the most important identity of 35-year-old Hu Chenghua was the mother of a 14-year-old boy.
Hu Chenghua comes from Fushun, Liaoning, a city that occupies a place in the hearts of foodies by relying on " spicy ". This girl who grew up eating spicy food decided to marry her equally passionate love when she was 21 years old. In the Northeast region where the family planning policy is the best implemented in the country, this marriage age is relatively early among the post-80s generation. But for the sake of love, she was desperate and nothing could shake her. The firmness and courage engraved in her bones had begun to show its clues since then.
And this love quickly gave her a reward - a cute little boy.
Regarding her time as a novice mother, Sister Hua gave a summary of three words - "Unreliable". This "unreliable" comes from the low popularity of childbirth knowledge at that time, and also from the unavoidable tenderness and astringency that was inevitable at that age. Even so, due to the woman's nature and love for her children, she happily accepted the identity of "mother" and gave it to her, and she enjoyed it.
Perhaps everyone who is a parent has had this kind of thought:
When a child is born and hungry for feeding - "Persist in persistence, it will be easy when the child goes to school";
When a child needs to pick up and drop off his or her tutoring lessons every day in school - "Persist in persistence, now is the time to lay the foundation, it will be easy when the child goes to middle school";
When the child goes to middle school, the pressure of going to college is coming in high school - "Persist in persistence, overcome this last hurdle, and the child goes to college Don't worry about him."
After the child goes to college, he has to complete the university; after the child graduates from college, he has to support his child through unemployment and job selection periods; after the child is employed, he has to prepare start-up funds for the child to get married; after the child has a child, he has to help him take care of his children...
The editor interviewed a very valuable businessman who is nearly 70 years old, but he still has to consider which university his first-year grandson will go to in the future, and has begun to allocate a sum of money every year as the education funds for the grandson's future college.
We always think about "Wait until...it will be liberated", and this road seems to be invisible, even if it makes people willingly. Generations of Chinese parents are persevering and reincarnating in such destiny.
0 Years have passed in 14 years. In the first 10 years, Hu Chenghua has been a full-time mother and spends all her efforts to accompany her children's growth. Then, she gradually began to find a way to define her personal value. In the year when his child was in junior high school, Hu Chenghua chose to go south alone and become a "died mother in Beijing". She sensitively noticed the huge prospects of the month nanny industry. On the one hand, it was to prove herself, and on the other hand, it was to improve her personal professional skills. So after careful comparison, she finally chose to come to Jiajia.
Not surprisingly, this decision was unanimously opposed by the family. On the one hand, it was the son who had just entered the rebellious period in junior high school, and on the other hand, it was Beijing, which had no relatives. No matter how you look at the "Beijing drift", it was not a safe and secure decision. However, all these doubts failed to stop Hu Chenghua from entering Beijing. She has the same attitude towards career and love - "I am a person who will hardly be shaken if I make a decision." The firmness in her eyes at that moment was like the 21-year-old girl who was desperate to marry love 14 years ago.
opposal from others, but complaints from children will always become the weakness of most mothers. When talking about the child, her expression became soft but not shaken. She said that she could only comfort the child's mother was setting an example for him. There is no word "easy" in the adult world. Perhaps this 14-year-old boy will understand Hu Chenghua's tolerance and painstaking efforts as a mother one day when he grows up in the future.
No one stipulates that parents in this world can only be like this: some people take care of their children full-time, shuttle through various tutoring classes, light up the lamp and boil oil with their children until late at night every day; some people are ups and downs in the business world, and they are careful to wander among the power of the people, just to have a good meal and clothing for their children throughout their lives; some people choose to leave their hometown, endure loneliness and sorrow, work hard for life, and become role models for their children.
Later in the interview, Hu Chenghua no longer had the restraint and crampingness of preparation. She clearly explained to us her motivation for choosing a confinement nanny, the reasons for choosing Jiajia, her plan for her career and expectations for life. Maybe she doesn't like to express herself, but she never stops thinking, and once she decides, she eliminates all interference and moves unswervingly in the direction she chooses.
It is gratifying that Sister Hua told us that she contacts her family almost every day now, and her relationship has not been affected by destructively, and her parents-in-law have temporarily taken over the burden of taking care of the children. This is how your family is, complaining about all your seemingly risky decisions, and still packing your travel bags for you. There is constant rain and snow on this road in life. My family is the one who holds an umbrella with us. Maybe occasionally there will be discomfort due to the distance being too close, but when the wind and snow come, we still snuggle together to keep warm.
We believe and wish that Sister Hua can prove her choice in the future with her decisiveness and execution, shine in the housekeeping industry, and meet her unknown self.
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