There is an "Island for Everyone" in the middle of the distant sea. More than 100 tribe members of the Chuxin Tribe live peacefully on the island. When the island where they lived for tens of thousands of years gradually "sinked" in recent thousands of years, the chiefs and tribesmen were "swalking" to the "Island of Lonely", thus opening a life game that was different from the inner preferences of their ancestors. Although they look to the future every day, they hope that in the past, can they still find the way home and return to their homes? ......
excerpted from the original "The Original Intention Tribe, Retrieve the Lost Home! 》Part 2: Civilization 2.0--"Brave" game / Continued:
3. Marriage and Wealth
There are many different opinions on the relationship between marriage and wealth. It seems unrealistic for idealists to completely decouple the two, but realists combine the two too closely and lead to the deterioration and taste of marriage, although some people can swallow it.
The one I want to tell you below should be the heroine of a "legendary" marriage story.
In 2013, a divorce incident attracted the attention of almost all media and people around the world. The chairman of a certain news group, who was 82 years old, filed a divorce from his 44-year-old third wife (the protagonist of this story, hereinafter referred to as "her") to end her 14-year marriage. The chairman once paid a huge price when he divorced his second wife. It is said that the divorce fee is the most expensive in history. According to preliminary estimates by the media, as the third wife, she can also receive a lot of compensation. After the divorce, both parties continued to live a free life. Except for the Chairman's original wealth being divided again, everything seemed to be as harmonious as before. This was originally another news about a wealthy family divorce, but strangely, the media followed her and discovered her story much more than the divorce itself and the male protagonist. She also had a very high enthusiasm for digging, and even followed her life and dating news in the future. The paparazzi followed and reported her like a celebrity, such as when and where she dated a handsome young man, etc. The audience seems to love to explore her historical dramas, history of making a fortune and reality shows, and the audience's emoticons of envy, jealousy and hatred are vividly revealed on the paper without any concealment.
So what exactly is the reason that makes the media and the audience fascinated and so passionate and envious? What are people’s values and marriage behind this incident? Can we further understand what is the essence of the so-called legal marriage?
The most popular audience read is her marriage and love history. Before her first marriage, she was not wealthy and met a couple from California, USA during her college study. She received strong help from this kind couple, helped her apply for a student visa, went abroad for further studies, and helped her learn English. After arriving in the United States, the couple let her live in their home, share a room with their daughter, and promised to fund her study costs during her time in the United States. But what is unexpected is that just two years later, she actually married the male owner of the couple, a man about 30 years older than her. The mistress who had helped her could only give way and divorce. It is conceivable how sad and heartbroken the mistress was at that time. However, her relationship did not last long. She divorced just over two years later, but before the divorce, she had obtained a US green card.
What makes readers hotly discuss is that her second marriage was even more "unexpected": in 1999, the chairman of a group and his second wife officially divorced, and married her 17 days later. It is said that in the divorce agreement of the second wife, , there is a clause in the divorce agreement of : if the later wife does not give birth to children, she is not qualified to be assigned to any property. You should know that the group chairman was already 68 years old at that time. What's worse is that he also suffered from prostate cancer and could no longer have children. But what no one expected was that things were caught off guard. With high-tech and IVF methods, she actually gave birth to two lovely daughters in 2001 and 2003, which naturally enjoyed huge wealth.The marriage lasted until 2013. It is said that the reason for the divorce was that the protagonist discovered that she was having an ambiguous relationship with other celebrities.
Let’s consider the characters involved in the story as a whole. Let’s put aside the heroine first, please imagine the flow of wealth in the two marriages and the mood of the two male protagonists. Please imagine the mood of the ex-wife of the two male protagonists at that time. Is this kind of clichéd story that is not terrifying, is it a zero-sum game of marriage and wealth that is staged every day? Who can benefit from the game? I really can't do it. The events mentioned above are not the focus of my discussion today. Of course, we are not qualified to comment on other people's legal marriage procedures. My focus is to study the views of people and the media as bystanders about her and their attitudes towards this marriage. In the eyes of ordinary people, what kind of "game" has it transformed into a marriage that has lasted for tens of thousands of years? I particularly noticed that many media articles commented on the heroines of the incident like this: "In order to live a better life, to realize the pursuit in my heart, and to broaden my horizons, I have been unwilling to stop climbing upwards"; "Because my mother is firm and clear and fearless in the road of life, they have stood at a higher starting point"; "She is not the most beautiful, but she can always be fascinated by cleverness, wild sexiness, stubborn pursuit, courageous confidence, and desire for success"; "This woman who is ahead of the times is admirable!"; "This is the most charming woman!"; "I have to say that she is indeed a hero among women"; "Looking at her current life, she is the sister who rides the wind and waves. Not only can she talk and laugh with great scholars and have no contact, but she can also live a comfortable life through her own efforts. This is the result of her struggle for so many years"... Many people cast envious eyes on her and took her as a role model to secretly learn from her, if there is a chance. There is no need to comment on this, but one thing is certain: such media must not use the same in-depth to investigate the two male protagonists in this story and their two ex-wifes. The author will definitely not think about what would happen to his family in the future if everyone is encouraged to do so.
I don’t have any special opinion on this incident, after all, there are more and more such incidents and characters in modern society. But when I saw a lot of public comments, I was indeed extremely worried about the changing trends of human marriage. The purpose and nature of marriage have quietly changed tremendously in people's numbness. Marriage is no longer the original family organization with the main purpose of "cooperation and complementarity, division of responsibilities, and joint creation". It has become a big business, a gamble in life, and a contract with an unfixed period of several months to decades. As long as I can maximize my own interests and dare to shout the loud slogan "For myself to live a better life, to realize my pursuit", everything else is just the ladder of me climbing the "better life"! What’s so bad is that many people’s concepts have begun to turn to envy and recognize this big business in life, which is a good business to overtake on the curve of life! Therefore, it is not surprising to see the following reports often: In a report in November 2020, a 19-year-old nurse took the initiative to marry an 89-year-old dementia man. She laughed and said to her partner, "I am the only heir to his property." She also said with a self-deprecating statement that it was one day closer to her widowed at the age of 30.
Since marriage has evolved into a "business", finding a partner is finding a future. Choosing a spouse is like choosing stocks, using small to make big money and waiting for potential stocks to rise. It's very similar to the conversation of the stock trading lady during the blind date of Ge You and in the movie " If You Are the One": "I think this marriage and dating is the same as stock trading. You can look at several stocks at the same time. In the end, you have to look at their performance first. Analyze calmly, for example, appearance, figure, personality, education level, such as economic conditions, family background, etc.", "What if you take it for a while, you have not shown a firm rise?"; "Don't worry, I'm not stupid enough to only hold your stock, you can't be unstable, right?"Yes, when looking for a partner, everyone wants to find potential stocks (regardless of the man and the woman), and they want to get something for nothing, only rise and not fall, so marriage becomes more and more realistic. That kind of pure love marriage "I just fell in love with you, nothing else matters!" is becoming increasingly rare nowadays. If a young man really says and does this, people will really sweat for her (him) and think she (him) is a little stupid.
If the marriage is firmly trapped by the rope of personal interests from the beginning and the choice is narrower, then where can there be real freedom of marriage? A marriage flower that makes you feel that you have a lot of benefits in the future may wither in the "shackles" from the beginning.
If choosing a spouse is like bidding, choosing a person is like choosing stocks, marriage has become a science and a business. You should know that the Business Sutra is a very difficult sutra. Have you practiced the thirty-six strategies mentioned above? If everyone looks at this marriage with the mindset of doing a big business, they will inevitably suffer from business anxiety and helplessness. Therefore, we can recall how many people are happy in modern marriages? We who are too realistic are actually victims of realism. Traditional marriages have passed away, and modern men and women have more troubles for no reason.
(To be continued, updated daily, serialized first and then published, thank you for your support! Original hardships, please respect the achievements of the creator)
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