When it comes to the word "greasy", many people subconsciously think of "middle-aged people".
In fact, greasy is not exclusive to middle-aged people, and some young people are more greasy.
However, relatively speaking, middle-aged people are more likely to experience "greasy" state.
So, what exactly is greasy?
Greedy is not just a person's external image, temperament, and dressing; greasy is the temperament that a person exudes from the inside out.
Big belly and sloppy clothes. Are these greasy?
Strictly speaking, this is not greasy, but a person's image.
Everyone has the right to choose their own image and dress. As long as he likes it, others have no right to interfere.
The real middle-aged greasy one is engraved in the bones.
includes: greedy calculations, habitual preaching, laziness and decadence.
If you want to avoid middle-aged greasiness, start by stopping doing these things.
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Greedy people are greedy and calculating
Gentlemen love money and get it well. This is not called greed. This is the wealth they have accumulated by relying on their own abilities to work hard for half their lives.
A man, when he was young, had nothing, and was so poor that he was so poor.
But he worked hard, motivated, hardworking, and brave. With his own efforts, he accumulated some wealth in middle age.
left savings for children, and the promise to their lover was finally fulfilled, allowing parents to live a good life as well.
This is the ability of a middle-aged man and the glory of his life.
What is greed?
A greedy person likes to calculate, likes to take advantage of small gains, and looks ugly.
For example:
went to the unit canteen to have dinner together, and the canteen clearly stated: "You can only eat, you can't pack it and go home."
However, he did not abide by the rules and packed the family's meals in the cafeteria every day.
What is this? This is not following the rules and taking advantage of them.
people can be greedy, but greed must also be based on not harming others' interests and respecting the rules.
Otherwise, it is insatiable.
People who are insatiable will get bored wherever they go.
There was a female reader who left a message.
Her mother was hospitalized when she was sick and she shared all the expenses with her sister, while her brother was silent.
not only does not pay, but also says, "You can treat me if you treat me. If you don't give me a look, I don't have money."
This is not only a greedy calculation, but also a ungrateful person.
This is the biggest greasiness in middle-aged people.
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Grey people like to preach and show off
Are there any middle-aged people around you who like "pointing and being domineering"?
They rely on their older age and their work experience to enrich their life experience.
So, tell everyone about your experience, teach your experience, and show off your achievements to everyone.
For example:
can earn 20,000 yuan a month, and he will say in front of the younger generation that he earns 50,000 yuan a month;
in small business, and he will brag to others that he is doing big business with his bosses outside.
is used to showing off your wealth, career, income, and even your past emotional experiences.
Not only that, greasy middle-aged people also like to "show off" their school hours.
Do you still remember a famous male actor named Jin?
He showed off his knowledge on many occasions, but in the end he was in a tragic defeat.
doesn’t have much culture, but is used to showing off; I am always used to using difficult and obscure language and complex traditional Chinese characters to create the illusion of “I am an intellectual”.
For example, someone specially created a "Nobel Prize in Mathematics". Do you dare to believe this?
The best way to avoid making mistakes and avoid greasy: say less and do more, talk less and listen more, talk more and understand more.
can give others some advice, but don’t point fingers;
can give others advice, but don’t give me some advice.
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Grey people are always lazy and love to fantasy
When they reach middle age, they should not live in fantasy, but should recognize reality.
For example:
A middle-aged man is unwilling to work hard to make money, and does not think about how to lay a solid foundation for his children's future, and does not think about how to make his family better.
He thinks about getting rich overnight every day, thinking about how to do a career, thinking about how to meet big shots, thinking about how to make money, this is laziness in his heart.
Ambition but unwilling to do it, thinking giants, acting dwarfs, this is the lazy.
A middle-aged woman, in addition to paying attention to her appearance and dressing every day, she ignores her feelings, family, and children. This is also a kind of laziness.
Her laziness is to the family, not to herself.
Only by being down-to-earth, diligent, and courageous can you make your life better.
The laziness in the heart is the laziness of life.
The laziness in life is complete laziness.
people can be ordinary people, but they cannot be lazy people.
Especially middle-aged people, laziness seems even more greasy.
Yu Minhong said a very classic sentence:
"Mid-aged greasy solidifies there like lard, and it doesn't move."
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What should middle-aged people do to avoid greasy?
- must maintain the habit of learning, read, study, and learn new skills.
- Be sure to develop the habit of exercise, run, walk, and keep your energy strong.
- Attend less meaningless parties and spend more time with your family.
- Less preaching, listen more; show off less, be more humble; show off less, be more low-key.
- Don’t give up your own image, do it clean and tidy.
- Don’t impose your own ideas on your children, their lives are different from yours.
- Don’t let your lover down. Lifelong loyalty is far better than tens of millions of love words.
Today’s topic:
What do you think are greasy people still have?
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