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This engagement banquet is called "a strong marriage between Fujian rich families."
In the online photos, the girl was wearing a bright yellow dress, the man was wearing a black suit, and a yellow tie that contrasted with the woman's dress, and the two looked very good.
They are the protagonists of the engagement banquet, and their identities have been hotly discussed by netizens.
It is reported that the woman is Ding Jiamin, the daughter of thunder CEO O Ding Shuibo , and the man is Zhou Liyuan, the son of Seven Wolves Chairman Zhou Shaoxiong .
In fact, the marriage between Fujian merchants and wealthy families is already a well-known old tradition.
As early as last year, the prospectus of Fujian family business Bama Tea Industry made "marriage" a hot search.
Wang Wenbin and his wife of the Bama family have one man and two women. Their three in-laws are from Seven Wolfs, Anta , and Gaoli Holdings.
Son Wang Kunheng, his wife is the daughter of Anta Sports CEO.
Daughter Wang Jialin, her husband is Zhou Shiyuan, and the son of the chairman of the board of directors of the Seven Wolves.
Another daughter, Wang Jiajia, married the son of the chairman of Gaoli Holdings.
Some netizens calculated based on the Hurun Rich List data that the combined net worth of these in-laws has exceeded 50 billion.
Now the two daughters of the CEO of Xtep are married to the son of Chairman Seven Wolves and the son of Chairman Jiumu Sanitary Ware.
thus formed the marriage circle of six major families, and its net worth also increased from 50 billion to at least 60 billion.
Strong alliances, internal marriages have long been common in wealthy marriages.
survey data shows that among the top 100 large groups in South Korea, 186 people chose to marry commercially with other large enterprises as a proportion of 51%.
For example, the GS Group, which belongs to the GS25 convenience store on the streets in South Korea, chooses to marry other large enterprises the largest number of companies:
GS and 7 major companies including Kumho Petrochemical, LIG, Central Daily News, Shiya Group, Taiguang Group, Asia Holdings, and Sampyo Group are all in-law relationships.
Everyone says that marriages between wealthy families are more important to be of equal status, but in fact, The marriage of ordinary people often requires "average status" .
As said in "New Marriage Era":
"Marriage must be of equal status, or the conditions must be matched, not just based on feelings.
No matter how deep the feelings are, in the trivialities of life brought about by inappropriate status and inappropriate conditions, they must be worn out."
Economist Xue Zhaofeng , in " Strange" There is also a passage in "Tao ":
"The probability of love happening is an accidental event. If two people are destined to be each other's soul mates, among the 7 billion people in the world, they basically have no chance to meet.
The so-called marriage is just two people joining a business and signing a contract." All relationships in
are also exchanges of values, and marriage is no exception.
After all, the essence of marriage is also from the perspective of interests. The best result is to be able to benefit each other and achieve win-win results.
02
There is a popular topic on Zhihu that has 30 million views: Is it important to be a good match for ?
A woman answered with her own personal experience and received 20,000+ likes:
" is important, really important ..."
The answerer and her husband are college classmates.
The answerer's home is in a second-tier city, with a car and a house. Before marriage, his parents also gave her a small apartment with a market price of about 2.6 million yuan.
The husband is a rural family, and his parents-in-law are farmers.
The father-in-law fell seriously ill a year before his marriage, and his family's savings were exhausted and his land was sold out.
When I was about to get married, my husband couldn't even take out a penny.
At that time, my parents tactfully reminded the answerer to carefully consider his family situation and felt that the risk was too great, but the answerer's love and sympathy dominated.
answerer insisted on getting the certificate, no wedding dress, no wedding ring, and no wedding, and the honeymoon was also spared because her husband was busy with work.
They moved directly into the house given by the answerer's parents. Two years after marriage, the answerer always felt regretful when he mentioned the wedding. After two years of mentioning it, the husband began to get impatient.
When the baby was born, he planned to sell this house to exchange for a big house, his father-in-law's old illness relapsed, and the 200,000 yuan he had worked hard to buy a house was gone.
Not only that, the two of them had overdrawn their credit card for Huabei Jiebei for several consecutive months, and the answerer had no choice but to borrow 150,000 yuan like their parents.
The husband is desperate, and the answerer has any plans to sell the house, and said that if he sells it, he will lend him hundreds of thousands first.
The answerer was scared when he heard this:
"Some time ago, my husband asked me tactfully if I had any plans to sell the house. If I sold it, I wanted to "borrow" him hundreds of thousands of yuan first.
I was shocked. I said I would not sell it anymore. The next day I immediately asked the agent to remove the house.
This house was given to me by my parents. I don’t want to devote my life to my baby. ....."
The answerer said that he regretted it and regretted not listening to his parents’ suggestions at the beginning:
What should I do... What should I do if my baby... Will I ask my parents to raise it for me for the rest of my life? I regret not following my parents’ advice, but in the end I couldn’t take care of myself and dragged my parents into the fire pit. I’m sorry for them.
For a good match, the answerer believes that he does not have to worry about his parents' retirement, which is the difference between him and his husband's family.
Don’t worry about my parents’ retirement. They have started to prepare pension funds since they gave birth to my daughter. Their retirement wages are similar to our current income. They are also buying insurance every year. They also have financial savings in their hands. Even if they really encounter a serious illness in burning money, they still have a house.
The last answerer said: " If I were asked to choose now, although I love him very much, I am most likely not to jump into this fire pit again. "
The answer is followed by another answer with the same opinion but has completely different experiences.
The answerer also believes that: " is extremely important !!"
The answerer said that the family conditions of her husband and her husband will be evaluated as "a match".
The two are employees of state-owned enterprises and civil servants in second-tier cities. They each had a house before marriage and bought a car together.
answerer said: "Life is quite nourishing."
answerer believes that she and her husband have very consistent views:
The decision on major issues such as decoration, marriage, and bride price should not be too easy, and it almost hit it off.
We love traveling very much, we are just birthday Valentine's Day, and we don't give any flowers and gifts, and we have the habit of saving.
loves work, is just as motivated, and wins outstanding employees every year.
My parents-in-law also respects and understands her.
answerer summarized: "The happiness of life is now due to our same family background, similar educational philosophy of parents, and our lack of pursuit of so-called romance, sense of ritual, sweet words, etc.."
answers, completely different experiences, reveal the same truth.
Loves cannot drink enough water. There are many problems in life that have to be faced. The relationship cannot be maintained just for two people, and it must be free from interference and destruction by various other factors from the outside world.
And the so-called "match-to-be-like" is to try to ensure this.
If the exchange of values between each other is not equal and the interests of one party are always damaged in the marriage, then there is no happiness to argue.
03
If love is a typical Romantic poet, then marriage is a naked realist poet.
Love is not necessarily suitable for staying together, and we do not plan for each other in different ways.
Even though a good match is not an inevitable requirement for a marriage, it can increase the length and thickness of a marriage.
in "Tiny Times " says: "Love without material things is just a plate of sand, without wind blowing, it will disperse after two steps."
is actually not unreasonable. Equal background status and economic relations can avoid many life contradictions.
In addition to this, spiritual harmony, which is what we call "consistent views", is more important.
After all, in marriage, in addition to the consistency of economic background, it also has ideological and spiritual growth.
encourages you together.
