For things we have never done before, or unknown situations, we often magnify the difficulty several times in our hearts. Many times, fear scares us away. There is another situation. If you do it, you will find that you have overcome it.
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Take driving as an example.
Before I officially drove a car, I always thought it was too difficult. There are so many cars on the road and the road conditions are so complicated. In addition to some unruly drivers who cross at any time, there are also pedestrians who suddenly cross from time to time.
What if you accidentally step on the accelerator and turn it into a brake?
It’s scary to think about it ~
So, for a long time, I had an inexplicable fear of going on the road. I think I will probably never dare to drive on the road in my life.
Once upon a time I was really envious of girls who drive very saucyly.
However, this does not suit my personality. And in this era, driving is a basic survival skill for a person. The more challenges there are, the more I should overcome them and not be swayed by them.
So, I still took the driving license test. But for a long time I was afraid to go on the road alone.
Until, we bought our own car.
bought a car and began to have the desire to conquer it.
Then, try hitting the road for the first time.
It was very interesting to go on the road for the first time. My whole body was stiff. Although it was not very hot, my back was still wet. The speed was about 30 kilometers per hour, and the electric cars behind me couldn't stand it and passed me by.
I was a little panicked for the first few minutes, but I soon got used to it. Hey, it doesn’t seem that difficult?
Then, reality taught me a lesson. Because I misjudged the distance, I knocked over a tricycle on the roadside and paid the other party 200 yuan.
After that, I had a more objective understanding of driving.
First of all, it's not as difficult as you think. The road was not as scary as imagined. As long as I keep a safe distance from other cars, I will have enough time to respond even if the other car suddenly changes lanes or brakes.
Another point is that as long as you don’t change lanes at will, you don’t need to pay too much attention to the car next to you. The main thing is to keep your distance from the car in front.
You need to be foreseeable in judging road conditions so that sudden stops will not occur.
The biggest problem is that my judgment of distance is not accurate yet, so don't trust your own feelings and leave enough space.
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These are all summed up after I drove on the road again and again.
Slowly, female drivers become experienced drivers.
In fact, many things are like this process.
I didn’t just hit the road directly from the beginning, but first signed up to take the driver’s license test. I think the coach must be responsible for teaching me, and I can always get my driver's license, right?
Then I slowly passed the exam.
Later on, I went on the road alone. I drove a short distance first and drove slower. Later, the speed gradually became faster and I dared to change lanes.
After driving about 20,000 kilometers, I can probably be considered a SARS female driver.
During this process, except for knocking down a tricycle next to me when I drove it for the first time, I mainly bumped into pillars and scratched the paint of the car.
I had expectations for this. It is normal for newbies and new cars to have scratches and scratches. So when I really got scratched, I didn't feel bad or panic. As long as I don't get into an accident with another car or hit a passerby, I can accept everything else.
If you want to challenge something that you find difficult, the best solution is to start with a small breakthrough, rather than figuring out the entire process first.
Thinking too much can make us cringe.
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Let’s talk about the operation of public accounts.
Everyone is saying that increasing the number of followers of public accounts cannot rely solely on writing, but mainly depends on operations.
In other words, if I want to run a good public account, I not only have to write articles, but also develop a lot of operational skills, but I don’t know where to start. What is the operation method of
? Where can I go to learn operational skills? How can I gain followers quickly?
Thinking of this is enough to make a person retreat.
But if I want to keep this going, I shouldn't think about it so much. The first thing I want to think about is, how can I ensure that I can write an article?
There is a way to do this. I can read more articles written by other people, and then output more. Don’t pay too much attention to the number of readers and the number of fans at the beginning, otherwise all my enthusiasm will be wiped out in one fell swoop.
In the first stage, my goal is to ensure that I can write 2,000 words.
In this way, I found a small breakthrough in something that seemed very difficult.
After I started writing, I tried hard to find a circle of like-minded people. Then immerse yourself in it often and see what others have to share. Someone will write about how to operate it. If you add the other person and have a sincere chat, he may be able to give you a very pertinent suggestion.
and then try according to the other party's suggestion.
Does this feel a bit like breaking a big rock? First find the most fragile corner and hit it hard until a crack is made. Then apply more force along the crack. The last one will collapse, and the rest will follow. It will also slowly crack.
The recent Xiaohongshu also encountered this situation. I finally started posting videos these days, but the data is extremely dismal. To be honest, it's quite shocking.
But can I give up because of this? Of course not. One is, if I give up now, I don’t even know what my problem is; the other is, now that I know this is the most important thing, if I give up, there will be nothing left.
So what I am doing now is to keep updated first and continue to research in the process.
Why should I keep updating? I am afraid that I will use "research" and "study" as excuses and procrastinate indefinitely after stopping.
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But, how long will it take to study the debut path? I really don’t know, so the feeling of the unknown is very torturous.
This reminds me of when I was taking the postgraduate entrance examination, when I first started learning writing.
At that time, I thought, if someone can tell me, you will definitely pass the exam, and I will definitely get good grades in writing, then it doesn’t matter no matter how hard I persist now.
Looking back now, this idea was really interesting and stupid. We always pursue certainties too much and are too repelled by the unknown.
How I later embarked on the path of writing again is that I told myself that in the next six months, just keep writing, and don’t worry about whether it will be a hit or whether it will make money.
But do good deeds and don’t ask about your future.
Have you heard of the " flywheel effect "? This means that the various modules push each other organically, like meshing gears.
An obvious feature of the flywheel effect is that it requires a lot of effort to move from standstill to rotation, but the efforts in each circle will not be in vain. Once one gear rotates, the entire gear set will rotate rapidly.
Then what we are doing now and finding it difficult may be spinning a huge flywheel, and it may indeed be difficult at the beginning.
But as long as we continue to push it, when it reaches a certain critical point, it can start to rotate rapidly.
In this process, our efforts and gains are not linear. After
figured this out, at least he regained some motivation.
Hahaha, writing this makes me feel much better. This is probably the healing effect of writing.
So I really suggest everyone, if you are in a bad mood, just write. Even if it is a diary, it will give yourself a tree hole to talk about.
Let’s do it today and start a full week~
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looks forward to your attention, let us keep improving together and strive for beauty~
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