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_panquote13blockquote19 years ago The movie " riding a thousand miles ", I felt that the theme of this movie was the generation gap and estrangement between father and son.
I watched this movie a year later, only to find that I didn't understand it at all.
The reason why Takakura Ken’s son Kenichi likes to go to China to study and study Nuo opera is because he feels that the real face hidden under the mask is the real self, so people should remove the mask!
A Japanese film critic commented like this:
"Riding a Thousand Miles" presents a simple and simple world, no suffering, no hatred, no anger, no helplessness, only pure touch. People should unmask their masks and really face each other. This is probably the main point of the movie. But when I wanted to uncover the mask, I saw another mask.
People in middle age, we all live unknowingly as actors wearing masks, acting hard, noisy and lonely:
regards age as experience, stubbornness as experience, and sophistication As growth, and indifference as deepness,Take cowardice as stability, smoothness as wisdom, desire as ideal, and adulthood as maturity!
So our days are full, but our lives are empty; the mind is full, but the heart is empty.
What is true maturity?
Maturity is not physical growth, but psychological and mental perfection!
Zhou Guoping wrote in his book "Soul Can Only Walk Alone":
The so-called maturity of many people is just that they have been polished away by customs and become sophisticated and practical. That is not maturity, but the premature aging of the spirit and the death of individuality. True maturity should be the formation of a unique personality, the discovery of the true self, spiritual results and a bumper harvest!
mature, it is to really know yourself
_spanspan, "I know you more than 2000 years ago, "So, when you became a person at the end of 2,000 years ago." The oracle engraved on the lintel of the ancient Greek temple of Delphi. And "who am I, where am I from, where am I going" is called the three ultimate questions of philosophy.In the process of growing up, each of us is accustomed to judging people and things from our own point of view, assessing the current situation, and constantly magnifying the boundaries of our understanding of the world, but we rarely understand ourselves objectively and comprehensively, and do it with our own hearts. A real conversation.
Psychologists Ruft and Ingerham once proposed a self-recognition model called " Zhou Hari window ". "Window" means that a person's heart is like a window.
Zhou Hari window shows the difference between self-cognition, behavior and other people's cognition of oneself, consciously or unconsciously, which is divided into four categories:
- The category of self-shaping in the face of the public
- The category that is known to the public but the self-unconscious category
- The category of self-consciousness reserved in the public
- The unconscious category of both the public and the self, also known as the subconscious.
Therefore, the inner human being is divided into four parts: the open me, the blind me, the hidden me, and the unknown me.
Only by knowing yourself can you be who you are. Otherwise, many of us have worked hard for a lifetime, but we have all lived into the lives of others!
mature, is to learn to do subtraction
grow is to do addition, and mature is to do subtraction.
There is a classic line in "Forrest Gump":
I don't think that when people are mature, they can accept everything. On the contrary, I think it should be a process of gradual elimination, knowing what is most important to oneself, and knowing what is not important.Then, be a simple person!
On December 2, 2019, the National Language Resources Monitoring and Research Center released the "Top Ten Internet Terms in 2019". The word "Ban She Li" is among them. This word comes from the Japanese writer Hideko Yamashita The book "Break Sheli" by the author.
Susan Li is a way of thinking extracted from yoga's practice philosophy "breaking, sacrificing, and renunciation". Yamashita Hideko first used it for the arrangement of household items, and then gradually became a life concept And wisdom is recognized by everyone.
break away is summarized as:
powerless things, when break. People who are not destined in life should be home. If you feel upset and obsessed, you should leave.
Like regular room cleaning and garbage cleaning, learn to subtract and keep yourself empty.
Don't waste time and energy on boring people and things, let every day live full and easy, meaningful and valuable!
mature, knowing the world but not sophisticated
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Sometimes the most complex and profound things in this world are not natural science, but human mind and human nature.
When each of us first came to this world,It's all simple. But under the influence of the external environment, we are reluctant and passive to change ourselves to adapt to this environment.
In this process, some people become drifting with the flow, and even lose their principles and bottom line. But some people can adapt selectively, keeping the outer circle and the inner square.
I have always agreed with the phrase "knowing the world without being sophisticated, the calendar is sleek and naive" from a sentence in "A Dream of Red Mansions".
A glimpse of human relationships can also distinguish between distant and close relatives. Knowing the world, you can also keep moving forward and retreating freely.
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blocke , Still able to separate the heart from this world. Enjoy life without indulging in life, going through desolation without being negative.
French writer Romain Roland also has a similar insight:
There is only one kind of heroism, that is, every person who knows the truth about life still loves life! It is a mixture of joy and tears, and every day is full of hope and disappointment.
In the face of suffering, some people chose to accept their fate, and they complained and even hated life.But some people can face it optimistically and objectively, maintaining passion and enthusiasm.
And only those who have withstood the test of suffering can enjoy the wealth and happiness converted from suffering!
mature, will survive and will live
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We must have both the ability to survive and the ability to live.
I found that those who are truly mature, no matter where they are or in what circumstances, can arrange their daily lives in an orderly and enjoyable manner.
In " Soldier Assault ", there is a famous saying in and :
What is meaningful? To be meaningful is to live well. What does it mean to live well? To live well is to do many, many meaningful things!
Apart from busy living, stay with your family as much as you can. Money can add food and clothing to your family. But when a family is together, that kind of happiness and happiness cannot be replaced by anything.
Find a skill or hobby that has nothing to do with survival. Maybe when you get old one day, you will find how good it is to have a hobby.
To be a useful person, to be an interesting person, maybe this is the purpose and meaning of this encounter in this world.
Yu Qiuyu commented on maturity in " Sudongpo Breakthrough ":
maturity is a bright but not dazzling brilliance.A mellow and not greasy sound, a kind of calmness that no longer needs to be aware of others, an atmosphere that finally stops complaining to the surroundings, a smile that ignores the noisy, a kind of indifference that has washed away the extreme. It's thick and unobtrusive, and a height that is not steep.
Cherish every day of life, grow up slowly, move forward silently, mature quietly, and grow old.
can both self-discipline in the prosperity and heal itself in the downfall.
On the premise of not hurting others, we can live our whole life in the way we choose, which is the true maturity and the greatest success!
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