During the recent Qingming holiday, after taking care of everything at home, I went to the cinema to watch the "national sister" Zhang Zifeng's new movie "My Sister".
This is another major heroine movie created by female screenwriters and directors after "Hello, Li Huanying", and the story is in a realistic style, more contemporary and social Sexuality and topicality.
Although both topics are women and family, their styles are completely different.
"Hello, Li Huanying" is more of an understanding and moving in my heart after living with my young mother.
and " my sister " exposes the sting of women's plight through real events.
The rationality of the ending and the plot is not evaluated, but the problems presented in it are really worth pondering, and it also makes people unable to calm for a long time.
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The hostess An Ran was born in a family with serious patriarchal sons and daughters. When she was young, her father would often beat her because she didn't like girls.
will lie to others that her daughter is suffering from polio in order to obtain a certificate that she can have a second child, make her daughter pretend to be lame and not allow her to wear her favorite skirt.
Even in the behavior of parents, one can see the suspicion of deliberately letting Enron lose and drown.
When her parents work outside all the year round, they will foster An Ran at her aunt's house all the year round, and she was peeped and bathed by her uncle and treated as sandbags by cousin.
has understood the suffering under the fence since she was a child, and all the pain fell on her at a young age, and she swallowed it silently by herself.
The last straw that overwhelmed her and her family was because I thought I was free. When I applied for the exam, I filled in clinical medicine in Beijing to pursue my dream.
As a result, in order to keep her with her, her father could earn money to feed her family earlier, and secretly changed her volunteering to a nursing major in a university in the province.
Anran completely broke up with my family, and I went to school while working, earning my living expenses and tuition during school.
After graduation,Originally planned to go to Beijing to achieve her dream while working while taking the postgraduate entrance examination, but the reality hit her hard.
When she was in college, the country liberalized the second-child policy, and his parents finally got their own sons as they wished.
In the happy life of a family of three without a sister, it can be seen that An Ran is simply a "transparent person."
His father would personally make braised pork for his younger brother. The family was full of photos of three people, but An Ran never had the opportunity to take a photo.
In the words of my brother, " our dad seems to be not alone, but it’s not a single person. _span8 _span8 _span5 _strongsp 129 Both passed away, leaving An Ran and this younger brother who hadn't seen each other a few times.
In the life that was expected to be in the future, the younger brother, the "oil bottle", was born out of thin air, and her life trajectory has also changed.
She needs to make a choice between her future and the raising of her younger brother.
An Ran chose the former. After all, he grew up in a situation and had a very strange relationship with his younger brother. This choice is also understandable.
After all, she is just a kid who has just graduated and is in her early 20s, , but all her relatives and friends don’t know how to blame her. "The eldest sister is like a mother" to suppress her.
Everything is because she is a sister, an identity that cannot be determined by herself, and control her must accept everything.
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In fact, compared with An Ran, what is more distressing is that the aunt in the drama has lost herself because of her "sister" identity and ruined her life.
Aunt is also a typical representative of thousands of women oppressed by old ideas.
When she was in school, her aunt was admitted to the undergraduate course of the Russian Department of Western Normal University, while his younger brother (An Ran's father) was only admitted to the junior college.
But the family has always had a strong patriarchal concept,Because of the limited family conditions, he gave An Ran's father the only chance to go to school.
Grandma An Ran’s original words are: " I have to hold my son tightly, so don’t think about it. 5 _strongspan8 _span8 _span5 _span8 The son opened a small stove and sliced watermelon to An Ran's father for fear of being seen by his daughter.
And the aunt, as an older sister, became the main labor force in the family after she lost the opportunity to go to school, working to support the family.
I get 40 to 50 wages a month, and I have to give my younger brother a dozen yuan.
I wanted to go to Russia to do business with a few sisters in a young age, but at this time Anran was born. She was called back to help bring her baby when she just went abroad.
raised a pair of ineffective children, took care of her husband who was paralyzed in bed, and had to rely on a small shop to make ends meet.
Even at the funeral of An Ran's parents, she has always been busy.
I have been accustomed to revolving around my family, children, and relatives all my life.It's all because I've always been called "elder sister", so I should be like this, and all the dedication and sacrifices are justified.
Why do you think my aunt is more distressing than Enron?
Faced with the injustice of fate, Anron will at least say no, and will use her own actions to resist.
will also roar: "My parents are dead, and everyone thinks that he is my responsibility. It is clearly not me who did the wrong thing. How should this matter be counted?"
span And my aunt has always been compliant with her destiny, feeling that everything is what she should be as a sister.
often said: " I’m my sister, and it’s been from the day I was born. It’s always been. _span5 _span8 _span8 0 It is the archetype of the older sister in many native families, and it also pokes the pain points in the Chinese-style family.
"sister" is a special status tag, under the parent,Above loved ones.
However, there is a natural disparity between the status of girls and boys, and they have become marginalized and tragic characters in the feudal trend of patriarchal thought.
The girl is trapped in this kind of family bondage and cannot find a way to save herself.
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There are a lot of moral kidnappings of this kind in life: _span_span_span8sp5 "You are a elder sister, why don't you play with your younger brother for a while?"
"You are a elder sister, why are you so ignorant? Why can't you let your younger sister?"
There is an unshirkable responsibility: should make concessions, always for the sake of younger brothers and sisters.In a documentary "Sister", a girl was recorded,It was set from the moment of birth.
The protagonist of the story is Rui Rui, and her mother gave birth to a pair of twins in the hospital.
Parents believe that girls can take care of boys. At the moment of birth, Ruirui was identified as her sister.
was originally produced before and after two people, there is only a few seconds difference, but because of this decision, the growth trajectories of the two people are completely different.
From a young age, her parents told her to take care of her younger brother. The younger brother has priority in everything. As a sister, she should let him.
Rui Rui actually likes to draw, but she has to play chess with her brother.
Playing games is obviously a shame on my younger brother, and I can't help but get angry at my younger brother, but she will always be scolded.
even if the younger brother points to her in front of her parents and says: "Kill her, kill her."
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Dare to have any rebuttal.Mother will take her younger brother to whisper, and father will help younger brother to accuse her, she can only find her presence in the mirror.
In order to get the approval of her parents, Ruirui will work hard to do housework and find ways to help her mother, but it has not achieved the effect she wants.
This kind of differential treatment has long formed in her heart the thoughts and concepts of not being paid attention to or loved.
Since she is not taken seriously, Rui Rui thought of using her rebelliousness and willfulness to win attention and let everyone see her grievances.
And her parents only saw her bad, did not consider what she wanted, and repeatedly accused her of having a weird character and suspicious.
I have worked so hard to be sensible, so why can’t I get the compliments and love my parents deserve? This has always been the most puzzled question in Rui Rui's heart.
She is an older sister, but she is also just a child, and she needs to love and be loved instead of restraining herself because of her so-called responsibility.
said that a good childhood can heal a lifetime,But a bad childhood takes a lifetime to heal. Every time I think about my childhood, it must also be an eternal absence in my heart.
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I once read a sentence from and Bi Shumin because we are not strong in other people’s lives. To embellish the scenery of others, look up at the sky of others, and ignore what you want in your heart. People who always value other people's opinions cannot live out themselves."
everyone It is an individual, and each child is a unique existence.
No matter whether he is a brother, sister, brother or sister, no one is an accessory of anyone, and should receive equal love and attention.
Therefore, parents should also balance their minds. Before giving birth to a child, they should think that boys and girls are inherently uncertain. The birth of a child is a continuation of love, regardless of gender.
For families who plan to have a second child, we must be more cautious about whether we can work hard to achieve a perfect balance.
I hope everyone can live as himself,I will not feel sorry for my birth, or feel wronged.
Don’t repeat the same tragic fate from generation to generation. Everyone has the right to love and be loved.
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