"My Sister" abuses hundreds of millions of people, why should I advise you not to have a daughter?

The two-day movie "Span1span My Sister " was released, with a box office of 400 million in 4 days, and is known as the most worth watching movie after the Spring Festival.

Many netizens cried and watched the whole process, weeping and wet a pack of tissues.

After watching this movie for a long time, I can’t feel calm.

The film tells the story of the girl An Ran's parents, who gave birth to a younger brother when she was in college, but she was suddenly killed in a car accident shortly after her daughter graduated.

Do you continue to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination, or raise this younger brother who has never seen him a few times?

This problem, the film does not give the final answer.

but Zhang Zifeng played by the older sister of ,In the process of solving this problem, hurt countless parents.

lot of people say after reading:

"That's the reason I do not want a second child, do not want their A daughter is a sister!"

"Really, if a daughter is a daughter, never have a second child..."

_p1span Don't be a daughter in one child..."

Because, we really know what it means to be a sister.

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Sister, means the eldest sister is like a mother

, finish the funeral of the parentsRelatives gathered to discuss the raising of his younger brother An Ziheng.

everyone regarded this burden of training and preparation sister Enron: "! You But his elder sister ah"

" Your parents provide you so much, are you worthy of your parents?"

"The eldest sister is like a mother, your first task now is to raise your brother well."

"Elder Sister is like a mother", four simple but heavy words, weighs heavily on An who has just graduated from university but is in her early 20s.

Even if her younger brother only asked for it after she left home after she went to university and left home, she has never seen a few people at all;

p0 I earn my living expenses by myself,The parents gave all the money and love to the younger brother;

Even though the house has been transferred to her, the parents still urge her to hand it over and transfer it to her younger brother.

"The elder sister is like a mother", means just like the father said, "everything in the house belongs to the younger brother"; Love, let him, and take care of him unselfishly.

Relatives persuaded her to raise her younger brother, because "don’t look at him now, can actually help you in the future." , _Span4span mutual support often turns into unilateral help.

"the eldest sister is like a mother",Not only does it mean to give selflessly like a mother, also means to be like a mother without asking for anything in return.

Just like An Ran’s aunt in the movie, when she was young she was admitted to the Department of Russian of West Normal University, but because her family couldn’t afford it, gave her the only chance to study. An Ran's father who went to technical secondary school.

decided to go to Moscow to do business with my sister, but was called back by strong_strong_span4 when I just got to milk a red field. The younger brother who gave birth to the daughter took the child.

The area has been around for several years. In this life, I have never gone out again.

There is a detail in the movie that particularly touches me.

Aunt and An Ran ate watermelon together, unconsciously digging out the sweetest part in the middle for An Ran to eat, and eating watermelon scraps alone.

It can be seen that this is already a subconscious habit of her.

No one asked her to do this, But she carried the mission of "Long Sister as Mother", it has been too long.

for a long time until she has convinced herself: "I am my sister, since the day I was born, it has always been."

For a long time, she was taking care of her sick husband while pulling two unworthy children. At the same time, she thought that if she wasn't too busy, she must take it for her younger brother's son.

Aunt who can live "like a mother and elder sister" did not get the reward she deserved.

her own daughter scolded her: "You deserve your life.Who suffers if you don't suffer? "_Span4span

My niece told her: "You are a good person, but you have done bad things with kind intentions." "_Span4span

I feel sad, distressed, and helpless.

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7 "Elder sister":

Mother is an older sister. When I was a child, I was asked to look like an older sister and take care of my younger siblings. This time I went back to my hometown and was praised well and would take care of others. ……

She can take care of others, but she has been neglected a lot, and she doesn’t want to be ignored. Only by taking care of her presence and approval can she rely on her caretakers to brush up on her sense of existence and approval.

Some netizens feel distressed:

It seems that almost everyone can find such a sister in their relatives.At a young age, he did not go to school and went to work. All the money earned from work was given to parents and parents to provide for their younger brothers and sisters.

And the most ironic thing is that doesn't like her at all, but she is the most filial one.

All the relatives of the older generation have to praise her when she mentions her, but what is the use of such praise?

One of my aunts from far away is like a heavy sister who is carrying a heavy sister like this.

Give all the salary to parents after work, because my brother needs money in many places.

After a few years, her brother gave birth to a child, so she resigned and went back to help with the child.

Later, when her brother was in a bad family situation, she could help as long as she could, even if her family was already in a tight budget.

She would always say:

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, they, carrying the identity of "sister", may have spent most of their lives and dare not convince themselves:

"The older sister doesn't have to be close to the younger brother in everything.

They, with the identity of "sister" on their backs, are not without grievances:

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Why is it clearly not my fault, everyone is coming to me?

always said that you are a sister,Isn't your sister a human?

But these grievances make people dare not think, dare not say.

I said, but it didn't help.

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Sister, means to have different parents

There is a saying in the movie that makes my brother Anran especially touch.

He asked his sister, "My dad and your dad don’t seem to be the same dad." _strong83

is the same dad

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brother eats dad’s braised pork ,She has only eaten the "fried pork with bamboo shoots" made by her father, which means spanking.

There are various photos of her brother and mom and dad. She rummaged through the drawers of the cabinet at home and saw her own photo on an inconspicuous keychain.

In order to give birth to her younger brother, mom and dad asked her to pretend to be polio and lame.

In order to gain the recognition of her parents, she has worked hard since she was a child to study. The awards won by are all over the wall, but it still cannot replace the pride of having a son.

She cried and said in front of her parents’ graves:

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She hadn’t waited for this sentence because she had forgotten her dad, spanspan strong brother, she didn’t wait for it.

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This kind of feeling, too many girls, can’t be more familiar.

Like the "My Sister", his parents walked out of relationship, issued a certificate of disability, and were eligible to have a second child;

I went to another place to give birth. After a few years, my younger brother dared to come back when he was older, and he was forced to follow his grandparents;Adopt it to relatives to make room for the hukou for younger brother.

After the birth of his younger brother, more and more grievances.

Aunt An Ran said that she woke up once when she was a child and heard her mother and brother say: "You eat fast, don't be found by your sister."

This kind of preference appears in daily life all the time.

When the older sister is sleeping, no one says how loud the younger brother watches the cartoon;

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Whenever you ask a question about this subtle preference: "Mom and dad, do you like your younger brother better?" Cleverly evasive: "What's the matter,Your brother is still young, not as sensible as you. "_Span4span

But there is nothing wrong with it; I have been listening to this sentence for my younger brother for more than ten years.

My sister will always be older than my younger brother, and my younger brother will always have this preference.

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I am afraid that I cannot balance my love for children, I am afraid that my beloved daughter will be wronged, and I am afraid that she will suffer similar injustices.

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I’m afraid I’m sorry, so I don’t dare to say that I want a second child. I am even more afraid of the bondage of this family, and it has become an inextricable shackle.

So every time I hear someone give birth to a second child They all want to say: "I don't know the suffering of others, don't persuade others to be kind. ”_Span4span

When a girl has no choice to become a sister, knows that the last person who pays the bill is not her parents, but her entire life. Sister, it means repaying brother’s lifetime debt

The first time a girl kidnapped a girl was not her mother, but her sister.

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Many people have the same aspirations as An Ran4sp _span0 pbr9 My brother, , a person who has no children yet, why should I add to the responsibility of raising children?

As soon as I graduated, my parents began to tell me to get money for my brother’s marriage, strong_strong I am a person who is not married yet, why do I need to prepare for him first?

Since being a sister, it means that I have to pay my brother’s lifetime debt? I used him to read when he was young, and grew up to worry about him getting married and starting a business.

eat away the girl’s own heart, energy, time and money a little bit.

still remember some time ago, is the Hangzhou girl Lolo who was kidnapped by her parents for a price?

The hard-earned and hard-earned money for working overtime and hard work is all provided to the family.

After the death of the parents and brothers, there is no sorrow at all, just wants to use her life in exchange for the son's down payment!

She has never been struggling, and she has repeatedly vented on Weibo:

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" would rather spend money to buy the family, from two not owe!

but in the end, was forced to choose the The most tragic and tragic way, settled himself and settled this debt.

" Guanyin Mountain " female director Li Yu, once filmed a documentary "Sister" in 1996.

In the documentary, a pair of twins are about to be born. At the family meeting before the caesarean section, adults decided to take out the girl first, because everyone took care of the younger brother.

So the girl named "Ruirui" was born with the identity of an older sister, and the responsibilities that she has to bear throughout her life.

Sister’s responsibility for taking care of her younger brother, regardless of size, is fully covered.

was small until 10 o’clock in the evening, and my parents asked me to go to my brother’s school 30 kilometers away. gave him a bottle of Yunnan Baiyao that he can buy in the infirmary downstairs; Wanbei's mother was all transferred away to buy a house for his younger brother.

I suddenly understood why I asked my mother, "Why didn’t you give me a younger brother and sister?" The policy does not allow it, not only fines but also expulsion. If your dad and I were expelled, you grew up drinking northwest wind?"

After a while, my mother said, "Me too I don't want you to be a sister."

"I don't want you to be a sister", This is a sentence I didn't understand at the time.

But now I understand, My mother doesn’t want me to be like her,Because of the identity of "elder sister", I pay a lifetime debt.

"hated courage," a book there is a saying:

"not determine our own past experiences It’s the meaning that we give to experience.”

I hope that every child who is a sister can be like the Enron in the movie: _p7 span_span1 Bravely resist everyone's hatred and make your own decisions and choices.

I hope that both parents and everyone will reach a consensus one day:

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