On October 2, a couple was arguing loudly on the streets of Kaifeng, Henan.
The boyfriend angrily asked his girlfriend:
"I still have 6 yuan in my card and I want to transfer it to you. You have thousands of yuan in your pocket and you won't spend it."
The boyfriend "seemed" to have an emotional breakdown. He kept criticizing his girlfriend in public and reduced her to worthless.
The general meaning is that his girlfriend is obviously very rich, but she always spends his money. In order to make his girlfriend happy, he can hardly even eat. There is only 6 yuan left in the card, and she wants to take it away.
He was roaring almost with all his strength, as if he wanted to pour out all the anger in his body. At the end of the
video, the girlfriend tried her best to defend herself, but was interrupted again and again by the boy. The two sides "teared" each other verbally, and the boyfriend always had the upper hand in terms of volume and emotion.
So the onlookers basically only heard how nice the boy was, and how inconsiderate the girl was, being with him just to treat him as a cash machine. After a video like
was exposed on the Internet, the woman was naturally strongly condemned and scolded by countless people for being selfish. A large number of bad words and labels were attached to the woman.
What no one expected was that things would turn around within a few days. A set of chat records leaked out, and the truth was shocking.
No one would have thought that the "material girlfriend" who has been criticized by countless people is actually the one who is "being materialized".
According to insiders, in their relationship, the woman basically transfers money to the man. Some netizens calculated the transfer amount in the chat records, and it was about 8,000 yuan.
An insider said that the two had a conflict that day because her boyfriend wanted to ask her out, but the girl refused and instead went shopping with her best friend.
Then the two happened to meet on the road again, and a quarrel broke out.
As for the transfer of 6 yuan, it was because my girlfriend had 1,998 yuan in her card and wanted to round it up, so she asked her boyfriend to transfer 2 yuan to her.
As soon as things turned around, some netizens began to dig up the details. Some people said that the Lolita the girl wore that day was worth thousands.
More and more people began to stand up for girls, and public opinion began to turn one-sided.
That boyfriend has become a "drama guy".
This dispute makes people feel dumbfounded.
If we just look at the emotional level of the two people, there is no way to say who is right or wrong when they quarrel.
But on a behavioral level, both sides are wrong.
There is a saying: "Family scandals should not be publicized." Although the two of them are far from being called a family, such private matters as falling in love, even if they are separated and reunited, should be done in a private environment.
Of course, as netizens said, the boyfriend may have greater mistakes.
In the final analysis, it is nothing more than a couple spending money on love.
Whenever I see couples quarreling over money, I will think of a saying circulating on the Internet: "Can you make money first, and then fall in love?"
Many people sneer at this sentence.
It’s normal to spend money when you’re in love, but it’s not normal to fall in love just because you have money to spend.
Strictly speaking, in this relationship, there is no "rushing to spend money to fall in love". The two are more about differences in concepts. This difference will cause different people to behave differently when facing different things.
In other words, even if there was no such conflict, the relationship between the two would not last long. The woman seemed to have grown up in a more favorable environment, while the man was the opposite.
grew up in different environments, so their outlook on life, values, and world view will be very different. It is normal for them to stay together because of good feelings, but to separate because they cannot get along.
This is not the first time that a similar incident has occurred. There was an incident in which "a boyfriend sued his girlfriend at the police station" occurred before.
’s boyfriend said at the police station that if his girlfriend wants to break up with him, he must return all the expenses he spent during the relationship, totaling 3,422 yuan.
The origin of this number even includes the fact that my girlfriend ate dumplings made by her mother, which is equivalent to 8 cents for a dumpling.
This incident also caused quite a stir at the time.
The heroine in question also showed up afterwards and said that during the relationship, her boyfriend had no money to rent a house. She let him live in her own house temporarily because she was distressed, but he stayed there for a month.
During the days when we lived together, my boyfriend basically played mahjong and surfed the Internet every day. The girl and her best friend cleaned the house, and even the excretion of pets was done by the woman. He was basically the hands-off shopkeeper.
And his so-called more than three thousand yuan actually included the expenses for pets, and he didn't really spend much money on love.
Their union was unequal from the beginning, not because of family conditions, but because of their own concepts.
The difference in family conditions is actually harmless if both parties can accept it, but the difference in conceptual levels is difficult to make up for.
No matter how much money you spend, it may be difficult to cultivate a person who has the same three views as yourself.
Falling in love should start with character, conformity to three views, and the rest should be secondary.
is like a boyfriend suing his girlfriend for repayment. Many people scold him, but he himself does not think so.
"Since we are not together in the end, what's wrong with me taking back the money I spent?"
If he cared about other people's condemnation, then he would not behave like this.
To put it bluntly, this is a conflict of concepts. If we really talk about character, there are also some flaws.
The woman didn’t recognize him clearly from the beginning, so she had no choice but to bear this problem.
Many people make decisions based on good feelings when they are in love, but people who have experienced it really have to advise: "The shelf life of good feelings is really short."
Falling in love really depends on three views. Anyone who has experienced it should know that as long as people with consistent three views stay together, they will be very comfortable and cordial.
Some people also call this "tacit understanding". Even if you don't have to speak, the other person knows what can and cannot be done.
Because they have the same three views, their behavior styles will be somewhat similar. It is easy for a happy family to be a husband and wife, because they are two compatible people.
There is a saying that people who have the same three views do not have a good impression. Basically, the word "comfort" is used throughout the whole process.
Each other can understand each other's approach, and they are willing to give each other respect and space. They also think about and love each other, and the ways of handling things are almost the same.
Some people say that it is difficult to meet such a person.
It is true, but some people have encountered it for a lifetime.
Instead of looking for treasures in the garbage, it is better to take the "treasure map" to find the treasures that truly belong to you.
And that treasure map has always been in your hands. When you abandon the glitz and illusion, you can see it when you lower your head.
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