A girl was sexually assaulted by her most beloved teacher in her third year of junior high school.
Afterwards, her family pretended to be peaceful.
However, she was subjected to malicious speculation by her classmates and the family of the perpetrator.
The girl fell into a deep valley and was still unable to get out of the trauma for many years.
The perpetrators who committed evil deeds lived a trouble-free life.
This story that sounds very Fang Siqi comes from the Taiwanese drama "Her and Her Her" starring Tiffany Hsu, Li Chengbin, Alyssa Chia, Wu Kangren, Chen Yiwen.
is just like the title of the play.
This drama tells not only the story of Fang Siqi, but also the stories of thousands of "hers" living in the world.
Taiwanese dramas are once again at the forefront of domestic entertainment.
Warm reminder: The following content contains spoilers, please read as appropriate.
The girl who was unfortunately sexually assaulted in the play is named Lin Chenxi (played by Lin Yilan).
Dawn is the name of the heroine in the novel collection "Seher" by Turkish writer Selahatin Demitas, a woman who is stuck in the long night waiting for the dawn.
Lin Chenxi has been waiting since she was in the third year of junior high school.
At that time, she was just like Lin Yihan's Fang Siqi. She was delicate in appearance, well-behaved and polite, and easy to learn. She was the kind of child that the elders would like when they saw her.
Naturally, he is also deeply loved by Mr. Xie (played by Chen Yiwen), a pedagogical teacher in the school.
Teacher Xie is a famous teacher known to people all over the world.
His reputation comes not only from his teaching achievements, but also from his model marriage with his wife (played by Yu Ziyu) that is admired by outsiders.
Moreover, he is quite gentle with others and never scolds students loudly.
Many parents therefore sent their children to Teacher Xie’s cram school, and the children also loved going there, including Lin Chenxi.
The first time Teacher Xie behaved deviantly was one afternoon when Lin Chenxi stayed to ask for advice on exam questions.
It happened that her bicycle tire had a flat tire.
When Teacher Xie brought a pump to cheer her up, he put his arms around her waist.
But the moment Lin Chenxi showed discomfort, Teacher Xie withdrew his hand and immediately returned to his usual kind-hearted appearance.
Lin Chenxi didn’t think much about it.
After all, the teacher's wife and mother ( Ding Ning) have been friends for many years.
The relationship between the two families is so close. Perhaps this is just a way for the elders to care for the younger ones.
When Teacher Xie went off the rails for the second time, this was exactly the reason he used to defend himself.
Lin Chenxi went to his office to get the real exam questions. He suddenly rushed up to kiss Lin Chenxi's face and hugged her.
Afterwards, he said:
Teacher has no children
Treats you as his own daughter, you know
Lin Chenxi fled the scene in a hurry.
But she knew that Teacher Xie was lying.
She began to avoid meeting with the teacher and tried to tell her parents what happened, but her parents interpreted her as "how can you be lazy" and urged her to go to the teacher's house for tutoring on time.
At this time, Lin Chenxi's life was completely overturned.
It started to rain heavily on the road that day. When Lin Chenxi rushed to Teacher Xie's house, she was soaked to the skin.
Teacher Xie brought a towel to wipe her head, but before she could react, she was pushed down on the sofa.
Then, there was a stinging pain in the lower body, and the world was spinning in front of my eyes.
She saw a middle-aged man who repeatedly whispered "Be patient" and greedily demanded from her blood.
She saw the sick and twisted face of this world.
She also heard white pigeons flying outside the window.
Lin Chenxi, who was full of longing for the future, flew away.
But the sound of the broken world did not stop there, but grew up with her until middle age.
This drama uses three intersecting narratives of time and space to tell the story of Lin Chenxi's life twenty years after she was sexually assaulted -
was sexually assaulted in high school;
was still experiencing PTSD in middle age;
entered the dissociation world when the illness occurred in middle age.
——Let the audience know how immeasurable the aftershocks left by in those few minutes are immeasurable.
For example, dissociation caused by depression.
When the disease occurs, Lin Chenxi will lose his sense of reality and his cognitive memory will be misplaced.
To others, he looks like a madman.
Therefore, she no longer has contact with her family and classmates. Although
tried to fall in love and was deeply loved by others, the other party (played by Hu Yuwei) still chose to leave her after witnessing her repeated illness without any signs of recovery.
Later, Lin Chenxi learned to hide the past from her current boyfriend (played by Li Chengbin).
But still can't trust each other in an intimate relationship and be fully committed.
A trauma takes twenty years to endure.
In these three time and spaces, sexual violence always occurs with high frequency..
Sometimes, Lin Chenxi was the one who experienced it.
(played by Tiffany Hsu), a middle-aged woman with a successful career, will still be sexually harassed by her colleague (played by Wu Kangren) in the workplace even if she does not participate in any work dinners.
And her excellence is the reason why her colleagues are dissatisfied and intend to conquer her through sex.
Sometimes, Lin Chenxi is a witness.
Her high school friend (played by Wen Zhenling) has a good family background.
Even though she lives in a high-end community, she still can't prevent a strange man from sneaking in and installing a pinhole camera to peek in secretly.
was not only peeped, but after having sex with her blind date, the other party (played by Xue Shiling ) also posted her nude video online.
Each example seems to question:
How careful should a woman be to avoid being selected for sexual violence?
The "2019-2020 National College Student Sexual and Reproductive Health Survey Report" issued by the China Family Planning Association shows that among a sample of 35,000 women, about 30% have experienced sexual violence.
Sexual violence is everywhere.
But society always gets lucky and deceives itself: that's just an example.
The rare thing about this drama is that it does not avoid or pretentious about the plight of women.
Sexually violent crimes such as campus sexual assault, workplace sexual harassment, domestic violence, etc. are all presented truthfully one by one.
But it is still criticized-
The ending of sexual assault victims also falls into the trap of "self-reconciliation".
The first eight episodes are enough to make every female viewer’s scalp tingle with empathy. The last episode of
ended warmly. It borrowed Taiwanese poet Lin Wanyu's poem "Children of the World" to wish the heroine and the audience who had the same experience off-screen:
was injured and bled, but can still continue to live strong.
Because you are always loved.
Another weak "Love Almighty" teaching?
I have read an article before about reconciliation endings in movies and TV shows. At that time, I mentioned one point:
Reconciliation is not impossible, it just cannot be used to cover up problems.
This is why I don’t think the ending of this drama weakens its power.
Although "She and Her Her" failed to provide a more constructive solution, fortunately, it dared to prick reality and reveal the truth.
It tells the outside audience that the harm of sexual assault never ends.
You should never persuade a victim to get out of the past and arrogantly comfort the other person that "the past is not important."
also told the families of the victims that the understanding and companionship of intimate relationships are important social forces that help victims live better.
The reason why the dilemma is difficult to solve is that it is even more outspoken -
Whenever sexual violence occurs, the outside world often points the sword of condemnation at the victim.
A common phenomenon is that every time a sexual assault occurs, someone always asks the victim, "You could have resisted at the time, why not?"
This kind of questioning is more common especially when the victim is a woman.
As everyone knows, this "perfect victim" argument mixed with gender bias has become the most commonly used "prop" by perpetrators.
They use this to deepen the psychological fear of the victims and cover up the crimes.
In the play, Lin Chenxi and her classmate Yan Shenghua (played by Alyssa Chia) experienced sexual violence twice, once from their teacher and once from their colleague/husband.
are all committed by acquaintances.
Teacher Xie would tell the female students that "no one would believe it" after the sexual assault, so that they would not dare to report it to adults.
If they still report, they will say "I just care too much about these children... Maybe when I encouraged them, I made some actions that misunderstood them", making outsiders believe that this is just a child's random imagination.
Didn’t Du Yingzhe, a teacher at an art examination institution who was accused of sexually assaulting an underage female student, defend himself in the same way?
Picture source | The person who exposed the incident, Shi Ziyi’s Weibo
On one side is a famous teacher who teaches hard and is happily married, and on the other side is a student who is underage and ignorant.
The perpetrator may have calculated the cost and prepared a rationale before committing sexual assault.
At least Teacher Xie in the play only dares to do evil because the female students are not trusted and the outside world will pin the blame on the woman.
is another example of sexually harassing Lin Chenxi’s colleague.
When he locks a target, he will first test the other person's bottom line with intimate actions.
If you find it difficult to attack, you will first use social prejudice to discredit the other party -
Why would a man with status and family like me commit a crime against an older single woman? It was obvious that she had seduced me first, and I was the victim.
- Take advantage of the other party's psychological defense to collapse and commit harm. There are many similar routines like
in real news.
I especially remember Lin Yihan's analysis of the perpetrator's mentality in " Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise ":
He found that society's sense of taboo on sex was too convenient. When a girl is raped, the whole world thinks it is her own fault, and even she feels it is her own fault. The guilt would drive her back to him. Guilty is an ancient and purebred sheepdog. Every little girl is like a lamb who is forced to run before she learns to walk steadily.
You see, in a society where gender is like the original sin, the victims will be raped on their heads regardless of whether they resist or not.
What's more, perpetrators often stand in a higher position of power and use some vested interests to coerce victims into obeying.
Such as the authority of a teacher, such as the tradition of women caring for their husbands and raising their children.
This is why we have resisted the "perfect victim" argument countless times.
Gender bias already increases the cost for victims who choose to resist.
And every question and criticism from others adds to this value.
is more precise.
In incidents of sexual violence, whether the victim resists or complies, the price he has to bear is very high.
Lin Yihan adapted his personal experience into a novel. It seemed that he got a moment of salvation through words, but two months after the book was published, he couldn't bear the torture of depression and hanged himself at home.
She once said, "How I wish I had died when I was sexually assaulted for the first time."
The harm caused by sexual assault itself is already huge.
And the victims have to experience trauma more than once.
The most heartbreaking plot in the play is when the girl Lin Chenxi finally summons up the courage to ask her family for help. Her father's first reaction is not concern, but questioning:
Is it because Teacher Xie is usually too strict with you
You are unhappy, so you lie
How could Teacher Xie do that to you
Didn't you resist?
Didn't you tell Teacher Xie that you didn't want it?
Didn't you push him away?
Is there something wrong with you?
Parents are the people who can best repair the wounds of the victims in time.
However, when Lin Chenxi went to the police station to report the crime, her parents followed the advice of the principal and teacher's wife, withdrew the accusation and whitewashed the situation.
When Lin Chenxi was rumored by her classmates to have seduced Teacher Xie, not only did they not speak up for her, they also scolded her for lying at school and asked her to apologize to the teacher responsible for handling the matter.
Everyone has chosen to remain silent about sexual assault.
They believe that as long as nothing happens and they are good at forgetting, Lin Chenxi's suffering will eventually be rewarded with sweetness.
As mentioned above, for thousands of years, being sexually assaulted has always been an scandal for the victim and his or her family. If
is spread out, it will be laughed at and criticized.
Especially female victims.
Adults are powerless against reality and unable to protect children, so they have no choice but to turn the knife edge on the broken soul and inflict pain.
This is the cruel reality.
In the play, whether middle-aged Lin Chenxi is on her way to work or when she comes home and turns on the TV, the news is always reporting that someone in a certain place has been unfortunately sexually assaulted.
Same tragedies keep happening, but society turns a blind eye.
Because social prejudice is stubborn;
Because it is not only the aggressors who dare to extend evil hands to girls;
Because there are many "Lin Chenxi parents" who believe that after all hardships, they will be relieved and everything will be fine.
In such an environment, the self-reconciliation of middle-aged Lin Chenxi is not a strong satire on the current situation of society?
When she was a student, she made an appointment with Yan Shenghua to commit suicide, but the incident ended in nothing.
At that time, they thought, "Maybe it will be fine when they grow up."
However, the world after growing up is still bad.
Middle-aged Yan Shenghua was trapped in domestic violence and unable to move
Perhaps "She and Her Her" chose a more satisfying ending and will receive more applause and praise.
Just like in the dissociated world, middle-aged Yan Shenghua took revenge and made the beasts who hurt them pay the price with death.
But this is not reality.
The reality is that every woman living in this world may incur unwarranted evil acts just because of her existence.
When she was unfortunately choked by evil hands, if she did not fight with her life, she would spend her life measuring the pain.
These hurt women could have survived.
More of them also need to survive.
In this cruel reality, before the dawn comes, if we don’t heal ourselves, there seems to be no other way.
This is their struggle for survival after being forced into a desperate situation.
Because their cries for help were never heard.
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