We stay by the side of an unhappy person and a very melancholy person. We are also prone to being infected by him and being a little depressed. There is a saying that goes, "One person faces the corner, but the seat is not happy." There is a person who looks particularly melancholy there, and no one else may be happy about the person next to him.
In addition to empathy, there is another reason, that is, if the person around you is in a very unhappy state, and you are next to him and you are acting very happy, this is more or less an offense. It’s just that people are still sad, you are smiling happily beside you. Then the sad person will feel when he sees you, what do you mean? Are you gloating at me? Although he may not say that, he may feel this way, and we are also afraid that others will feel this way, so if we see others unhappy, we dare not be happy.
Who doesn’t agree with what I said just now, then you ran to the farewell hall of the crematorium. You were smiling happily, what would happen? It's certain that everyone is glaring at you. Although life is not that exaggerated, it is the same mechanism.
And if others are not happy, you are happy there, you are also prone to jealousy. But if the people next to you are happy, hey, you will be liberated, do you know? It seems that you have the right to be happy, you have the right to be happy, and you are happy will not make the people around you uncomfortable. At this time, you will of course feel better, and you will be more relaxed and more happy. So when we see someone around us who is very happy, we will feel relaxed, and then we feel that we will have a good impression of him because of this, and think, look at how good this person is, he allows me to be happy.
Another thing is that if the people around us are in such a very unhappy state, we will feel more or less that we have some obligations, how do we need to help him, how do we comfort him, and how can we make him feel better. We have more or less this feeling, especially for Chinese people, but this is very tiring, right?
And if the person next to you is already very happy, you don’t have this task, right? You can be very relaxed and be happy as long as you should. So these reasons are superimposed on this phenomenon, that is, we will be more likely to like those who are very happy.
of course, it is related to this psychology. If we want to explain it more carefully, there are many other influencing factors, which will sometimes lead to an exception. For example, if I am in a very unhappy now and there is a very happy person around me, then I won’t be happy about it, right? I will be even more unhappy about it. Why are you all so happy? My life is already so sad. If you are so happy next to me, I may be even more unhappy.
But this is a special case, an exception, because I am too unhappy. If I weren't too unhappy, I had an ordinary mentality, and I couldn't say I was happy or unhappy. If there are people around me, I will be happy too. There will be some other small exceptions for
, but I won’t talk about that much now. Let’s talk about it a little bit at once.
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