▲Everyone often says to try to vent your emotions and not hide them in your heart. Text/Li Zhongxian Many people believe that accumulating anger will cause illness, so people often say that you must vent your emotions as much as possible and do not hide them in your heart.

▲Everyone often says to try to vent your emotions and not hide them in your heart. But in fact, the more you vent your anger, the less you can solve the problem. (Photo/Dazhi diagram)

Text/Li Zhongxian

Many people believe that accumulating anger will cause illness, so people often say that you must vent your emotions as much as possible and do not hide them in your heart. However, can all the anger be vented to remove the knots in your heart? The answer is no. The more you vent your anger, the more you cannot solve the problem. Instead, it will accumulate more anger. Anger will stimulate the other party and then trigger a series of anger. Even though it is a reason to be angry, it is difficult for the other party to accept it rationally, and anger is difficult to understand.

, who runs personal accounting , is troubled by the frequent change of staff, so when new people report, Lin Zaiying will teach each business in detail. Not long ago, a Park Mi-sun lady in her early twenties entered the company. This time he also explained the relevant business content in detail. Because Park Mi-sun already has experience working in other places for accounting and , Lin Jae-ying has high expectations for her.

But then Park Mi-sun made mistakes one after another. In the end, Lin Jae-young couldn't help but yell: "I can't even do what I just taught you? Haven't you done it before? You could have been fired from in , right?" Park Mi-sun thought that she was just not familiar with the business and caused the mistake, but was scolded for it, which left her speechless. Since the first day of work, Meishan has been treated like this by her boss. She is both sad and depressed and eventually can no longer stay in this company. Lin Zaiying was also very hurt inside. He wanted to be a good boss of the employees, but because of his easily angry personality, he could not control his own emotions and often hurt his harmony with the employees. Over time, there was no employee in the company who had worked for a long time, which made it difficult for the company to operate.

▲The best way to influence others is to adjust yourself to "if you get along with me like this, I will feel comfortable." (Photo/Dazhi diagram)

Although angry is conveying a message of firm will, the wording full of anger will instead make the other party open their defense, cover their ears, and let the other party avoid them. The best way to influence others is to adjust yourself to - if someone like this is getting along with me, I will also feel comfortable. Such a comfortable atmosphere can naturally affect how others adjust their emotions and maintain interpersonal relationships.

In order to survive, humans evolved their brains to have the ability to perceive threats with high sensitivity. When they see an angry expression, their brains will sound an alarm. Dr. Strauss' team from Harvard University asked the subjects to see photos of angry expressions and recorded their brain magnetic vibration imaging. Anterior cingulate gyrus and insula activate hippocampus and limbic system. Research shows that when we see angry expressions, all parts of the brain responsible for negative emotions will be collectively dispatched.

▲Study shows that when you see an angry expression, all parts of the brain responsible for negative emotions will be collectively dispatched. (Photo/Dazhi diagram)

Even if the other party doesn’t react much when I get angry, the other party’s brain will still be in a super nervous state, which means that people will keep working hard to deal with negative emotions. We must correctly understand how strongly the other person is dealing with negative emotions when they are angry. If you see an angry expression and be scolded by the other party, this will have a greater impact on the brain. The anterior cingulate, insula, emotional and memory centers will be mobilized, and even the frontal lobe that regulates disputes will light up red lights. At this time, the brain is in a negative and complex state. It can be seen that this has a great impact on oneself and the other party.