"If you ask me,
Is the hardship of life hard?
I will answer you with a smile:
not the hardship.
But I carry candy with you every day,
Because the day is long, I am afraid I can't hold on." - Fan Xiaobai
Everyone's life is a road to learning from the scriptures. There is no hardship. The difference is our attitude towards suffering. Our attitude affects how we choose to face suffering.
How did you get out of it when you feel sad?
is to talk to friends, listen to music to heal, or have a big meal, or go shopping wildly...
is a good way to talk to friends, but there are two problems. One is whether this friend has the ability to help you solve your doubts, or whether you can listen quietly, and the other is to pour out occasionally. If you pour out more frequently, your friends will most likely not be able to bear it, because this may affect his mood.
Besides, even if you are good friends, some of the suffering is not enough to be told outsiders.
listen to music?
seems OK, but when a person is sad, he cannot listen to the cheerful songs. He will most likely choose some songs that can exaggerate sad emotions, so that the music can embrace your own sadness and resonate with your own sadness. Doing so will make you fall deeper and cannot solve the current problems.
Eat a big meal or shop wildly. These behaviors can stimulate the brain to secrete dopamine, paralyze the nerves, make yourself forget unpleasant things, and get instant pleasure. But it is not a good idea after all.
Have you ever thought of other ways besides these?
In addition to this method of treating symptoms, you can also try reading this method.
I once heard a saying that storytelling is a place to take with you. This is just a function of books. In fact, some books are also a tool to improve themselves.
For example: Fan Xiaobai's "Growing Your Own Flower and Love Your Universe", looking at the villain in the book who uses simple strokes to comfort and encourage yourself in various ways, the sadness will heal itself in an instant.
She will say to herself:
In this world,
has no regulations,
requires you to be gentle and cheerful,
requires you to be understanding.
You just be yourself. It doesn’t matter if
is strange at all, and it doesn’t matter if
is not doing well.
Because of doing your own thing, no one will do better than you. After reading
, you will find it, oh! Yes, I am the master of my life, and no one knows my life better than me.
When life is very hard, he will say to himself:
If you ask me,
Is the life hard or not,
I will answer you with a smile;
No pain.
But I carry a candy with me every day,
Because the day is long, I am afraid I can't hold on.
After reading it, you will know that everyone in the world suffers, but we can find ways to add some sugar to the suffering to resolve the pure suffering.
Fan Xiaobai's "Growing Your Own Flower and Love Your Universe" is a self-healing book that allows people to take refuge in it and transform difficulties. It can give people spiritual comfort.
But in addition to providing self-spiritual comfort, we also need to have something real. Even if life is full of holes, we still need to face it in the end. At this time, we need books that can heal sadness.
"Cognitive Awakening: Turning on the Power of Self-Change" is such a book.
People who are prone to sadness may be unaware of it. If a person has the ability to visualize , inward , then he is awake; if a person has the ability to look at the world, then he is wise; if a person has the ability to move forward with the help of, he is intelligent.
and this book helps us solve this problem.
When we improve these cognitions and exercise these abilities, our sadness may heal itself without healing.
Of course, if you learn all these abilities, you will embark on the road ahead with confidence, but occasionally you will still feel decadent and will still cause sadness due to your experience in life. Don’t be afraid at this time, it’s normal.
Because according to biological rhythms, people's emotions, intelligence and physical strength have peaks and troughs. If you experience inexplicable depression and bad mood, don't fight blindly and just follow the trend. With this understanding, we will have less entanglement and less resentment towards ourselves.
"The fundamental difference between people is the difference in cognitive ability, because cognition affects choice, and choice changes destiny."
"Cognitive Awakening: Turning on the Power of Self-Change" is a book that makes us cognitive awakening. Only by awakening the mind and walking out of confusion can we reshape our life.
When we get here, we complete the second stage of our life - awakening.
When a person starts to awaken, he has embarked on the road of change. He has no time to be sad. At this time, he must do it to find a path to growth.
Everyone on this road is working hard and everyone is motivated, but unfortunately, according to the 28th rule, not everyone is destined to be able to accomplish things, because the information on the road is complicated and there are many confusing items. Maybe you have faith and work hard, but you just won’t get any reward.
This is normal for everyone who has struggled. Only those who have experienced this truly understand it. There is really no casual success. Successful people have insight into the essence of things and the underlying logic of things.
, facing massive information, what should I learn and how to learn it, this requires practice. Fortunately, there is a book to solve the problem.
Liu Run said:
"The purpose of adult learning should be to pursue a better thinking model , rather than more knowledge. In a backward thinking model, cognitive asymmetry, even if you increase the amount of information, it is just a low-level repetition."
And his "Base Logic: See the trump card of this world" is to let you learn to understand the essence of things, refuse blind efforts, and refuse low-level repetition. Learn the skills of "fishing", rather than just staring at the fish.
Finally, if life hurts you, instead of being sad and compromising with life, it is better to fight back and experience the joy of growth.
There is also, knowledge is learned, and skills are learned through practice. No matter how well written all books are, they are just a theory of success or a method of success. Only by applying the knowledge in the books to specific practices, using them to guide your life and letting them bring changes to you, can we not be in vain for a while to read.
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