As the old saying goes, marry a man and get dressed and eat. Women get married just to find someone to shelter from the wind and rain. But for some women, all the storms of her are brought by this person who married. But why do many people still insist on not getting divorced if

The old saying goes, marry a man and get dressed and eat. Women get married just to find someone to shelter from the wind and rain. But for some women, all the storms of her are brought by this person who married. But why do many people still insist on not getting divorced if their marriages are in turmoil?

Home violence , as long as there is one, there will be countless times. Therefore, some people advocate zero tolerance for domestic violence. However, in real marriages, although many families have domestic violence, it seems that there are not many divorces due to domestic violence.

I have met a friend. She and his husband quarreled almost every three days and every five days. It is even more common to do it. Every time I quarrel, I will throw whatever I can get, pots, pans, spoons, tables, chairs, benches, etc., which will become their weapons to attack the other party. They have a son who was admitted to university this year. At present, the couple basically take care of themselves and do not interfere with each other. My husband rarely gets money from home. My colleagues have formal jobs, so there is no requirement for money. It can be said that she neither expects her husband’s money nor has she expected her to do with this person.

Once upon a time, I asked her, since that's the case, why don't you get divorced?

She said that she didn't know either, maybe it was for her son. After all, that was my son's biological father. Perhaps, it was because of the rest, she couldn't explain it clearly.

43-year-old Yan Zhenzhen, who has been patient before she was 30 years old

My name is Yan Zhenzhen, I am 43 years old this year, and I am a born in the 1970s.

It is possible that as a post-70s generation, the current post-90s generation and post-00s generation's view of marriage is still different. I may still mind the divorce. So, I always think that after all, he is still the father of the child and wants to give the child a complete home, so as long as he does not mention divorce, I will not divorce.

My husband and I have met after no one introduced us to you. At the beginning, I was already an in-house teacher at in public school. My husband had a good family background. At that time, he was a chef and his income was also good. He is also tall and handsome. At the beginning, I was also attracted by his image. The two families are also considered to be a match.

However, shortly after getting married, some of my husband's bad habits were exposed. He is good at gambling, and as long as there is nothing to do, he will look for a gambling table and bet on his cards. At the beginning, we had no children and had money at home, so I didn’t care much. However, after I had a child, I was at home on maternity leave and needed to hire a substitute teacher, and my mother-in-law refused to help take care of the child. At this time, I realized that the so-called equality of the family is not about economic income, but about family concepts. My mother helped my sister-in-law take care of the children until she was in junior high school, and the children were only taken to the county town. I originally thought that after I took maternity leave, my mother-in-law could help me take care of the children, but this was just my wishful thinking and my mother-in-law didn't want to help me take care of the children.

There is no way. After taking maternity leave, I can only continue to take care of the child by myself. With the decrease in income and the increase in expenses after having children, my husband and I began to have conflicts over gambling licenses. Even, there was the first fight. After we started, I took the child to my parents' home, and my husband came to my parents' home to apologize to me. And he swears, saying that he will never gamble again. My parents also advised me that the child is still young, so for the sake of the child, I will forgive him once. Looking at the child holding in my arms, I also agreed to him and went home with my husband.

However, for a person who is tempted to bet, it is not that easy to quit gambling cards. From then on, because my husband bet on the cards, we had quarrels and fights again and again.

What makes me angry the most is that my parents-in-law turn a blind eye to their son’s gambling. They don’t advise their husbands to not bet, and they think gambling cards is a trivial matter. No one in the village doesn’t gamble. Why don’t people get angry and fight? Just me, because of this, he had a fight with their son. This made me feel desperate, and it was not good to fight alone. I've thought about divorce. However, my parents always advised me that if I have children, divorce is not that simple. After all, my husband is my son's biological father. It is not easy for a divorced woman to remarry with a boy. Then, as soon as my husband admitted his mistake, they advised me to bear it and passed it.When the child is older, the husband should get better.

After a long time, I accepted my fate. I think as long as he is good to his son, I will do whatever he wants.

Buying a house in the county made me completely desperate for him

My son is at the age of junior high school, thinking that the education in the county is better after all. I just thought about buying a house in the county town. Take your husband out of his original living environment. Leaving those familiar people, he may not be able to continue gambling on his cards. In this way, maybe our relationship can be eased a little.

However, after talking to my husband about buying a house, my husband refused. He said that our family has no money at all, so what kind of house should we buy? It puts pressure on ourselves.

Now the couple are farming and buying a house for their children. They want their children to receive a good education. Why can't we buy a house? Although we don’t have money, I will borrow some from my mother and ask him to borrow some from her parents-in-law, which is enough for the down payment of the house. I have provident fund , I have a salary, my husband finds a job, and we both work hard and will definitely be able to repay the borrowed money soon.

However, my husband went home to borrow money from his parents-in-law and didn’t borrow a penny. My parents-in-law said that they had saved all their money regularly. You are ridiculous, I took out my parents' home regularly, but the child's grandparents didn't lend a single amount of money. Later, using the money I borrowed, I bought the house I live in in the county town. After paying the down payment, the money in my pocket was only enough for steamed buns. However, thinking that my husband will stay away from those card friends in the future, it feels worth it.

Husband is simply lazy and ungrateful

After settling down in the county town, my husband has indeed been in good condition for a while. He found a restaurant to work. It was fine at the beginning, but the good times didn't last long. One day after get off work, my husband was at home. I was very surprised. This was the time when the hotel was busy. How could my husband be at home?

asked and found out that my husband stopped doing it. The reason was that a customer said that the food he cooked was not delicious, so he started arguing with the customer. The boss not only did not protect him, but also asked him to apologize to the guests. He said he quit, took off the chef's clothes and went home.

When you come back like this, who will make the dishes in the restaurant today? Didn’t you open a sunroof for your boss?

I care about him. If he didn't do this, he didn't know how many eyes Mr. Niu had, and he would dare to offend me! I want him to know how powerful I am.

What are you saying? How can you do this? You have offended the boss!

I am still afraid of offending him. I just don’t want to do it anymore!

That's it. My husband's behavior of giving up and opening the skylight not only made him lose this job, but also made him lose the opportunity to find a job in a larger hotel in the county town.

My husband is unemployed and at home. Stay for more than a year.

Because of this problem, we started endless quarrels and fights again.

The child is going to take the exam, and I no longer quarrel with my husband

In a blink of an eye, the child is going to take the exam for the high school entrance examination. In order to ensure that the child is not disturbed, my husband and I reached an agreement. Let him work outside the country. No matter whether you can make money or not, how much money you make. It's all his business. I don't care whether he will send money home or not. However, he had to call his son regularly. During the holidays, he has to go home to spend the New Year with his son.

After passing the high school entrance examination, it will be high school. The high school studies are so tight, and I don’t want to let my children be distracted by our affairs. Just thinking about giving your children a complete family.

This year, the child finally took the college entrance examination and became a freshman in school. My son has grown up. However, I no longer have the idea of ​​divorce. I always feel that life will continue like this. When the child comes home, he can always see his parents. As for us, that's it!