text: Zhang Yongwen
From the day your child goes to elementary school, whether you are an open-minded parent who claims that "the exam is not important", or a serious parents who "take every big and small exam seriously", you have an indissoluble bond with the exam.
Think about how frequently the exam is mentioned in parent-child conversations? Count how much time does your child spend every day studying, exams, reviewing test papers, or being sad or happy about exams? You can know how deeply the family life and parent-child relationship are affected by the exam. Chen Wenru, a teacher at the Kaohsiung Student Tutoring and Consulting Center and a teacher at Zhuangjing Primary School in Kaohsiung City who often holds parent-time lectures for teachers and parents, analyzed that excessive emphasis on exam scores is almost the biggest cause of parent-child conflict.
But you can't ignore the exam at all in order to avoid conflicts. Chen Wenru believes that parents should still care about the exam in . Their attitude should be that the exam is very important, but it is not scary. The positive purpose of the
exam is that can children know through the exam that I really know? Where is my place among my peers? How can I adjust my learning? More realistically, in the current learning atmosphere where test scores are emphasized, the performance of the test will shape the child's self-image.
Your care will affect the child, make him care about his study, many inspections and levels in his life, and more important large-scale exams in the future.
"Care for the exam" can carry the boat, but also overturn it. Many children who have abnormal exams do not know it, but because their parents are very careful about scores, they are afraid of exams.
main principle is that parents should care more about the process than the result. , are you prepared before the exam? After the exam, are there any solutions to understand what you don’t know?
To accompany your child to pass these exams smoothly, you must master the following principles:
1. Return to the essence of evaluation : Xu Yujian, director of the tutoring department of Nangang Primary School in Taipei, believes that the section exam is to draw fifty questions from the learning scope, and these fifty questions do not mean ability. As long as the child is not significantly behind, there is no need to worry. Moreover, the evaluation is a "health check for learning", in order to make learning more efficient, the parents' attitude is to see the part that they don't understand and need help, rather than why they are careless and deduct six points.
2. Understand the meaning of scores : Scores are meaningful, but they must be interpreted in the context of your understanding of the child's physical and mental state. Is the child’s learning fast or slow? What are the pros and cons?
3. Pay attention to children’s achievements outside of the “exam” and cultivate interests outside of the subject : draw some of the study time to let children exercise and cultivate diverse interests. Children can develop interests outside of the subject, and they will not be defeated if they fail the exam in a short time. When the exam is under great pressure, there is also a way to express your own pressure.
. Reading can open the door for children's lifelong learning, which is particularly important. Gao Jieren, director of academic affairs at Chenggong Primary School in Yilan County, observed with his nearly 20 years of teaching experience that most students who have made great progress in studying in high schools in China have developed good reading habits in primary schools.
4. Influencing children with attitude and accompanying older children with support : When faced with test scores, the way parents intervene must change with age. The younger the child is, the more likely it is to be influenced by your attitude. Take the child with attention but not caring about scores, and accompany the older child through the setbacks and lows brought by the exam.
Gao Jieren reminds that grades in elementary school are mostly the efforts of parents, but the deeper the effort, the more likely they fall into junior high school. He suggested that it would be ideal to maintain the top third of the class, and there would be no need to take the 100 or the top three.
The learning process ranges from fragments to integration, from memory to application, no matter how you take the exam, the kingly way is to develop a child's interest in reading widely and to protect his curiosity about knowledge. Even if he was not satisfied with several exams, he could get a beautiful transcript in his long life.
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