let go without any burden, just choose what you really need.
64 (2020) Japanese blogger Chocolat divorced at the age of 47. She shared her experience of "pre-organizing" over the years on her blog, as well as home skills to enjoy a comfortable life without spending a lot of money, with a monthly view of up to 600,000 people. Now all the items in the house are things she "really need and like", "reducing the need to have unnecessary items, the mind becomes more abundant."
You can often see a person's lifestyle from the living space. For Chocolat (ショコラ), "living alone" is the opportunity for her to start a new life.
html When she was 242 years old, she separated from her husband and started living alone. When she divorced five years later, she bought a single apartment with a living room and a living area of only 12 square meters. It has been 17 years since then. "When I left my ex-husband's house, I only had a chair, 3 clothes boxes and a few necessary items for my luggage. But with my own home, I originally liked home groceries and bought clothes, and I unknowingly accumulated more and more things." When I was 260 years old, looking at the house full of all kinds of miscellaneous items and furniture, she thought to herself, "If I don't have the strength to get old, or if I have any accidents, my two sons have to help me organize these things." In order not to bother the children, instead of waiting until I die before doing "tidying up" before she died, she decided that she might as well start "tidying up" when she still had the strength.↑Indoor area is not large, but because the excess furniture and debris are discarded, the overall space looks very refreshing.
Things you can't bear to throw away. Use the "reserved area" as a buffer. She first started with large furniture and eliminated too bulky seats, chests of drawers, and other items one after another. The old refrigerator could not be used, and it was also replaced with medium-sized sizes suitable for 1 to 2 people; then there were clothes, shoes, bags, tableware and kitchen utensils that were easier to organize. "As long as it is something that you can't move by yourself, you will almost be dealt with."
will no longer wear suits and suits that you need to go to work. Some of the clothes I bought when I was young are no longer suitable for me. First, after giving up these two types of clothes, gradually eliminate them, leaving only the clothes you like, feel comfortable wearing, and will continue to wear in the future.
If she is reluctant to throw away the clothes she may wear because of the high price, or she may wear them again, she will put them in a special suitcase as a "reserve zone" and open them 2 or 3 times a year for inspection. "Usually, when you look back, you almost forget about these clothes. You can throw them away without hesitation. If you still can't make up your mind, you can continue to put them back in the box." It took 2 years for
to complete home rectification. Now Chocolat's total number of clothes is only about 60, and there are only about 40 tableware for your own use, and less than 10 furniture at home. In the process of re-examining the choices, only what you really like and need are left behind.
↑After reducing the amount, each piece of clothing is the one I really like. Chocolat recommends that tops and dresses should be stored in hanging mode so that they will not be submerged in the depths of the wardrobe.
"After sorting, it seems like you have re-understood the value of the items to yourself, you will cherish what you have left behind more. Even if your life is simple, you can feel rich and fulfilled."
switched to small lightweight packaging to reduce waste and be more convenient
In addition to reducing the amount of items around you as much as possible, because if you live alone, Chocolat mostly changes to small-sized and small-volume packaging when purchasing daily necessities, seasonings or ingredients. Not only does it save storage space and easy to use, it can also be eaten in fresh conditions to avoid waste due to expiration.
↑below the flow table is the tableware you usually use, which is easy to use. Most seasonings are made of small-capacity packages purchased by 100 yuan shops, and are lightweight and not easy to expire.
In the past, she also bought good-looking but heavy brand-name bags in the OL era. Now when she chooses to buy bags and personal belongings, she regards "lightweight" as her top priority. For example, folding umbrellas, thermos, wallets, coin wallets, etc., all of them are replaced with mini and lightweight materials and sizes.
After her divorce, she returned to the workplace. With the savings from working in the housewife era, after paying off her mortgage within 10 years, she now works for 4 days a week, and her monthly expenses are controlled within 120,000 yuan (about 6,700 yuan). After deducting the necessary water, electricity, gas and building management fees, she will charge her monthly meals and living expenses in two small wallets. Just take a look and you can see how much budget this month is.
After the number of items in the house decreased, she no longer shopped impulsively and developed the habit of simple life. If she uses a credit card or swipes a card online to spend money, she will withdraw cash from her wallet and deposit it back to the bank, so that she will not spend money without feeling.
Re-examine interpersonal social interaction and live a life that suits you. Although life is simple, Chocolat, who has lived alone for more than 20 years, has never felt lonely. He has applied the principle of focusing on quality but not weight to interpersonal relationships.
and friends from high school maintained a monthly lunch party and met some online clubs composed of single women on social software. When I bought the apartment, many of the residents in the same building were single women of the same generation. They occasionally contacted each other's current situation and agreed that if they had any needs, they could help each other. In contrast, friends who feel pressure when they are together or who always exude an unpleasant aura will gradually keep their distance.
"Maybe because of my age, I gradually stopped comparing with others, and then felt inferior or vanity. Even those who look glamorous on the surface may have unknown difficulties. So there is no need to envy or be jealous of others. Just live the life you like within your own abilities."
She will concentrate on gatherings of friends and children, or returning to her parents' home on Saturdays and never go out all day on Sundays. Don’t wear makeup or wear comfortable clothes, and take a look at your favorite books (most of them are borrowed from the library, which neither takes up space nor spends money) or TV series, and spend a day of complete relaxation.
Don’t fear the old age. Age is a proof of hard work.
Many people will ask Chocolat: Don’t you worry about living alone in your old age and no one will take care of you?
said to this: Instead of worrying about not knowing whether something will happen, it is better to live every day in front of you, which is also a way to prepare for the old age. Sometimes she complains to her mother that she is old, and her mother always says, "What are you saying this? You are still young." Chocolat's mother is 90 years old this year. She has lived alone for more than 10 years after her husband passed away. She still cooks and cleanses by herself, and reads newspapers every day.
She is ready to regard her current home as a place for her lifetime. If there is a situation where she really needs someone to take care of her, she can also sell the house and move into a nursing home.
Chocolat likes the Japanese drama " Penultimate Love " very much. The protagonist said when celebrating his birthday for 46-year-old Koizumi today: "There are two meanings for celebrating your birthday: one is to celebrate your birth in the world, and the other is to celebrate your life well at this moment. Many people don't like to celebrate your birthday when they get older, but the older they get, the more they should celebrate your birthday! Every candle is evidence that you have worked hard until now."
does not need to feel sad about the age of time, but you can live a satisfied life by enjoying every day accumulated by the past.
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