In the past two days, the 48-year-old Zhong Liti has been on the hot search.
It turned out that she was going to prepare for her fourth child, but her 20-year-old eldest daughter Yasmine was worried about her physical condition.
"My boss is more worried about her mother, but I think life needs to be happy and challenging, and the big family will be more lively."
In order to prepare for this child, she has always been strict with her figure and has gained a lot of weight.
But Joey Wong thinks it is worth it.
48 years old, with three daughters, divorced twice, 12 years apart from her current husband Zhang Lunshuo , and now she is taking the risk to have a baby for him.
It’s not that Zhong Liti’s marriage has caused many people to worry about since the beginning. What exactly is
? What makes Joey Wong have such a deep "obsession" about having a child?
Jong Liti once had two marriages.
The first marriage was in 1998.
At that time, she was like a hot spring onion.
The mermaid she played in the movie "The Legend of the Mermaid" has no replacement for anyone and is so beautiful.
But when her career was booming, she chose to have a daughter with her Belgian boyfriend Glenn Ross who had known her for a month. She quickly got married and quit the entertainment industry.
But this marriage lasted only one year.
In 2003, Joey Chung married Taiwanese musician Yan Zheng .
Zhong Liti once admitted:
"I don't know much about men. Maybe because I was born in Canada, I was a boy since I was a child, and I think it's best to do everything by myself. Until today I know that being someone's wife sometimes has to be strong, sometimes weak, and gentle."
Yan Zheng is a musician, but he is often called "Zhong Liti's husband".
Jong Liti's fame has become a "sin".
He can't accept such days.
Marriage is a game of chess and opponents. If one party’s strength is imbalanced, it will lose all the game.
Later, Yan Zheng was exposed to cheating, went to a nightclub, had sex with hot girls, and was lingering and was happy.
The sense of accomplishment that cannot be found in your own wife is realized by other women.
Finally, this 7-year marriage was also declared over.
Later, Zhong Liti met Zhang Lunshuo. In the variety show " toast to drink ", Zhang Lunshuo also bluntly said that he didn't like others calling him "Jung Liti's husband", and some even called him a novice.
This Shandong man pointed at Zhong Liti in front of everyone and said, "You ask her if I have spent her money?"
In addition, unlike Zhong Liti, although Zhang Lunshuo is also in the entertainment industry, he is very traditional and conservative.
so, two people sometimes quarrel.
Jong Liti once cut a very trendy hairstyle, but Zhang Lunshuo couldn't accept it.
Because of hairstyle problems, the two quarreled for a whole 2 days.
Zhang Lunshuo believes that even if Joey Chung wants to have this trendy hairstyle, he should say hello to him first. And the most important point is that he thinks Joey Chung is the mother of three children.
Jong Liti still can’t understand why, as a mother of three children, has any conflict with herself in making trendy hairstyles?
I am a mother, but the premise is that I am myself first. Zhong Liti is very clear about this point.
However, Joey Wong still made concessions for Zhang Lunshuo.
Even because Zhang Lunshuo doesn't like her dress, she went to buy clothes and went to search for Zhang Lunshuo's opinions on the spot. There is a "20 me" link in the program
.
Zhong Liti looked at Zhang Lunshuo with tears in her eyes and said:
I hope I can continue to understand you more
I hope I can give birth to a healthy baby for you very quickly
I hope we will be better
I hope we will have less quarrels and will be better
I hope you know that I really work hard and love you very seriously
...
In a word, my future is all about you.
But to be honest, this kind of love is too heavy, and it can even be said to have lost oneself.
A woman, focusing her whole life on a man, may make men feel that this is a "weight that life cannot bear" and chooses to escape, betray, and hurt.
This is also a problem for many married women.
I treat you so well, but why do you hurt me in the end?
actually, because as the giving party, you stand on the moral high ground and will make the recipient live in uncontrollable fear.
In order to "fight" this fear, he will do many actions that hurt you.
and what about Zhang Lunshuo?
He hopes that his movie can win awards, want his own concert, and win the best male singer and the best actor.
The last, he hopes that everyone will say in the future that person is "Zhang Lunshuo's wife" rather than "Jung Liti's husband".
His future is more of himself.
This may be the reason why Joey Wong feels insecure.
. Regarding the child’s question, Zhang Lunshuo once said:
"I consider her age, both of us are very busy at work. It is hard to say whether there are children or not. If God gives it, of course it is a happy thing. If not, let it go, and let it go ."
But now, Joey Wong has not left the will and let it go.
Her desire to have a child all overflows the screen.
So, is the purpose of a woman getting married to have a child?
Not long ago, a news broke on Weibo.
A blogger named "Teacher Zhuo" who has now been changed to "Teacher Baby" has been criticized and even the official media can't help but hang him out.
turned out to be his challenge to "show off wealth" and suddenly "fall" out 12 children, and they were all children he gave birth to with different women.
This straight man who is said to have only junior high school education but has a "diaosi counterattack" of over 100 million yuan, taught women online to obey men and believe that the value of women lies in reproduction.
He advocates that a woman has no talent is virtue, and believes that only with the value of fertility can a woman truly attract men who love him.
For working women who have given birth, he called him "an idiot female white-collar worker".
. For those women with high education, he believes that there are only three choices: never marry for life, lose children and grandchildren; raise a man to marry and send express delivery.
even said that men were going to rape a leftover woman over 30 years old and then gave birth to a child, and older leftover women were going to jail.
In addition, this person also elevated his cheating behavior to the patriotic level:
"To have a child! To revitalize the family! To revitalize the nation!"
Coincidentally, in the blind date corner of Luxun Park, Shanghai, an uncle came to date his daughter. In the video of
, he said that the division of labor in the family should be clear, and girls should have children when they get married, and it is wrong not to have children.
This is a father's positioning of his daughter.
One stone caused a thousand scoops, and many netizens were furious.
Some netizens laughed at this. Humanity’s future is nothing to do with me. I just want to live my life.
But some people disagree, believing that giving birth should be a woman's business, and many women even agree with it.
Why do some women are so persistent in having children?
1. Reproductive value
0 Reproductive is a unique instinct for women. Many people believe that women who have never given birth to children are incomplete and cannot reflect the value that a woman should have.
2. Relationship fear
There are a considerable number of married women who have unreasonable beliefs about husband and wife relationships, believing that if they don’t have children, their husbands will be cold, or because their husbands want a boy and want a second child, if their wife disagrees, their husbands are likely to cheat and ask their mistresses to have a boy.
3. Compensate maternal love
Some women suffered trauma from native family in their childhood, and they could not digest it themselves, so they would have a compensatory mentality in childbirth, so they would heal themselves by constantly giving birth and using the child to heal themselves.
Is it a sin to not have children?
There is a question on Zhihu that many girls hate having children.
The most praiseworthy answer below reads:
My husband wants children just based on the level of "the little baby is very cute". His in-laws just think that "the family tradition needs to be passed on", and his parents just want to "children and grandchildren around their knees".
Everyone wants to get benefits, but no one thinks about what I have endured as a mother.
Everyone subconsciously thinks that I will give and I will do everything well, and then they just enjoy the time to play with their children.
Whoever wants children should take the initiative to take the responsibility of taking care of children.
Otherwise, you want a child but don’t want to be responsible. I was in pain when I was ten months pregnant and my career and figure were affected. I also had to wipe my shit, urine, cook and rub the floor every day just to make you have a child to play with?
As a mother, I should let my child see how a person should strengthen himself and firmly grasp his destiny in his own hands. This is more important than feeding him.
When I became a yellow-faced woman with a bloated figure and no job and disconnected from society, my husband abandoned me, my parents-in-law would definitely not stand on my side, my parents would definitely think that I was not doing well, and my children would not want a failed mother.
so no matter where you are, being responsible for yourself is the most important thing.
Some time ago, the heroine Yingniang was the "loyal" executor of the "three obediences and four virtues" in feudal society.
Husband is heaven, and the meaning of a woman is to pass on the family line. Mothers must sacrifice everything for their children.
so, she already has three daughters and insists on having a son.
"What's my bad life? I must give birth to a son for Jizong!"
"You ask them to use a knife to open my stomach and take out the child!"
"Second Young Master, I can't deserve you, so you can divorce me. The divorce book says that Yingniang is not in charge of her parents-in-law and can't give birth to a son."
In fact, Yingniang is a typical "passive guilt".
That is, once others fail to get what they want because of their own reasons, they will feel guilty.
Pay too much attention to others than yourself, and always put other people's emotions first.
In order to relieve this guilt, more "compensational behaviors" will be even done.
But having children is a woman's right, not an obligation.
Whether to live or not depends on the woman's own wishes.
The uterus is not for men, not for the country, but for women themselves.
This ordinary and sacred thing is just because you want to have a child of your own with the one you love.
that's all.
And this child is a newborn, a hope, and a continuation.
—— Heart helps, not lonely ——
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