Anna, who married into China, is an absolute Ukrainian beauty. Which mother-in-law doesn’t love such a beautiful and sensible daughter-in-law?
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem in China. So, after only two months of being together, the Ukrainian daughter-in-law Anna expressed her idea of splitting up with her parents-in-law.
What's going on? Why did Anna take the initiative to split up?
Anna
Ukrainian beauty and Chinese boys meet and fall in love
Anna is a native of Kiev, Ukraine. Under the cultivation of her parents, she has excellent academic performance since she was a child, her spiritual world is also very full, and she has her own unique insights into all aspects of things.
She started learning Chinese at the age of 16. After being exposed to the profound heritage of Chinese culture, she not only marveled at the charming charm of Chinese culture, but also had the idea of learning Chinese well from the bottom of her heart. Since then, she has become more proactive in learning Chinese and has stricter requirements for her own learning.
After continuous study, Ukrainian beauty Anna successfully got the opportunity to study abroad for public funds. For her own studies, she came to study in China, where she had always dreamed of, and studied abroad at Shanghai Normal University to pursue a master's degree.
Anna
And Zhang Guotai is a native Chinese, and his parents are both older generation intellectuals with culture. Similarly, it was under the cultivation of her parents that Zhang Guotai had the opportunity to study in Ukraine and get to know Anna.
Zhang Guotai looks good and is a decent person. After ending his college life, he went to work in Ukraine and worked as an executive in Kiev, Ukraine.
By chance, Anna went back to Ukraine for a summer vacation. Her friend said she would introduce her to a Chinese working in Ukraine to meet her, and she happily agreed. This man is Zhang Guotai, the new friend his friends want to introduce to her. After learning that Zhang Guotai is Chinese, Anna was very happy and chatted with him throughout the journey. They talked about food from Chinese culture until night fell.
Time flies very quickly, Anna's overseas study in China ended, so she returns to Kiev . In order to celebrate Anna's successful graduation, Zhang Guotai invited her to have a sumptuous dinner. This is the second time the two met.
Zhang Guotai
They had endless topics like they met for the first time, but they had more concern for each other. Because the two are very close, they often come out to chat together.
Just like that, under the introduction of a friend, she met Zhang Guotai. Since both parents are intellectuals, they have similar ways of educating their children. Under the cultivation of parents of both parties, both children are kind and talkative people.
Plus, the two of them have similar learning backgrounds. They hit it off at first sight and felt that their values were very suitable, so everything was natural and they finally got together. After
, Zhang Guotai's parents learned that their future daughter-in-law is Ukrainian . Considering the long-term development of their son and daughter-in-law in the future, they decided to buy a house for their son and daughter-in-law in Ukraine.
Ukrainian
Just like that, Anna and Zhang Guotai began their sweet little days. After working, they returned home after work and had dinner together, and lived a small life of having no worries about food and clothing.
So in 2011, Zhang Guotai and Anna got married in 2011, and not long after, their first daughter Angelina was born. A few years later, the second baby was born. The arrival of the two daughters added a lot of joy to the couple. The two of them also became more considerate of each other and understood the difficulties of each other because of the arrival of their children.
But not long after such days, unfortunate things happened again: due to frequent wars in Ukraine, various dangers often occur, Zhang Guotai and his wife and their two daughters are frequently in panic, and the safety of the family of four is not guaranteed.After repeated discussions between the two and communication with their parents, they decided to go home and change the fearful life.
Anna and her daughter
Zhang Guotai's parents were so happy to hear that their son and his family of four were going back to China to settle down.
In order to welcome the arrival of his daughter-in-law, Zhang Guotai’s parents specially redesigned their wedding photos, framed them into photo frames, and specially made these photo frames into photo walls. On the day Zhang Guotai returned to China, the whole family went to the airport to greet them. Zhang Guotai's mother looked at her daughter-in-law and granddaughter and couldn't help but be happy, with a happy smile on her face.
photo wall
At the same time, while Zhang Guotai's parents were overjoyed, they also had some concerns: Anna grew up in Ukraine, so can she adapt to the water and soil of China? Can all kinds of customs be accepted? It also made Zhang Guotai’s parents worry...
But these worries disappeared after their parents-in-law saw Anna at first. Anna was cheerful and spoke very fluently in Chinese. Therefore, after spending a period of time, her parents-in-law expressed their satisfaction with this foreign daughter-in-law.
In-laws clean the house inside and out every day. Even the lives of their two daughters are taken care of very well. Several people often talk and laugh together, and they also play games with their grandchildren.
The first time the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a conflict due to differences in eating habits
As native to Hunan, they don’t have a little spicy on their dining table. Why is this? It attracted everyone's curiosity.
It turned out that this was the first big meal for Ukrainian daughter-in-law Anna to her parents-in-law’s house. In order to make Anna feel comfortable, her parents-in-law conducted research on Ukrainian diet. They found that Ukraine has always been baked and could not eat a little chili at all, so they decided to only make some list diets.
In Xiangtan, Hunan, there is a saying that you can’t eat spicy food and you can’t eat anything. Eating chili peppers is not only a local tradition, but also contains health preservation methods. Using chili peppers can remove moisture from the body.
Hunan Food
Mother-in-law said: "When I first came, Cathay Pacific did not come back, only Anna came back, but Cathay Pacific gave us all the things that need attention."
Therefore, in order to avoid making Anna feel uncomfortable, she specially made a relatively light diet like mushrooms. In fact, everyone knows that mushrooms are an extremely light diet in our daily lives, but Anna often feels that they are so spicy that they can't adapt. Moreover, many foods that have no taste in Anna's opinion are not spicy, so they have a lot of conflicts.
Mother-in-law also said: "Anna can't eat spicy food, nor is she suitable for fried food. She eats healthier. Another thing is that she doesn't eat any seasonings, she only eats salt and oil."
But for her in-laws, their eating habits in the past few decades have been fixed and cannot be changed. Therefore, the conflict between parents-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting bigger and bigger. Anna can’t eat what her parents-in-law can’t eat, while in-laws can’t eat what she can’t eat. My father-in-law felt that he had never eaten enough every time he had eaten. After he had eaten simply at home, he had to go to a shop outside to chew two chicken legs before he could barely get full.
Ana's father-in-law
But even so, Anna and her daughter were still unacceptable to the local conditions and ran to the hospital every few days, and they couldn't eat a little spicy at all. Because of this, the mother and daughter spent nearly half a year in the hospital.
In order to take care of Anna and her granddaughter's eating habits, the parents-in-law and family had to change their tastes and habits for decades, and all changed their tastes, from traditional Hunan cuisine to clear soup noodle , which was not spicy at all.
Although the parents-in-law only eat half full every time, the whole family can sit together and eat. As the elderly, they are still very happy.
In addition to the differences in diet, many customs and habits are also different. As everyone knows, when a daughter-in-law enters the house, she naturally has to introduce her to all kinds of relatives and friends. Especially foreign high-educated foreign daughters-in-law, they have to bring them out for their friends to see them, and they have a long face.
Anna's family
And putting aside these, from another perspective, we gather together during the Chinese New Year and everyone gathers in a lively dumpling. This is a traditional Chinese custom, but in Anna's view, these are completely meaningless things, and she calls these "social engagements".
Once, Zhang Guotai's sister and brother-in-law invited Anna to visit their house. Considering that Anna was not used alone, her mother-in-law took the initiative to accompany her.
Anna
After meeting her sister and brother-in-law, Anna took the initiative to say hello politely and gave her a gift. Afterwards, the sister proposed to hold a dumpling making competition. In order to make Anna more relaxed and comfortable, the mother-in-law said to Anna: "You can just make the dumplings from your side. Let's see who made more."
Soon, the competition ended. The dumplings made by Anna were chubby and had a unique flavor. As everyone guessed, Anna did not win the dumpling making. However, the mother-in-law helped her smooth things over and said, "They don't have the most dumplings, but the shape of your dumplings is the best and the most exquisite."
dumplings
From here we can also see that in order to make Anna adapt to the customs and customs of China well, Zhang Guotai's mother took great pains to try her best to make her daughter-in-law adapt to life in China.
But despite Zhang Guotai's family making so much effort, because there are differences between countries, everyone has received different environments and education since childhood, Anna still cannot fully adapt. After a long time, she thinks that the gathering is simply torture.
Therefore, after repeated consideration, she decided to reject this kind of party behavior, which made her parents-in-law feel very embarrassed.
So Zhang Guotai made various reconciliations from it. Afterwards, her parents-in-law expressed understanding and respect for Anna's behavior, and Anna also knew very well that she would stay in China for a long time in the future and needed to take care of the worldly affairs with everyone and handle various relationships well.
In terms of children's education, foreign daughter-in-law will never give in
In addition to eating habits and customs and culture, the educational philosophy of parents-in-law and Anna also has many conflicts.
Everyone knows the saying "Everyone is close to ". Zhang Guotai's mother finally became a grandmother, so of course she wanted to revolve around her granddaughter every day, so she must meet her requests for her granddaughter.
Anna is a master's degree in the Chinese Department of Shanghai Normal University, and she has her own opinions on educating her children. She thought that children could be pampered, but they could not spoiled. She had seen children who pampered before, but had never seen children who pampered them too much. Therefore, Anna and her parents-in-law had certain conflicts in educating their children.
Anna
To give a simple example, Anna usually has high requirements for her daughter. Whether in terms of study, life and diet, she will strictly demand her children and want to help her daughter grow up healthily. However, grandma is different. As long as Anna is not around, it will be fine if her granddaughter wants to eat ice cream or buy a toy.
Grandma said afterwards: "Anna is strict with her children. If you can't buy food that cannot be eaten, that's not possible. She has her own bottom line. But we have no requirements. We just need whatever the child needs, and we can give it to whatever we think.”
Anna’s mother-in-law
In fact, from the bottom of her heart, her parents-in-law still agrees with Anna’s educational philosophy, but often because she can’t resist her granddaughter’s spoiledness, she will still secretly buy it for her children.
Anna also considers that her parents-in-law always thinks about herself, so she thanks her parents-in-law from the bottom of her heart, but she will not choose to give in to education.
Anna
In addition to these problems, Anna is also extremely uncomfortable with the weather in the south. Although the weather in Ukraine is not as cold as in the south, they have heating indoors, and the old house where Anna lives has no heating, so she will get cold and runny nose and even have a fever every time. This way, she runs to the hospital repeatedly, and Anna feels extremely uncomfortable.
Finally, under all kinds of discomforts, Anna proposed to her parents-in-law the idea of living in a separate house. Although her parents-in-law were not willing and could not bear to leave her granddaughter, she still respected her ideas and agreed to live separately.
The birth of a foreign wife after the separation of the family was made by the foreign wife. Living
After agreeing to Anna's need to live separately, her parents-in-law happily took out all her savings to help decorate the new home. The two old men set up heating for the new home and helped to buy new furniture.
So in this way, Anna and her parents-in-law separated. But in this way, Anna became even busier, and she was busy taking care of the two children alone. Every morning, Anna got up to help her daughters wear clothes and socks, and dressed up the children cleanly, and helped them make breakfast. After everything was busy, she sent her children to school.
In addition, the home at home Most of the responsibilities are done independently by Anna. During holidays, Zhang Guotai will play with his daughter, help with housework in his spare time, and sometimes learn Ukrainian food to make it for his wife.
Anna does housework
In the kindergarten, the daughter performed very well and was praised by the teacher. The teacher also said: "Angelina performed very well in kindergarten and would do everything by herself, so we awarded her the title of "Almighty Baby". This title is only four students in our kindergarten, so your daughter is really great. "
When the teacher evaluates her daughter like this, Anna couldn't help but smile with relief.
Angelina kindergarten teacher
After picking up the child from school, Anna will go through the vegetable market to buy vegetables. Because she is Ukrainian and can speak fluent Chinese, the old men and aunts in the vegetable market are very curious about her, and she is also very Easy to remember. Therefore, when the enthusiastic old man and aunt go to buy vegetables, they will give her a handful of scallions or ginger, and Anna is also very happy about this.
After buying food in the vegetable market, Anna gets busy as soon as she enters the house and prepares for dinner. Her cooking skills in making Ukrainian food are simply amazing. The food she cooks makes her daughter praise her. She eats all her food every time and will ask her to take a few more bowls. But sometimes her daughter will also be because of her mother. She cried without accompanying her, and Anna could only put down the cooking tools in her hand and play with her daughter for a while before continuing to cook.
After the separation, although she was very busy, Anna also understood the kindness of her parents-in-law to her and expressed her gratitude for her parents-in-law's efforts. But she never regretted being separated from her parents-in-law. Although she worked a little hard, she reduced many conflicts.
Now every weekend, Anna would get up early to wash up for her two daughters and prepare to visit her parents-in-law's house. She also pays more attention to the weekly family gatherings.
Family gatherings
Parents and mothers miss their granddaughters very much. They know that their daughter-in-law and children cannot eat spicy food, so they buy appropriate ingredients in advance every weekend to let the children have a light meal.
In this case, they can get together once a week, which is much happier than meeting every day before.
Conclusion:
Since ancient times, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been common, especially since Anna is a Ukrainian. There are big gaps in culture, diet and living habits with China, so it is inevitable to have conflicts.
But they all have different advantages in order to better resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The best thing about Anna is that she will directly put forward her ideas to communicate with her parents-in-law, and her biggest advantage is that she will consider her daughter-in-law everywhere and is more understanding.
Therefore, the separation of family did not make Anna's life a mess, but instead made Anna's life qualitatively improve.
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