In life, we will meet all kinds of people. Some people have broad minds. When you get along with them, you will feel that your mood will become wider; some people have cunning hearts. When you get along with them, you will feel exhausted.
Ancient people said: "There is no mistake for villains, but gentlemen often live." Those who have distorted views will never feel that they have done something wrong, but will use a "double standard" mentality to demand themselves and others.
When we get along with such people, we must grasp the degree and measure. Some people also say, wouldn’t it be better to stay away from such people?
However, the environment we live in is not something we can decide. We will always meet a few such villains in our lives. Staying away from it is a method, but it is not applicable to everyone.
Many villains are good at disguising, and it is difficult for us to discover the true face of each other at the first time. Usually when you recognize the other person’s appearance, you have already suffered a loss once.
Many people think that making friends is just for sincerity, but this is for a gentleman. No matter how much sincerity you get along with a villain is of no use. Instead, it will make the other party control your kindness and sincerity and suppress you everywhere.
Once saw a story like this: a scorpion fell into the water, and an old monk went to save it and was stung by the scorpion. Others asked, "You know that a scorpion can hibernate people, why do you need to save it?" The old monk replied that kindness is my nature, and stinging is the nature of a scorpion.
Many people feel that they have the ability to transform another person. We use our hearts and kindness to influence the villains around us, but we cannot do it. We comfort our hearts like the monk in , and do not have the ability to protect ourselves in the face of the cunning of the villains.
So over time, the resentment and anger in my heart are like a volcano, accumulating more and more. But in the face of this situation, what we need to do is not to find villains to argue, but to hide our true feelings and maintain superficial peace.
Revealing the villain’s shortcomings in public is actually a terrible thing, and the other party will definitely try his best to take revenge. It’s better to pretend to be perfunctory. Over time, he will naturally expose his problems.
We can show our kindness, but we can show our bottom line before the rage is over. When getting along, you have no resentment, but you must have your own sharpness and appropriately show your strength to shock the other party.
Writer Su Cen once said: "Whoever is comfortable with you will be with you, including friends, so will you stay away when you are tired. Those who can get into my heart will be the king, and those who don't, will not be perfunctory."
The same is true for villains. If you work with villains for a long time, your heart will be very tired. Because what they are best at is picking the bones in eggs, we should be better at improving ourselves while staying away from each other as much as possible.
Getting along with villains, remember not to be close to you or be close. You can be enthusiastic on the surface, but don’t talk about things that have any substantial significance. Of course, if you reach the level that is beyond the reach of a villain, you can also be "disdained and perfunctory" as the writer Su Cen said.
interact with villains, due to etiquette, please remember to go deeper. Try to minimize the intersection between the two parties, and do not trust each other's words easily. You must have the ability to restrain yourself, otherwise you will be exhausted both physically and mentally.
Fighting with villains is undoubtedly lowering itself to a higher level. We don’t have to promote the villain’s face everywhere. It’s hard to draw bones when painting tigers and skins. As time goes by, everyone will see the villain’s true face clearly.
Everyone in this world has different qualities, high and low realms. The best wisdom is never to be tit-for-tat, but to be round and flexible, smooth and self-protection-friendly.
Getting along with villains is a practice in life.
There is a saying that the person who brings harm to you is here to save you. We do not recognize this person, but we can summarize the experience and lessons from the matter to avoid secondary harm.
Then just treat working with villains as a practice, let yourself cultivate into a big picture and be generous.
If you don’t have a deep friendship with a villain, just nod your head; if you talk less with a villain, remember not to leave your talk; if you don’t share the benefits with a villain, be careful to be used and fall into a trap.
Of course, if both parties have inseparable interests, remember to give in. We can appropriately give the other party the benefit of not exceeding the limit, but don’t let them take advantage of it, otherwise it will be easy to get entangled by the other party.
When facing villains, you must not only learn to give in, but also learn to fight back in time. This is not an act of intent, but a clear view of the situation hitting the opponent's seven inches.
Many people seem confused, but in fact they are wise people. They know how to look outside the circle, look outside the matter itself, let it be contentious.
"Get first and attack later" is not cowardly, it is just a different attitude towards different people. Only by following the trend and facing each other can one achieve less harm in the war with villains and achieve yourself.
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[Written|Weiwei'an: The pen has warmth and speaks for emotion. An atypical writer who loves words invites you to perceive life together]
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