I have never tried the magic speed of netizens even if I delete it in seconds. It is only a week before the divorce between Wang Xiaofei and Big S. "Your circle" always has a steady stream of divorce melons, the difference is whether the difference is decent.

Recently, Li Xiang 's ex-husband Wang Yuelun A screenshot of a late-night Weibo post threw out another big green melon -

1 second deletion and never competed with the magic speed of netizens. It is only a week before the previous wave of Wang Xiaofei and Big S divorce melon.

"Your circle" always has a steady stream of divorce melons, the difference is just whether the difference is decent.

In fact, no matter which circle you are in, or because of inconsistent growth steps, or because of disagreement in the three views, or because of a dazzled look,...

In short, many people can resolutely choose to press the marriage stop button.

Looking back at Chinese history, it is also common for couples to divorce.

In ancient times, about couple divorce, in fact, mainly includes three ways: divorce, divorce, and judging . It is just that because of systems and concepts, the degree of freedom is not that high.

Even so, there will still be strong women who brazenly use "divorce" to protect their rights. Today we will take a look at the divorce of ancient celebrities.

"Spent" Mencius divorced wife

When it comes to divorce in ancient times, you may soon think of a divorce book in the TV series.

Indeed, "departing a wife" is the most typical way to end a marriage. (The word divorce appeared in the Jin Dynasty. "Book of Jin·Biography of Prince Min Huai": "At the beginning, the prince was deposed. The concubine, Wang Yanbiao asked for divorce." )

In this type of divorce, it is obvious that women are in an absolute passive position.

But in fact, the terms of "seven out" and " not going to " are clearly written there, not just leaving.

The first item of "seven outs" is "not following parents", and the second is "no child". The tragedy between

Lu You and Tang Wan was the main thing that won these two.

As we all know, the two have a good relationship, but Lu You's mother cannot accept that Miss Wan is addicted to the love of her children all day long with the "hope of the whole family", which makes her miss her future. She couldn't accept that her daughter-in-law had nowhere to go after more than a year after entering the house.

In the end, this pair of miserable mandarin ducks can only "have a sad heart and have a few years of separation. Wrong, wrong, wrong!".

The other few are "lewdness" (confusing bloodline), "jealousy" (impeding the concubine to continue the incense), "talking too much" (good at right and wrong), "having evil diseases" (incurable diseases and infectious diseases will affect genes), and finally "theft" (a woman who uses her home property without voluntarily is theft).

Will there still women dream of traveling back to ancient times?

Mencius also contributed an interesting story about divorce.

According to the " Han Poetry Bible " written by Han Ying in the Han Dynasty:

One day, Mencius went out and suddenly returned home. He accidentally ran into his wife sitting on the ground (the correct posture should be kneeling. The sitting position is also called "金". It refers to stretching his legs and sitting with his knees slightly bent like a scattered bridge. Lenovo The dress of that era can be understood as a sitting position that is easy to expose, so it is regarded as a rude).

Lin Xi : Let me demonstrate the elegant sitting posture

Mencius was very dissatisfied and told his mother that he would divorce his wife. Regarding this story, Xunzi once gave a solid impression with the sentence "Mencius was defeated and his wife was born."

Fortunately, Meng's mother has always been wise and wise, so she turned around and asked her son: "You went to the room and didn't knock on the door, say hello in advance!"

Mengzi was ashamed and immediately gave up the idea of ​​divorced wife.

In ancient times, did women have room for resistance to divorce their wives?

Can the rights and interests of women be protected?

We can look at the terms of three no-go:

. Those who once mourned for their parents-in-law for three years cannot rest

. The wife who married her husband when he was poor and humble cannot rest

3. A wife who has no mother's family can go back cannot rest.

At first glance, it seems to be speaking for women, but if you look closely at these few items, you still don't consider women's personal emotional factors. The starting point is still just to maintain the growth and stability of the family .

"Divorce" king Anshi decides to let his son and daughter-in-law divorce

I wonder if you have discovered that these kinds of articles are more popular today Case:

"Walking together halfway, one parting is two wide, the rest of my life is long, and I still wait for family affection." "There is no regrets when we meet, no regrets in the past." "In this life, the relationship between husband and wife has ended here. I'm fine, you take care of yourself." ·····························································································································································································································································································································································································································

Ancient saying goes, leaving three points of room for everything, let alone couples who have been kind and loving.

In ancient times, there was also harmony in addition to the "seven outs".

Hisi and "death wife" are that he must have the consent of the woman.

"Tang Lu Shu Announcement·House Marriage" contains the earliest records about Heli. The bottom line of this type is "not hurting the favor of the two surnames" and "not hindering the family reputation".

and Lishu are generally written by the man, and relatives of both parties need to come forward to preside over the meeting, and their words are generally more tactful, similar to "I'm fine, you take care of yourself."

It should be noted that the woman still has no initiative.

About Heli, Northern Song famous reformer Wang Anshi has "practice".

Wang Anshi has a son named Wang Yun (pāng). He was talented when he was young, but later he became ill and had some mental problems.

He always feels that his son is different from his appearance, so he doubts his wife Pang Shi for no reason. The two of them argued constantly, and the child eventually died.

Wang Anshi saw it and felt pain in his heart.

In ancient times, I believe this daughter-in-law is also a well-educated person. Wang Anshi understood the innocent Wang Anshi in his daughter-in-law and grandson.

At the same time, Wang Anshi himself also has a daughter. He really couldn't bear to look at a woman who was almost the same as his daughter, who was in full swing in this abyss of pain.

Finally, he decided to make the decision for his son and let his son and daughter-in-law divorce.

This not only helped her daughter-in-law to escape from the sea of ​​suffering, but also avoided her bad reputation of "losing her morality and being relieved".

Later, Wang Anshi also accepted his daughter-in-law as his adopted daughter, chose another marriage for her, and married her out in a grand manner. The people praised them all.

Willows are soft and the smoke is weaving into sorrow. The crabapple has not rained, and the pear blossoms are snowed first, and the spring is over.

Now, it is difficult to reflect on the past, and I dream of returning to Qin Tower. Lovesickness is only there, on the lilac branches and on the tops of cardamom.

This poem touches the scene and makes love, and the sorrow of parting is tear-jerking. It was later written by Wang Rong missing his wife.

However, it is difficult to collect water. It takes a hundred years to cultivate a sleeping pillow. Marriage is not easy, so you should cherish it as soon as possible.

"Sent" Li Qingzhao 2nd marriage scumbag

In ancient times, women faced numerous oppressions. Once they are married, it is difficult to get rid of misfortune.

But even in that era, there are still women who stand up strongly, take the initiative to get out of bad marriages, and fight hard for their dignity and happiness. The way to fight

is - "report". That is, "litigation and divorce".

For example, our talented female poet Li Qingzhao.

Since Li Qingzhao's husband Zhao Mingcheng died of illness, her situation has become increasingly difficult.

132, 48-year-old Li Qingzhao followed Song Gaozong to Hangzhou.

After experiencing widowhood, war, and theft of beloved cultural relics, she herself was seriously ill. A petty official named Zhang Ruzhou used care and sweet words to exchange for her second goal.

However, Li Qingzhao, who remarried, soon discovered that behind Zhang Ruzhou and Shanshan mask was a dirty face of a villain.

He married her just to make his money.

When he found that Li Qingzhao had no money, he fisted and kicked Li Qingzhao.

Li Qingzhao couldn't bear it anymore and decided to divorce. Soon, she collected evidence of Zhang Ruzhou's false reports on the number of examinations and cheating officials.

only in accordance with the provisions of the "Criminal Circle" of the Song Dynasty, the wife sued her husband. Even if the husband was found guilty, the wife would still be in jail for two years.

Li Qingzhao still resolutely "sent" to him.

Finally, Zhang Ruzhou was dismissed from his post and was assigned to Liuzhou , and Li Qingzhao himself was also imprisoned.

Fortunately, Zhao Mingcheng's in-laws and Hanlin scholar Qi Chongli sympathized with Li Qingzhao, so he spoke for Li Qingzhao in front of Emperor Gaozong of Song. In the end, Li Qingzhao was acquitted after being imprisoned for 9 days.

This situation is relatively rare. After all, few people are as afraid of rumors as Li Qingzhao and are capable of becoming a hero among women.

In ancient times, there was a situation where "both parties had to divorce even if they didn't want to divorce" called " Yi Jue ", which was directly "breaking off marriage" by the government:

This situation mainly refers to any couple. For relatives within five periods of spouse, they will be determined to be "severe mercy and righteousness".

Anyone who meets the conditions, regardless of whether both parties agree, will be judged by the government and divorce is compulsory. But this rule is still more partial to the husband's family.

In general, the core of interests in the ancient marriage system pointed to "parental law and convention", and personal emotions did not receive any attention, especially for women. If they were born in ancient times, it would be difficult to control their own happiness.

Today, the poem has sorted out so many divorce systems for everyone. Readers may wonder, in the traditional Chinese culture, always pay attention to "Please persuade people not to leave", "I would rather demolish ten temples than destroy one relative" . Is it appropriate to say that there are so many "divorces"?

Indeed, for most couples, their lips are dead and their teeth are cold. Just as the master of Chinese studies, Zeng Shiqiang said, You can’t forget the sunny days just because of a heavy rain.

Moreover, starting from New Year's Day this year, the divorce cooling-off period has officially joined the divorce registration process.

The two parties have another opportunity to re-examine the relationship, which can indeed play a certain role in buffering the impulsive and emotional divorce.

"Leave" is never an excuse to let go, and we do not advocate easy choice of "Leave".

On the contrary, its existence reminds everyone who enters the "siege" that they need to be more cautious and have more awareness of cherishing and managing carefully as soon as possible.

And for those who unfortunately fall into a terrible relationship, we respect the courage to stop losses in time. After all, only by daring to let go of the wrong ones can you have the opportunity to find the right ones.

[Copyright Statement] This article was originally published by the World of Poetry.