A relative's child in my hometown is only 16 years old. One day she had stomachache. Her mother took her to the hospital for treatment. After examination, she found out that she was pregnant and said she wanted to marry the man, which made her mother very angry.

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My child from a relative in my hometown was only 16 years old. One day she had a stomachache. Her mother took her to the hospital for treatment. After the examination, she found out that she was pregnant. also said she wanted to marry the man, which made her mother very angry.

Although 2022 is about to be around the corner, this situation is still happening, and the final solution will vary depending on the family situation.

I remember some of the previous ones, and I often see many children getting pregnant before marriage, or even minors. In fact, this incident is ultimately caused by the lack of sexual education for children in family education .

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1. How to carry out sex education

Although it is now in an open society, I believe that most parents will still have more or less "avoid" about the topic of sex. For example, My child is only three years old now, and he has already started asking questions like "Where am I from?" .

In fact, when I first heard him talk about this problem, my first reaction was "Ah, this day finally came" , but then it made me feel embarrassed because I had to consider that is within his existing understanding ability and use simple language to let him understand where he came from.

So for children of different ages, the explanation method is also different when conducting sex education.

But we need to be clear: Children conduct sex education through their families is more conducive to establishing their correct views than himself exploring the secret of "sex" through channels we don't know in the future.

2. The timing of sex education

For example, children in preschool have not had that strong understanding ability and logic has not been established yet. Therefore, we can use picture books to make him understand in the form of intuitive pictures and pictures. He comes from his mother's belly.

For children in primary school, we can tell them through the form of science popularization. Of course, for some body organ names, we do not need to evade, but explain to children openly. For children, just like our nose, eyes and mouth, they all belong to our body organs.

Age a little older and almost entered adolescence. If he had lacked knowledge about sex education before, we can put some popular science books in a more conspicuous place indoors.

Children in the infancy of youth will have a stronger desire to actively learn knowledge in this area, so there is no need to worry that they will not read it.

3. The consequences of missing sex education

The consequences of missing sex education, to put it bluntly, refers to the importance of sex education to the healthy development of children's physical and mental health . It does not mean that lack of sex education will definitely have a bad impact on children. After all, like our generation, and even the previous generation, most people have not received specialized sex education, and not everyone will get pregnant before marriage, or have problems with their three views.

But times are changing, children have much more channels to receive information than we imagined, so it is also very important for us to carry out necessary family education .

The importance of providing sex education for children is to first let them know that protects themselves, respects themselves, and their bodies; secondly, teaches children to tell their parents in time if they encounter problems or confusions in this regard;

and then lets children understand the meaning of life and cultivates their sense of responsibility ; finally, through this education, let children establish a correct view of choosing a spouse and outlook on life.

4. Summary

We all hope that our children, , can live a safe and smooth life in the future, but the development of children is something we cannot predict. Therefore, it is very important to provide complete family education for children.

As mentioned at the beginning of the article, the 16-year-old daughter at home was pregnant before marriage and was noisy and insisted on marrying the man. In fact, we can all see that one of the two people in is ignorant of sex education, and the other is completely irresponsible, so is not favored.

But this does not mean that sex education is foolproof. Therefore, as parents, should pay more attention to the child’s psychological state and provide timely guidance. Only in this way can we grasp the child’s psychological dynamics in a timely manner and truly understand the child’s .

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