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Before opening the address book for mobile phone
was asked to "guess the number of people in your mobile phone address book"
They guessed very conservative
Some people said two or three hundred
Some people said many
However,
The real number of people in the address book
much more than they guessed
Respondents themselves were also surprised
It turned out that there were more than a thousand people in their address book
02
Immediately afterwards
respondents were asked to
"Delete people who will not contact them actively"
So
Someone deleted those who rarely contact
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But some people consider it for work
I think that many people who socialize don't contact
often, but it is impossible to delete
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Then
asked the third question
"What if you don't have to consider work and social engagements?"
How many people are left in the address book
Here
There are only twenty or thirty people left in the address book of respondents
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"How many people can you tell the truth besides your family?"
The fourth question asked
The respondents seemed to have become silent all of a sudden.
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finally
arrived at the moment of revealing the answer
5 respondents were very sad
Address book of more than a thousand friends
In the end, there were only two or three people left
05
last question
"The last time you left
"When was the last time you contacted? ”
After asking this question
respondents choked and were silent
Because even such a precious person
has not been in contact for a long time
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call people who have not been in contact for a long time
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call people who have not been in contact for a long time
A respondent and a friend who has not been in contact for a long time
talked about the program and the recent situation very tacitly.
like he has never been separated before
But there are also people
call out with full expectations and
hang up directly
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, , except for movies, no one will wait for you for two or three years. To put it bluntly, feelings are things that are not connected without contact.
A few days ago, I was idle and looked at my mobile phone address book and found that:
many people can't even remember their appearance;
many people, even how they met you in the first place;
There are still some people who are vivid in the past, but they haven't contacted them for a long time;
once said that they would accompany their friends for the rest of their lives, but now they have lost their mass blessings during the holidays;
...
unknowingly, The home was chatting and it broke up as you walked, it was disbanded as you walked, and it faded as you loved. When you turned around, you realized that there were fewer and fewer people around you...
There are more and more friends in the address book on your phone, but your relationship is becoming more and more fragile.
Too many stories start with "Can you add a friend?" and end with "the other party starts friend verification", and there are thousands of pasts in the middle. Once you delete WeChat, you will be farewell forever.
Best friends in high school, best friends in college, and colleagues who worked together... No matter how good the relationship is when you are together, it is difficult to meet again once you are separated. As the trajectory of life changes, it will eventually get farther away from you, just like the childhood friend who has not been in contact for two years in the video hung up the phone.
is very strange. When I was a child, I would cry and say, "I won't play with you!" . The way adults end a relationship is not quarrel or collapse, but a silent alienation.
How did we get separated?
2 days ago, A Yuan broke up with her boyfriend who had been dating for 5 years, and she did not cheat or quarrel.
A Yuan just said lightly: "There are fewer and less words, even if you lie side by side, there is a huge silence between them. It's probably time to separate."
Whether it's friendship or love, when both of them are too lazy to take the initiative and understand each other's world again, it is the beginning of a relationship fading.
No one asks, no one says; one asks awkwardly, and one answers perfunctorily;
No one retreats, no one lets go; one is petty, and the other pretends to be pretentious.
After a long time, there is nothing left to say between each other. The desire to talk and listen is gone, and the feelings come to an end.
There is another reason why people are separated from each other, and they are the most powerless and sad: There is no reason for our separation, but the years are changing and each other is growing.
I have a best friend who grew up. In kindergarten, elementary school, and junior high school, she witnessed all the happiness and sadness I had before I was 15 years old. Later we were admitted to different high schools, but we communicated at least once a month. I knew her secret love and her depression.
Later, we went to different universities, went to different cities, and entered different industries. The contact gradually became less and less, but we were still close to each other.
Until she got married from Beijing, when I went to the wedding, I found that her bridesmaid was not me, I didn’t know about the groom, and my friends didn’t even see her. At that moment, I suddenly realized that her circle and I could no longer overlap, and we had already lost each other.
No one is wrong, but at countless forks in life, different choices make each other farther and farther away, and the pace of growth is becoming more and more different. If you forget to wait for me, I don’t want to chase you anymore.
The distance between the two people is getting bigger and bigger, and they can no longer comfort each other. We used to be together to keep warm, but now we only have polite greetings.
Do you still remember the lyrics of Jacky Cheung in ?
"It's just because people are in the wind, we can't get together and part. "
As we grow older, we understand one truth more and more:
We will know tens of thousands of people in our life, and there will be more and more friends in name, but the circles we really care about are getting smaller and smaller.
No matter how lively work and social engagements are during the day, when you come home alone at night, you will find that there are only one or two friends who really care about you. When encountering problems and troubles, the first thing you think of is one or two people; if you have fun and happy things, you only want to share with one or two people...
At a certain age, people's energy and time are really too limited. "The circle is different, no longer strongly blended" , I am too lazy to please anyone, but I just want to be with someone who makes me comfortable.
The author's song once wrote a story in the article "Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone":
The little girl is very sad about her friend's transfer to school. The mother comforted, "Don't be too sad, you will meet new friends."
The daughter said, "But I lost a friend, so sad..."
The mother said earnestly: "Actually, the relationship between people is like sand in her hands."
Then, she asked the confused daughter to grab a handful of sand in her palm.
The little girl grabbed the sand and held it tightly in her hand. But some sand quickly flowed away from the tight fingers.
At this time, the mother asked her daughter to spread her hands. On the spread palms, the sand no longer flowed away, but was piled firmly in the palm of her hand like a small hill.
Mother explained:
"In our lives, we will meet many people. The relationship between you and them is like the sand in your hands.
The tighter you hold, the faster you disappear. But if you spread your palms, the sand in the middle of your palm will always be there."
is yours, and it won't leave; it's not yours, and it can't be kept.
Welcoming and sending off is the norm in life. does not need to force or care, and do not overestimate your relationship with anyone.
It is better to miss it than to meet it. Instead of catching up with it, it is better to go with the flow.
It is said that
people will meet 8263563 people in their lives
Who will say hello is 39778 people
They will be familiar with 3619 people
They will be close to 275 people
but they will eventually be separated in the crowd
In fact, people's life is a process of keeping the real and removing fakes, just like in the video, who have been deleted from more than a thousand friends, and in the end they are only two or three people left.
In this life, there are very few people who really care about you and can accompany you from beginning to end, only a few.
Don’t be saddering less and less for those who stay. You should know that is the more and more important those who stay.
Deep affection is not as good as long as you accompany me, and love is not necessary. In this life, it is such a rare and precious happiness to be accompanied by three or two friends from beginning to end.
The real relationship is to be renewed for a long time. As the video said at the end, time will leave the most worthwhile person .
For those who have been separated: Thank you very much for coming, and you don’t regret leaving;
For those who have been staying by your side: Long-term company is not easy, you must cherish it and contact us frequently.
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