A new crown epidemic in 2020 disrupted the rhythm of the whole world and changed the living order of many modern people, especially us who live in the city.
When I was closed at home, I wonder if the people who curled up in high-end community rooms every day had this feeling like me:
"I worked hard for half my life and finally came to a big city with a house and a car, but now I am not as good as a country relative?"
" I studied hard since I was a child, stayed up late to work overtime when I grew up, and I realized that my body could not stand it. Wouldn't the struggles of these years be wasted?"
At this time, after encountering a virus, we were extremely eager to return to a natural and comfortable pastoral life.
Fresh air, free green space, and children's free fun of playing freely. These seemingly primitive lives have become luxury for a moment.
The quiet and peaceful pastoral scenery makes people fascinate
Life is such an imperfection, allowing you to get it while losing it. Perhaps it is this imbalance that makes us cherish this world more and everyone wants to work hard to strive for the happiness that belongs to us.
The quiet and comfortable rural life is indeed a bit far away for every busy modern person, but when you have the opportunity to get closer, it will be like discovering a lover who has been reunited for a long time, making you feel unforgettable.
Recently, Korean drama "If the weather is good, I will go find you", a background of the countryside, telling the healing love story between Mu Hae-won, who teaches cello in the city and Lin Enseok who runs a small bookstore in the countryside.
The film continues the usual aesthetic and unique narrative style of Korean dramas, but what touches the audience the most is its powerful healing plot and carefully crafted lines, which almost turned a TV series into a graceful collection of poems.
20 healing Korean drama "If the weather is good, I will go find you"
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This spring has given us too much time to think
01 Loneliness: The less expectations, the more stable life is.
Don’t cry because you are lonely, so you are a human being.
The so-called life is to endure loneliness. ——Excerpt from the collection of poems in the play
The beautiful and charming female cello teacher Mu Hae-won came to the metropolis of Seoul. She thought she could live a comfortable and comfortable artistic life, but reality told her that society was very different from what she imagined.
Simple, she can't understand that the students in the college can be arrogant and even beat people, but the dean dragged them to apologize to the students. In order to attract more students, the dean tactfully asked Haiyuan to take a richer form of class, and asked her to pretend that she was going to the next college to learn from her.
However, after the identity was exposed, the dean turned his blame and said that everything was Haiyuan's own idea.
The workplace is not going well, and the lonely life also makes Haiyuan extremely tired, so she has to go back to the countryside homestay in winter to escape reality.
The exhausted urbanite
The male protagonist in the play, Lin Enseok, has a nearly similar sense of loneliness to the heroine. He runs a bookstore called "Good Night" in Beixian. Every cold winter morning, the young boss will make a cup of handmade coffee that is radiating a strong aroma.
This unique and literary temperament makes Lin Ensei a clear stream in the town.
Enseok is a child abandoned by his parents. His biological father is a "home" living in a small wooden house on the mountain. He is used to being alone, used to loneliness, and is not good at getting along with others. This is also the reason why Enseok's biological mother chose to leave.
Fortunately, Eun-seok was lucky enough to meet the Lin family parents who loved him. He treated him like his biological son. He was used to loneliness Eun-seok, but he was afraid that this happiness would be short-lived and might disappear one day.
On the surface, he seems to be having fun with his family, but his inner loneliness often endures alone. If he is unhappy, he will run to the cottage on the mountain to hide alone.
Later, the same was true for Haiyuan, afraid that happiness would slip away, and afraid that spring would come to Haiyuan.
In reality, we have never experienced feelings of loneliness. When we pick up our backpacks and go to another place, when we work hard but are not recognized by our superiors, when we are full of enthusiasm but are not trusted by our friends and lovers...
Therefore, many people will doubt whether we have too many expectations, so the more disappointed we are. Is it possible to get long-term peace of mind only by stopping our pursuit, so I simply let go, or surrender to life, give up on myself, and even doubt life, want to get rid of this world.
Just like Hai Yuan in the play, when she came to this high school in the countryside as a transfer student, everything was fine, but when the secret of her mother's murder was made public, all the malice and rumors came to her face, and no one dared to approach the "murderer"'s daughter.
Faced with the cold reality, Mu Haiyuan, who suffered heavy blows from her family, became more fragile and sensitive. She once wanted to commit suicide and end everything. Loneliness and sadness became the unforgettable background in her life.
Isolated and helpless Haiyuan couldn't move forward in school until Mu Haiyuan reunites with her high school classmate Lin Enseok, which opened the heartwarming prelude in the cold winter.
Balzac said: Among all kinds of loneliness, people are most afraid of spiritual loneliness.
We all yearn for warmth and love, but sometimes we are very careful and afraid of being hurt, so loneliness has become a norm. British writer Anthony Stoll once mentioned in the book "Lonely" that intimacy and loneliness are two levels of our human nature. Relationship is not the only way for us to pursue happiness, but we overvalue the role of relationships and ignore loneliness.
loneliness is divided into two types. One is loneliness with the ability to be alone, such as Eun Seok who runs a bookstore alone. The other is loneliness imposed by others. In a situation like Haiyuan, neither of these two loneliness is a pathological phenomenon.
Why do many viewers feel that the male protagonist Eun-seok can feel the incomparable sunshine and warmth, including the heroine who gets active healing power after getting along with him, that is the ability to be alone.
Hai Yuan became cheerful and laughing after meeting the male lead
Being alone can allow us to see our true inner needs, feel our deepest emotions, and have a healing and integrated function for people. In addition, loneliness also has the effect of changing attitudes.
American psychiatrist Silas Will Mitchell proposed a "rest therapy" method to treat mental disorders. People like to go to strange places, seek loneliness, deepen their understanding of themselves, and explore the meaning of their existence.
The "Good Night Bookstore" surrounding the snowy mountains in the play undoubtedly acts as a communication medium for two lonely people. When night falls, people who have been busy for a day leave their units and schools, and several literary and artistic youth associations come to the bookstore to attend the weekly reading club.
They all ate roasted oranges happily together and read around the fire with a smile.
The heat rising from the stove, the breath that cannot be hidden when breathing, and the poems with life philosophy together create the most warm scene in the TV series.
Warm reading will make people feel quiet and relaxed
Although in this era where everyone is desperate and anxious, the idea of hoping that everyone will "good night" seems too luxurious, it does not delay this country town with good night bookstores and becomes a corner where people hide in loneliness.
episode hides the lonely and lonely protagonists; outside the episode, what hides are the countless people who want to escape reality but lack excuses.
People are born with loneliness, but a lonely heart can often see themselves better. If you feel that there is no way out, then reading is likely to be another way, and perhaps the future direction is hidden in the book.
All the beauty is hidden in the book
Just as the heroine asked the hero, "Why is it called Goodnight Bookstore?"
He told her: Eating well and sleeping is more difficult than we imagined. People feel tired because they cannot do these basic things.
Loneliness is not terrible. As long as we love the people around us seriously and manage our daily life, happiness is actually a very simple thing.
Romain Rolland said that people know how to find the sparkling interest from life, and they will not feel difficult and lonely.
Reading Club partners’ happiness group photo
02 House violence : Love is sometimes as gentle as an angel, and sometimes as hideous as a devil.
People are stupider than animals.
If you like someone, you will become a fool.
knows that you will die, but you will still go because you like it.
Happiness and misfortune,
is like two sides of a coin,
unchanging happiness will not be unfortunate,
has never had it, it will not be lost,
just disappear from that person forever. ——Excerpt from the collection of poems in the play
It is said that the original family will bring irreparable trauma to childhood, and Haiyuan's loneliness and inferiority since childhood originated from the breakdown of a family.
Haiyuan's mother was once the most beautiful and coldest girl in the town, and there were many suitors. She finally chose the boy who was most attentive to her. After all, which girl doesn't want her to feel like she is being held in the palm of her hand!
However, life after marriage was completely unexpected. The other side of the gentle man was rude and crazy. He beat and scolded innocent lovers more than once, but he couldn't control his emotions because he was disagreeing and hurt others.
Mother who was violently hurt
But afterwards, the man begged his lover for forgiveness like a child who made a mistake, and at the same time he was particularly considerate and patient with the child, which made others, including the little Haiyuan, always feel that he has the best parents in the world.
Perhaps many viewers cannot understand why such a family still needs to persist. A bystander in the play, the boyfriend of Hae Yuan's aunt, expressed his feelings.
"Because it is not common, so be patient. Because of the warmth and care of not being domestic violence will make you miss it, and make you feel that every time he apologizes, he is really willing to change it."
However, there are only two options for domestic violence, 0 times and countless times. As long as you have the first time, you will be patient, and you will not be able to avoid the second occurrence.
My sister can't understand that my sister's life is so bad
Many girls are easily trapped in when they are in love. Even if you know that this person is not the right person, they still fall into the vortex of love with all their hearts.
A colleague of mine has experienced a similar experience. When I heard about her divorce, I couldn't believe it because I also had dinner with my friend's lover. Both of them were very good at both appearance and inner self. When I had dinner, my lover kept picking up food for my friend, and when I got home, I drove all the way to escort my child.
When a friend told me that she divorced because she could not tolerate domestic violence, I couldn't help feeling a hint of chill behind me. It was really aware of people but not the heart. Fortunately, my girlfriend has a very good mentality and is not affected by negative emotions. She decisively chose to break up. Now she lives a very happy life after remarriage.
However, Hai Yuan’s mother in the play is not so lucky. Because of her patience, the tragedy of her sister killing someone by mistake, causing herself and her family to fall into the bottomless abyss.
An accident made the whole family live in the darkness from then on
There is a saying that "love is blind", but in fact this statement is not necessarily correct.Only by keeping your eyes on love can women recognize everyone around them, and at the same time, they can clearly position their lives, so that even if their lives are not so perfect, they will always be the master.
For example, when choosing a partner, we might as well observe the other party from a rational perspective and then make a decision.
First, observe the other person's life status . If the other person's home is in a mess, he is always late to date you, and there are many female friends around him, then you should consider it carefully.
Secondly, observe from the other party's words and deeds. For example, if his attitude towards his mother is very good to him, it means that he respects women more. Of course, if he obeys the rules, it means that he is likely to have a strong sense of dependence. Whether he is enthusiastic about his family and friends can also see whether he is a responsible person.
Finally, you can also take a look at his attitude towards family and career . Men who are too obsessed with careers have the desire to direct others and women. They may have little thoughts on family, and you need to consider the future spiritual loneliness.
In short, finding the most important thing is to find a love that suits you. You cannot be wronged by yourself for the sake of love.
Love can feel
03 Secret love: Love that does not need to be rewarded, it never hurts others.
Do you know that there are flowers that will only bloom in autumn?
I saw in the book that there are flowers that will only bloom briefly in autumn.
At that time For my arid desert,
you are so temporary,
only blooms in autumn season,
like desert,
you suddenly appear in front of me,
I became a courtyard. ——Excerpt from the collection of poems in the play
Some people say that secret love is a kind of pain, but I think secret love is also a special beauty, just like the silent and affectionate secret love of the male protagonist in the play, just like the coffee he brews every day. Although it tastes bitter, it cannot take away the strong fragrance on his lips.
The beauty of secret love is like a cup of mellow coffee
Mu Hae-won, who hurried back to his hometown from the irritable Seoul, may not know that from the moment he set foot on this land, every accident was done by Lin Enseok.
Because, the bookstore owner's secret love for the girl in the inn next door has come to his tenth year.
Enseok has been liked Hae-won since high school, and when he accidentally discovered that his new deskmate was Hae-won, he couldn't help but feel happy.
At that time, Hae-won gave the keychain made in the craft class to his deskmate Eun-seok. Because the keychain fell, he accidentally touched the other party's hand. Eun-seok was as sensitive as if he was electrocuted.
The first intimate contact made the boy's heart beat faster
Finally, I met the girl in my heart again. The shy boy silently used the flashlight, carried his bag silently, and repaired a street light.
Secret love is lonely and cowardly, but the body is honest. Occasionally I stopped by the side of the road because it happened to be the direction of the heroine's house, and the small window of the bookstore would also be able to see Haiyuan at a glance.
bought Haiyuan's shoes silently, but the excuse said that because of the countryside, the road was difficult to walk.
That’s right, when loving someone, you don’t need to do any earth-shaking actions, even if it’s just a trivial matter, it’s enough to make people feel moved.
A light in the snow warmed the girl's heart
There is no doubt that Hae-won fell in love with this warmth who could feel her joy, sorrow, and coldness, silently helped him to thrust, and silently helped her fix the lamp, and was the first to confess.
Because of Haewon's words "I like you", Eun-seok's world was paused instantly. He was very excited, as if he was dreaming. After a long silence, a sentence "Okay" came out in a strange way.
I believe that this simple and kind boy image in the play instantly captured the hearts of countless young girls fans. Even though I was full of joy, I still couldn't express the sentence I had been hiding for a long time.
Looking forward to confessing, the boy is shy.
Secret love is like everyone who is habitually escaping. With the help of uncontrollable factors, it covers up its wandering heart, carefully protects the sense of distance between people, and leaves the tired soul of adults with the freedom to breathe.
Sometimes, it is not necessary to say it when you fall in love with someone. As long as he lives well, no matter he is at the end of the world or in the corner, he will always be hidden in your concern. You never care, you will lose to time and distance because you miss it.
Shakespeare once said: A person who knows how to secretly love is a person who must know how to cherish emotions, and a person who knows how to cherish life better.
People in cities have been away from this simple love for too long. Pure love has become a luxury, and marriage has become an innocent sacrifice in the real society. Everyone has less innocence and persistence, and only utilitarianism and vanity are left.
A of my college friends has excellent academic qualifications, appearance and ability. She had many suitors back then. She was said to be able to be a parent at all ages, but now she is still alone, but she has not found her true destiny.
I told her, why didn’t you think about lifelong affairs? She smiled helplessly and said, forget it at this age, I don’t want to make trouble anymore, if I’m too involved, I will hurt myself.
Maybe it is, no one yearns for a life without darkness, and no one wants to encounter setbacks, so people are accustomed to living in comfortable days or rules they are accustomed to.
However, if a person has not experienced pain and has not felt difficulties, it may also be a disaster. Because only when people are in pain do they feel that life is too good.
Only in pain can you find yourself. Even if you lose yourself, this loss is a kind of transcendence, a kind of transcendence of the soul. If a person doesn't even know what pain is and never tastes it when he turns back, then what kind of flaw should his life be.
The feeling of secret love hurts and is happy
"If the weather is good, I will go find you" This sentence seems to be a shy promise, as if to make viewers look forward to a long-lost love.
But from the whole drama, I think it is actually telling us the truth of a simple life, that is, life is not easy and happiness is difficult, but at any time we should not give up our courage and lose our fighting spirit, because you still have life, your relatives and friends who love you, and a spiritual home that is always worthy of protection.
So, thank you for the sunrise and sunset every day, eat well, work well, and rest well, this is the best life.
The warm photo of the actors in the bookstore
Happiness is like this, it’s hard,
But you can do it too,
Just because you open your eyes in the morning, you can start the day,
can live through today silently like this.
Share difficult happiness with someone,
, and we are people worthy of gratitude to someone.
Before we knew it, we became such a person.
Somewhere you are just working hard because of living,
, thank you
, and you
, and you
, and you
, have good night today!
This is the voice given to all the audience after the finale, and it is also the most moving healing poem in the whole drama. I hope that if you have watched this drama, you can get out of the haze and gain a quiet and peaceful mindset. Let us be grateful for all the beautiful moments in life together and welcome the next sunny day together.
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