American child psychologist Rudolph Drex once said: Educating children should be kind and firm. The meaning of this sentence is: As parents, we should give our children warm love, but when loving our children, we should firmly uphold our principles. You cannot blindly spoil and indulge your children.
sub-subtitle means: as a father, treating his children, he should guide them with deep and loving patience, respect their children, and not use a simple and crude tough attitude. Let children understand themselves from the bottom of their hearts while feeling love and respect. As a mother, in addition to being warm and loving to treat her children, she should also set rules and regulations for her children, and she should not let her do whatever she wants. Let children feel awe while feeling love and respect.
Born as a human In order to survive and gain life value, we need to take various exams. But the only thing that can be upgraded to parents is not required to take the exam. Therefore, the process of educating children is a process of continuous learning by parents and a process of growing up with their children. In this process, there have been many praised cases throughout the ages, such as: Meng’s mother’s three migrations, etc. There are also some failed cases that can even be called tragic cases.
What we are talking about below is a tragic case in the process of educating children. A 16-year-old flower girl tied her mother to her home to death in order to ask for 50,000 yuan from her father. What exactly happened behind the tragedy?
1. In order to ask for 50,000 yuan tuition with his father, a 16-year-old girl trapped her mother to death at home
At 4 a.m. that day, a 16-year-old girl living in Zhaodong City, Heilongjiang Province hurriedly ran into the hospital and told the doctor in the hospital that someone at home was very ill and had to send an ambulance to rescue her. Then, under the guidance of the girl, the doctors took an ambulance and arrived at the entrance of a community. Then he walked into the girl's home. In one of the girls' bedrooms, the medical staff saw a very strange scene: a middle-aged woman was tied to a chair, and after walking forward to check, she found that the woman had died.
In addition to being surprised, the medical staff found that the girl who was anxious to seek medical treatment was no longer at home. I felt something was strange, and the medical staff immediately called the police. After receiving the case, the local police launched a series of investigations. After some investigation, the investigators determined that the woman who died of being tied to a chair was named Li Mei (pseudonym), who was the hostess in the family. The person who ran to the hospital for medical treatment was her 16-year-old only daughter Chen Xinran (pseudonym).
. According to the traces on the scene, the investigators infer that Li Mei's death has a lot to do with his 16-year-old only daughter Chen Xinran. In other words, Chen Xinran tied his mother Li Mei to her home from head to toe until she died. What reasons and even hatred did 16-year-old Chen Xinran treat her biological mother so cruelly? Two hours after the incident, Chen Gang (pseudonym), the head of the family, rushed to his home. He was extremely sad and desperate when he learned that his wife Li Mei had been separated forever, and his eyes were filled with tears.
And when facing inquiries from the case handlers, Chen Gang said this: Chen Xinran is the only daughter of him and his wife Li Mei, and she is 16 years old this year. At this age, I should have been in high school, but because my daughter had long been disgusted with school, she had dropped out of school and stayed at home for half a year. Originally, our family of three lived in a house in this community. However, because my relationship with my daughter Chen Xinran has been very bad in the past two months and I have been quarreling, my husband and I rent a house outside and let her live alone at home.
You said that it is pitiful to parents all over the world. At that time, Chen Gang and his wife Li Mei moved out for a few days, they began to worry about their daughter Chen Xinran, who was alone at home. One afternoon, after get off work, Li Mei was worried that her daughter Chen Xinran would not be able to take good care of her at home, so she went home to cook for her. She never expected that after she returned home, her daughter Chen Xinran would confiscate her cell phone and tie herself to a chair in the room.
Then, using this as a threat, he asked his father Chen Gang for 50,000 yuan to go to Harbin Sports School for tuition fees, and he would not let anyone go if he didn't give it to him.After receiving a threatening call from his daughter Chen Xinran, Chen Gang directly rejected his daughter's request. As a father, he instinctively believed that his daughter Chen Xinran would not do very extreme things to his biological mother. He never expected that his daughter Chen Xinran would trap his biological mother to death at home.
2. After repeated requests for money, the 16-year-old girl cut off water and fasted her mother for 4 days
In the nearly 8 days of being tied up and controlled by her daughter, Chen Xinran tied her mother Li Mei to a chair at home for the first 4 days, but she also handed her water and bought food to her mother. But starting from the 5th day, since I had never asked my father Chen Gang for money, I found that my mother had been using notes to contact my father downstairs a few days ago.
Chen Xinran became anxious and angry. She felt that her parents were uniting to deceive her, disrespect her, and playing roundabout tactics with her. Therefore, Chen Xinran, who was anxious, angry and unreasonable, cut off water and fasted his mother from that day on. Li Mei eventually died of weakness after 8 days of tight binding and 4 days of continuous hunger and thirst.
3. Why are the young girls in the flower season so cruel to their biological mother?
Although life can be strong, it is also very fragile. Sometimes, a few seconds, minutes, hours, a day or a few days can determine the existence or death of life. The day before Li Mei's death, this day happened to be the Mid-Autumn Festival when the family reunited. However, this family of three is full of conflicts and cannot be reunited.
At around 9 o'clock that night, Chen Xinran used his mother Li Mei's mobile phone to say in the family WeChat group: Do you really care? She is about to lose her way? After sending the text message, Chen Xinran also posted a photo of his mother Li Mei's swollen black legs.
Li Mei's sister saw this photo in the group and felt that the situation was a bit serious, so she called her brother-in-law to discuss the matter. In the end, Chen Gang promised to transfer 35,000 yuan of tuition to his daughter Chen Xinran. At 12 a.m., Chen Gang transferred 35,000 yuan to his daughter Chen Xinran's bank card. After the money was transferred, Chen Gang went home and knocked on the door, wanting his daughter to release his wife Li Mei. But his daughter Chen Xinran never agreed to let her mother loose. He also did not agree to open the door for his father.
At this time, Chen Gang still believed that his daughter would not do anything extreme to his wife Li Mei. But four hours later, his wife Li Mei died of weakness. The results of forensic identification show that Li Mei's death was respiratory failure . Since there was no water or food for 4 consecutive days, there were very few food residues in Li Mei's stomach. After a long period of strict binding and fasting, Li Mei died of respiratory failure and weakness.
In addition, the forensic doctors also found many minor physical trauma in Li Mei's body. Obviously, Chen Xinran also beat her mother during her imprisonment. Eight hours after the incident, Chen Xinran, who fled to Harbin, was arrested in a small hotel by the investigators. When it was almost time to Zhaodong , Chen Xinran said excitedly in the police car: That's my god, how could I kill my mom?
During the interrogation, Chen Xinran cried and said to the police officer in charge of the case: I don’t give my mother food and drink, just to make her hungry, and she is so weak that she has no strength to talk to me. I didn't expect that doing so would make my mother lose her life. The scars on my mother's body were hit by me with electric baton and a swing stick. After receiving my father's transfer, I didn't want to let my mother go, but because I was afraid that my father did not open the door.
. Regarding why he treated his mother so cruelly, Chen Xinran told the police officer in charge of the case: She did this because she hated her father Chen Gang. The mother is the father's wife, and tying her mother means taking revenge on her father. Before, because she ran away from home and went to work in Daqing , her father forced her to send her to a junior college in Shandong in order to make her calm and return to school well. This specialized school specializes in treating young people's problems such as "online love, rebellion, and running away from home".
After reaching the college of vocational studies, Chen Xinran is often corporally punished and scolded by instructors. After staying for 4 months, Chen Xinran, who escaped from the academy, was taken back home by her parents. The four-month experience of being physically punished and scolded by instructors at the vocational college made Chen Xinran hate his father Chen Gang.She once posted on the post bar: I want to take revenge after I go out and make them pay the price.
After returning home, because his parents opposed his contact with his previous "fake friends" and refused to ask for 50,000 yuan to go to Harbin Sports School. Chen Xinran's relationship with her parents deteriorated again, which aroused all the hatred she suppressed in her heart, and finally such a painful human tragedy occurred.
4. Reflection
As a mother, Li Mei was tied up and imprisoned by her daughter Chen Xinran, and every time she sent a note to her husband, it roughly said: It's okay, the child is just angry, want tuition, don't call the police. Even though her daughter treated herself so violently, she still tried her best to protect her daughter. Undoubtedly, this is a great and touching mother.
After his daughter Chen Xinran was sentenced to prison according to law, under the arrangement of the police officers in charge of the case, Chen Gang went to the prison to visit his daughter with his changed clothes and shook hands with his daughter to make peace. Undoubtedly, this is a father with deep fatherly love. Since the couple loves their daughter so much, why does it cause such a painful human tragedy? This is a very thought-provoking question.
Yesterday's incident can be a lesson. The author believes that parents must not only have love, but also have principles and methods to raise children. As the article begins: educating children should be kind and firm. What do you think? Welcome to leave wonderful comments in the comment section!
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