In September this year, , Shen Lijun, known as the number one beautiful star in Shanghai, jumped off the building due to her husband's cheating and violent behavior and became a hot search.
While netizens scolding the scumbag, they are more sorry that she is not independent in her mental consciousness and has been manipulated by marriage and has become a victim at the mercy of others.
In a feudal patriarchal society, incidents in which women choose to commit suicide because they cannot bear domestic violence occur frequently. In a modern society that pursues equality between men and women, the Shen Lijun incident still occurs. No wonder some netizens said, why do women still not remember their sex?
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On March 8, 1935, the film queen of the Republic of China Ruan Lingyu left the four words "People's words are fearful". He died of suicide by taking sleeping pills, causing a sensation, and some movie fans even followed her.
Why did Ruan Lingyu, who was in her best years in a woman's life, commit suicide? We can only say that she often meets scumbags, but she is weak in personality and has no spirit of resistance, and has no sense of self-independence.
Ruan Lingyu, born in Shanghai in 1910. Because his father died early, he depended on his mother at the age of six. The pressure of living poverty has developed her humble and gentle nature, which is also her lifelong weakness.
Due to life, my mother took her to the rich man named Zhang to help the servants. The mother and daughter are suffering from poverty and always think about finding a good family to live a life of food and clothing in the future. This has formed the concept of Ruan Lingyu's lifelong dependence on men. Native education is really important.
In order to realize her dream, her mother gritted her teeth and sent her to foreign school to go to school. At this time, she fell in love with the fourth young master of the Zhang family, Zhang Damin. The two people who were not good at the same time of the family were of course strongly opposed by their families. But none of this could stop the fanaticism of the ignorant period of youth. The two lived together. She was 16 years old and he was 18 years old.
The two of them discovered the true face of life just like playful children. He is lazy and doesn't want to support himself, so she has no choice but to follow her friend's advice to enter the movie industry alone.
Who would have thought of a "Famous Couple" that made her famous all over the world. From then on, she was unstoppable, and many excellent works made her the king of silent films as famous as Hu Die.
She is trying hard to make money, but he is addicted to gambling and squanders all the savings she has saved. She was completely disappointed in the face of him who was not enterprising. At this moment, she met Tang Jishan .
For a rich-level love expert like Tang Jishan, it will take a minute to capture the hearts of a simple woman like Ruan Lingyu.
Tang Jishan's ex-girlfriend once warned her that Tang Jishan is not a good destination. But she felt that Tang Jishan was true love for her, and a few sweet words made her feel that she could hold Tang Jishan.
We can say that she should have chosen Zhang Damin because she was young and ignorant. However, when she met Tang Jishan, she had already entered society for many years and experienced the unbearable feelings. However, she still naively believed in men easily and never thought about being independent. We can only sigh for it.
When she asked Zhang Damin to break up, he completely showed his ugly face and threatened her to pay him alimony every month on the grounds of revealing privacy details to the media. She had seen the power of the keyboard warrior tabloid in the Republic of China, and she surrendered. But she didn't expect that with the first time, there would be the second or third time, and Zhang Damin became the bottomless pit.
She moved into the villa that Tang Jishan bought for her, but at this time, Tang Jishan had already turned her attention to other women and had domestic violence from time to time. She could only bear it and never thought of resisting, her temperament was too weak.
Her tolerance failed to change back to the bright sunshine. After Zhang Damin was in a bad mood again, he was unable to blackmail him, so he sued Ruan Lingyu for bigamy.
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Sometimes life is about what you are afraid of.
Her emotional entanglement has become a regular tabloid, and rumors are flying everywhere.
She was in a state of turmoil and met film director Cai Chusheng again. The two fell in love because of work for a long time, and she wanted Cai Chusheng to take her out of Shanghai. Unfortunately, Cai Chusheng already has a family, so he finally chose to give up on her. The last bit of warmth she wanted to rely on was gone.
At this moment, Tang Jishan ignored her face and just wanted to protect her reputation. She actually wanted her to appear in court to go to court with Zhang Damin.
She dared not imagine the scene of being asked about details in court. Tang Jishan's selfishness and the power of the tabloid media's public opinion have become a straw that crushes her.
She chose to commit suicide on Women's Day, and it is said that the next day was the day when her court was held.
Tang Jishan learned that she was taking the medicine, in order to cover up the fact, she did not go to the big hospital nearby, but drove her to a remote small hospital, delaying the treatment time.
The first generation of actress queen died, sighing that she was wronged and entrusted by the wrong person, or sighing that her temperament was too humble and obedient?
She only made single choices in her life, she was a man. She puts her life happiness on men, and once she loses love, she loses the courage to survive. I can only sigh that his lack of knowledge leads to a small vision. She also lacks the rigidity of facing public opinion and the slightest wind and thousands of people are spitting on their own.
When Ruan Lingyu lived with Zhang Damin, she terminated her studies, resulting in her academic ability being unable to keep up with the progress of the times.
Republic of China movie When she goes from silent film to audio film , she will not be able to speak Mandarin and will face the situation of having no film to shoot.
We look at the Hu Die of the same era and spent a lot of money to Beijing to learn Mandarin under Mei Lanfang . The appearance of audio movies made her shine.
When Ruan Lingyu was trapped in emotional entanglement and unable to extricate herself, while she was busy filling her ex-husband’s bottomless hole on the set, Hu Die was growing up silently. The pressure of career stagnation is also a straw that crushes Ruan Lingyu.
The ability of women to grow up is very important.
From Ruan Lingyu to Shen Lijun, she is fully capable of financial independence, but she doesn't know what she wants. She controls her destiny in the hands of her husband, and her spiritual will is shattered by marriage. The most fundamental reason for the tragedy is that one's own personality is too weak.
Women not only have one fulcrum for marriage, but also have many ways to go. A woman is not as strong as herself if she is relying on others. Don’t forget that if you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. Women should have a better memory!
text/Chechai Academy: A sunny day in a lifetime
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