—01—Today’s hot search on Weibo is even more lively than TV series. First, Li Yutong posted on Weibo late at night to angrily scold Xue Zhiqian, dissatisfied with his tears in the TV show, and broke up the scandal between him and Li Xiaolu.

— 01 —

Today’s hot search on Weibo is even more lively than TV series.

First, Li Yutong posted on Weibo late at night to angrily scold Xue Zhiqian, dissatisfied with his tears in the TV show, and broke up the scandal between him and Li Xiaolu. After this news came out, the people who were watching the melons were shocked and everyone began to speculate.

So, another good person immediately revealed that Jia Nailiang is a "double". He said that he SM was a different story for a while. Jia Nailiang's sister angrily posted on Weibo, saying that she should stop consuming Jia Nailiang, a normal person just wants to live a good life. Then, Jia Nailiang spoke on Weibo and said, "I am doing well alone," confirming the divorce rumors that everyone has been speculating about.

Just when everyone was still cursing Li Yutong, suspicion of Xue Zhiqian, Li Xiaolu, and sympathizing with Jia Nailiang, it was revealed that Chen Yufan was arrested for taking drugs by . Although Chen Yufan's studio issued a statement and deleted it, it still could not stop the People's Daily's confirmation. Afterwards, Hu Haiquan also posted on Weibo with a heartache, asking Chen Yufan why he didn't tell his friends about his pain earlier. A series of events like

can't help but sigh that your circle is so chaotic. Today's hot search on Weibo is really dizzy. After these incidents, two circles of friends that touched me particularly were from my two friends. One of them said, "Li Yutong is really enough. It has been a year since I started to fight. Can it calm down?" The other said, "I just think Chen Yufan and Bai Baihe's child are pitiful. My mother cheats, and my father takes drugs."

To be honest, I don't care about the right and wrong in the entertainment industry at all. I am not a fan of anyone, and I don't want to help anyone whitewash. I just suddenly feel that no matter who it is, it is really important to learn to let go when a relationship is gone.

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Let’s first talk about the problems between Li Yutong and Xue Zhiqian, because if it weren’t for them this time, Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang would not be involved.

Last year, when Li Yutong jumped out to tear Xue Zhiqian out, I did lose my affection for Xue Zhiqian. Although I like his songs, I think he is indeed a bit irresponsible in his feelings. For a person like me who is a little feminist, he is really not worthy of my liking.

However, as Li Yutong jumped out again and again, Xue Zhiqian never said anything, I suddenly began to hate Li Yutong. Because no matter whether Xue Zhiqian hurts you before, no matter what past you have ever had, you should let each other go after breaking up.

Maybe this man really failed you before, but there is really no need to keep biting him. His past and future have nothing to do with you. This will only highlight your unwillingness and embarrassment, and there is really no need. Especially this time, other people are involved. I think this is really too cruel for the innocent Jia Nailiang and Tianxin .

Someone said that a good ex should be like dead, and I agree with it in particular. Although I understand very well that some people often jump out to "scam the zombie" maybe because they are unwilling to give up or because they have been injured, I still feel that if you do this, it seems that you are hurting the other party, but in fact you are hurting yourself.

Every time you angrily criticize and every time you make a real noise, aren’t you actually revealing the scars in your heart once? After saying that, are you happy? If you don’t, you have to start your psychological construction again and let yourself slowly forget. Dear, why bother?

This reminds me of Wang Feng’s ex-wife Ge Huijie. After Wang Feng and Chapter Ziyi were together, she frequently spoke out, showing weakness and scolding, and all of them were used. At the beginning, the public and the media still sympathized with her, but later, everyone began to hate her.

• You see, you can be a weak person once, but if you treat this identity as a shield and disturb other people's lives again and again, you will only become the object that makes everyone hate.

Lost means losing. If you are unwilling to admit it, this is also a fact. Learn to let yourself go, let others go, learn to let yourself look forward and move forward, instead of just entangling, becoming a resentful woman who is afraid of others and hides from others.

You are too stupid, and that person is not worth it either.

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There is an issue of "The Debater" that talks about the topic of "forgiveness".

Ma Dong said: "As time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us." But Cai Kangyong replied: "That's not forgiveness, that's forget it."

At that moment, I suddenly felt relieved. Because I suddenly stopped hating some people, and suddenly I let go of some things. I understand that in this life, dreams that cannot be realized, things that cannot be let go of, things that cannot be allowed are normal, and we really don’t need to be too obsessed.

• has happened because what has happened, and the person who wants to leave will definitely leave. No matter how hard you try, it is impossible to save it. It is better to make your last posture look better.

Although this sounds helpless, this is the truth of life, and this is probably the only way for us to save ourselves.

To be honest, when I heard about Chen Yufan taking drugs today, I really wanted to tell him this passage.

I believe that what happened back then must have caused him a lot of trouble, which may make him feel pain, helpless, and make him feel that his life is dark. But what is the result of not letting yourself go? It was a pack of drugs that destroyed a musical talent, which made people sigh and regret.

I still remember the ugly and cute boy back then, smiling full of sunshine, singing a song called "The Most Beautiful". That is my youth and my memories. But from now on, nothing is left.

The pressure of life is really great, but who is born with a human being, isn’t under much pressure? I think it is so stupid that I can't forgive you for resolving it in this way.

What an adult should learn most is how to let go of the past, let go of the hurt, and reconcile with himself. This letting go is either really forgiveness or what Cai Kangyong said.

• Forget it, not for others, but for yourself.

— 04 —

I remember watching a variety show, Yue Yunpeng talked about his experience before coming to Deyun Club in the program.

He said that at that time, he was only 15 years old and dropped out of school and could only do odd jobs in Beijing. Because he has no education, he does very low-level jobs.

I remember one time, he worked in a restaurant. Because of a small mistake, he was insulted by a table of customers for two hours. In the end, he lost money and was fired.

For that boy, that moment must be the darkest moment in his life. He hated, he resented, he collapsed and suffered, but he did not give up. Until later, he met Guo Degang, the noble man in his life.

Master teaches him to speak crosstalk, which gives him a place to settle down and also gives him a lot of skills.

Yue Yunpeng is a person who knows how to be grateful, so he stayed in Deyun Club wholeheartedly. He said that no matter what happens, he will stick to it.

Yue Yunpeng is now loved by so many people, but when it comes to that experience, his eyes are still shining with tears. Do you think he forgives those people? I don't think so, but he learned to reconcile with fate.

He did not forgive that experience and would not thank those who had hurt him, but he let him go. Because of this, he cherishes what he has now. I think it is because of this mentality that he has risen to the top and goes to the distance he wants.

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We will really experience a lot of pain and hurt in our lives. No one is qualified to persuade you to forgive, and no one is qualified to ask you to let go.

• But you must remember that those helpless "forget it" are not for others, but for yourself.Because when you put too much energy into entanglement with the past, you are destined to be unable to move towards the future. When you focus too much on the harm you have suffered, you are destined to be unable to heal.

There are many good, happy, and fresh people and things waiting for you in the future. They are your future and your belonging to happiness.

Learn to give yourself a hug, then move forward, don’t look back, those people and things, whether good or bad, will no longer have anything to do with you.

Because if you continue to pursue it, there will be no other thing, only deeper sadness.

— END —

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