A happy family,
Tolerance is more than harsh, and understanding is more than accusation.
Author: Insight yebo
Writer Wu Danru once said:
is the only place where you can go back without a reason, it makes you feel that no matter what you become, it is a place that can accept me.
In this world, a loving family can not only allow the body to rely on, but also allow the mind to rest.
If you want to manage your family in a harmonious and fulfilling way, you will never be able to do without communication, companionship and understanding.
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Communication is standard
There is such a story in the movie " Later Us ".
Young Lin Jianqing made a lot of money in Beijing through hard work and bought a house.
So, he called his father to close the small restaurant in his hometown and move to a big city to enjoy his life.
I thought my father would be very happy, but he didn't expect that he said that he was used to small places and living in big cities would be uncomfortable.
Lin Jianqing was unhappy in an instant. He shouted at the phone impatiently:
"I have money now, so I can let you live in a big house. If you are lucky, you don't know how to enjoy it. What is a broken restaurant worth nostalgic about!"
Hearing this, Dad Lin felt very uncomfortable and immediately retorted:
"It's this small restaurant for you to eat, use, and go to school. Why is it a broken restaurant in your eyes?"
As the two of them said that, the two started arguing, and finally Dad Lin hung up the phone directly.
Lin Jianqing was both annoyed and depressed. He originally wanted to express his filial piety, but who knew that after a call came out, not only did he not persuade his father to move over, but instead made the father-son relationship stiff.
Writer Kenji Suzuki said:
Communication is the basis for establishing a good relationship and is a lubricant for promoting further harmony between people.
For a family, the lack of effective communication can only make the gap between each other bigger and bigger.
Hu Shi once talked about a past event in his memoir.
When I was in elementary school, one early autumn evening, Hu Shi was playing at the door after dinner, wearing only a vest.
After seeing this, my aunt took a piece of clothes and said to him, "Put it on, it's cold."
Hu Shi replied casually, "Mom (cold) what! I'm not my brother!" After hearing this, the neighbors told their mothers this.
It turned out that Hu Shi lost his father at the age of four. In the local area, it was a taboo to say such things.
After returning home, he thought he would be beaten and scolded.
But my mother closed the door and said to him softly:
"Your father has been kind and upright all his life and is respected. You must respect your father, learn from him, and never lose his face."
After hearing this, Hu Shi lowered his head ashamed.
It was under the temptation of his mother that Hu Shi studied diligently and eventually became a literary master.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
"What matters is not what happened, but how the other party feels it. Always remember that communication is the most important thing in intimate relationships."
If you blam and complain when encountering things, it will only cause the family to fall apart.
Talk well, communicate carefully, and the smoother the mutual expression, the stronger the cohesion of a family will be.
When getting along with your relatives, communicate more kindly to make your home full of love and warmth.
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Companionship is a high-end
Psychologist Lichtenberg said:
"Humans like to accompany, even if it is only a small burning candle that is accompanying him."
If a family lacks companionship, they cannot meet each other's emotional needs, and they will eventually be able to alienate each other and even go unhappy.
In the new season of " Talk Show Conference ", actor Cheng Lu's ex-wife Siwen returned, which caused heated discussion.
They divorced at the beginning The reason for marriage is that neither of them cheated nor domestic violence.
In an interview, Siwen talked about the past. That year she was sick and had surgery, and her father and grandma also passed away one after another.
was the lowest time, and she really wanted someone to accompany her and talk to her.
However, during that time, Cheng Lu was busy with closed creation and didn't even have time to make a phone call.
She could only survive all the grief alone, and another person went to the operation.
It was not until it was pushed out of the operating room that Cheng Lu rushed over, and then stayed for less than 20 minutes and left hurriedly.
Not long after, Siwen officially filed for divorce.
In the family, what she feared most was not to encounter wind and rain, but when the wind and rain came, you were by your side No one can rely on.
Only by accompanying each other and relying on each other can family relationships be more intimate and harmonious.
As in " Reader ", Dong Qing said one sentence:
"Company is very warm, it means that in this world someone is willing to give you the best thing, that is time. "
Life is full of ups and downs, but as long as you have family, you have the hardest armor in the world.
I have seen the story of the US Justice Ginsburg and her husband Martin.
After the two got married, they studied their doctorate at Harvard , Martin unfortunately suffered from testicular cancer .
Ginsburg not only had to take care of her young daughter, but also completed her own studies.
At that time, she only slept for one or two hours a day. Despite her hard work, she still goes to the hospital every day to talk to Martin.
and Martin has been with her and supports her.
When Ginsburg was attacked for his rights for women, Martin was her driver and chef, helping her to socialize in public.
No matter how difficult it is, the two of them always face each other and never leave each other.
Over the past few decades, they have survived countless ups and downs together, and finally spent their whole life together.
Scholar Sun Yunxuan said:
Relatives are only once fate. No matter how long I and you will spend in this life, you must cherish the time of reunion.
Because in the next life, no matter whether we recite or not, we will never meet again.
After get off work, hug your partner more, spend more weekends with your children, and see your parents when you go home on holidays.
As the saying goes: Family sits idle and the lights are nice.
The most joyful thing in life is that there is a home to go back, someone is waiting, and there is a lamp to stay for you.
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Understanding is the top-notch
0 Someone asked online: What is the most important thing in a family?
Someone answered under:
is not a rich and wealthy person, but mutual understanding, thinking in the same direction and working in the same direction.
A family is together. If you want to be happy and harmonious for a long time, you cannot do without the patience and understanding between each other.
understanding is the top configuration in family relationships.
Zhihu blogger @Ashuang shared a story about her.
One afternoon, the weather was gloomy. Before going out, A Shuang received a call from her husband, reminding her to close the doors and windows.
A Shuang agreed, but because she was anxious to go out, she still forgot to close the window before leaving.
Just after she went out, the wind and rain were blowing, lightning and thunder, and the rain passed through the window and poured into the house.
After a while, a lot of furniture was soaked in rain. The worst thing is that the computer my husband placed under the window was also soaked.
The two of them returned home and saw the living room in a mess, and they were stunned.
But my husband did not blame her, but instead comforted her: "It doesn't matter, my computer is old, so I'll change it again."
was like this, and a storm disappeared invisible.
Some people say: "The so-called good relationships all come from one's tolerance and indulgence."
An unfortunate family is always full of accusations, complaints and quarrels.
A happy family must be more tolerant than harsh criticism, and understanding is more important than accusation.
Without Lin Huijia's understanding, Ann Li would not have been a "booster" for 6 years, and it would have been even more impossible for him to be a big director who has influenced the world.
Without the understanding of Yang Jiang , it is impossible for Qian Zhongshu to ignore housework and devote himself to studying, becoming a literary master of .
Writer Desailai said: "Tolerance and considerate, without these two things, what kind of family will the family become?"
In the family, relatives are more important than reason, and feelings are more important than calculating.
Living under the same roof will inevitably lead to bumps and bumps, from daily conflicts to collisions of ideas.
But as long as you are willing to think about the other party, no matter how big the conflict is, it can melt like ice and snow.
A little less care and more tolerance, so that one family can be united and work together to make life better.
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Poet Mayn said: "If you want to build a family of love, you must first have the idea of loving your family."
family is a place of love, not a battlefield or a chessboard. There is no need to compete for the victory or defeat, nor should you be careful and be careful everywhere.
In this small world, we need timely communication and companionship, and we cannot do without mutual respect and understanding.
Only by contributing to each other can the family be harmonious and happy.
On the long road of life, home is the starting point of everything and our eternal safe haven.
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