This is also an extremely tender story, so gentle that life and death, love and hate are finally brushed aside by a smile; this is a heavy theme that is gently mentioned, and tears of reluctance are shed several times while the corners of the mouth are raised.

This is a very good movie, so good that you can watch it several times the next day;

This is a very clever work, with popular plot, jumping narrative, perspective switching, smooth rhythm, graffiti cutscenes and extremely amazing editing. Skill;

This is also an extremely gentle story, so gentle that life and death, love and hate are finally brushed away by a smile;

This is a heavy theme that is gently mentioned, and tears of reluctance are shed several times while the corners of the mouth are raised.

Director Xu Yuting, a new force in Taiwan's film market

, may have just made her debut, but she was already a gold medal screenwriter before that. " I May Not Love You " is probably her most famous work, which has been screened by South Korea and China before. It is a remake, and it is rumored that it will be remade in Japan. It can be regarded as a classic.

However, the Taiwanese drama "I May Not Love You" can still be regarded as a very formal love drama, "Who Falls in Love with You First" is different, there is a same-sex plot in it . In fact, as far as Taiwan's drama themes are concerned, homosexuality is not a shocking theme. When it comes to the introduction of homosexuality into dramas, Taiwan is one of the earliest.

Just when the legal rights of same-sex people are being put to a referendum, I suddenly feel that this play has a very important symbolic meaning. Because the central idea of ​​​​the whole drama is exactly a conceptual change that Taiwan currently lacks.

Wanwan is indeed making progress.

It is said that " who fell in love with his first" went through many twists and turns during the filming process. Even the editing afterwards made Director Xu discouraged and wanted to destroy the film as if it did not exist.

Watching it with this premise, you can really feel the "drastic" adjustments made by the two directors, so the final effect is quite good. The rich color tone of

's movie makes the whole movie look gorgeous, and it complements the strong emotions of the characters in the movie.

Frequent flashback montages are connected with hallucinatory shots, and the uncertainty of time and space can also be matched by the gorgeous visual sense.

But the most commendable thing about the film is that it is very smooth from beginning to end, and there is nothing unclear.

Really good works are constantly polished. Nothing can be done in one step. You always need to keep trying and making mistakes and learn lessons again.

But in fact, it is another "chaos". Taiwan's environment does not allow such a situation. All the funding parties of hope that it will be done once. All trials and errors are failures, and all attempts to start over are a waste of . This harsh environment makes it difficult for Taiwan's film and television industry to have room for error. Considering Taiwan's potential, I think it is a pity.

This is one of the reasons why Taiwanese movies have not been popular in recent years.

To be honest, when I watched the first part of the movie, I just thought it was a funny sketch, but the later part became more exciting and macroscopic. Many branch lines echoed and interlocked. drew out the pain and helplessness of a perverse woman with broken thoughts; it condensed The affectionate love of a dissolute scumbag is really touching. The cute animations and black humor in

's videos make people smile, and the screen freezes at the right time to create waves of emotions. The screenwriter also added the narrative ingenuity of a play-within-a-play, pouring the protagonist's unspeakable love in real life into the theater , using the structured plot of "Happy Holidays" to convey the desire and feelings of wandering around Bali with your lover. The dream of feeling love freely.

The dual perspectives of the two men, big and small, provide subjective and objective thinking, and the sequential interludes and flashbacks of past and present time and space create multiple turns, leading to the climax of the truth at the end.

Xie Yingxuan once talked about this movie in an exclusive interview:

"This is about a person who must bear the values ​​or logic given to him by society. The editor made him have to become a person who carries on the family line, and even drags people who don't know anything into him and live a different life. "

"Who fell in love with him first" has love squeezed out from the middle of the row of words, hinting again and again. "Love" is the core of the story.

In fact, it is difficult to ask which relationship comes first, which one is more important, which one is more important, and which is right or wrong. Why should we pursue right and wrong? Because we often look for an outlet to blame for the hatred and grievances in our hearts.

However, the two often rely on each other. Hate blinds people, while love makes people understand and tolerate. Everyone faces their own battlefield and has their own unspeakable difficulties. How can we learn from the situation of others? What about looking back at these deeply buried pains?

Who fell in love with whom first?

In the stage play, the love story between Ajie and Liu Sanlian for Song Zhengyuan is interspersed. There is no right or wrong between the two parties. There is no correct answer to who fell in love with her first.

Liu Sanlian, who was filled with a sense of betrayal by being deceived, forgot her own importance and her husband's hundred days. Ajie, who was filled with sadness, desperately wanted to remember Song Zhengyuan, but failed to face his mother. Song Chengxi, who wanted to know the answer, used his own way to pay homage to his father, and also began to understand his mother's pain .

There is no correct answer in this world, it is all a chaotic stage play.

The story itself is actually like the story of an unspeakable affair, but with the added persistence of a Taiwanese mother who maintains the mentality that she is fine. Such persistence made her feel that she was sorry for everything, that she was wronged, and that her son still did not support her.

When I saw Liu Sanlian crying and fussing over his son in the movie, I felt an inexplicable sense of familiarity, which made the audience laugh inexplicably. Ajie's indifference in everything made Liu Sanlian hesitate again. The whole world was against Liu Sanlian himself. A mother like

is very tough, stubborn and aggrieved. To give in the face of grievance is not to give but to ask for the approval of others.

"A person's dishonesty to himself is harm to everyone."

I like Ajie's attitude towards Song Chengxi and Liu Sanlian. It is a bit complicated but also seems to be a little bit owed. He has not had time to settle himself. A sad moment, but having to bear the pain of two other people.

A faint sentence: All the feelings are with you, gone, and the feelings that have been burned out in this life have been taken away with Song Zhengyuan's departure, and the space filled with his breath that was deliberately reserved , almost immersed in it as if addicted.

To a certain extent, he is not sad, maybe because he is not willing to admit it yet. To a certain extent, I feel that after Song Chengxi and Sanlian intervened in his life again, Ajie finally found a reason that he had to face.

From being frivolous and fond of Song Zhengyuan when he was young, to understanding Song Zhengyuan’s desire for a normal marriage, I silently watched his wedding from a distance, unable to offer my blessings, but still hoping to watch him move towards the life he wanted, that kind of It feels so sour, and how many grievances must there be, to make every day after the beloved him leave be like ten thousand years?

Liu Sanlian in the movie said to her son: "How much should I sacrifice for you?"

She felt endless grievances, but her son's words: "Did I ask you to sacrifice?" It hurt Liu Sanlian's heart.

The straightforwardness of teenagers is also the most worth listening to. Grievance and giving are not absolutely worth encouraging. When the mentality of giving is full of grievance, the person who receives your contribution will also feel aggrieved. Not everyone should accept your contribution and be full of gratitude. Song Chengxi ran away from home and scorned his mother because her mother didn't know how to listen to his ideas.

After Liu Sanlian's grievance reached the limit, she vented her anger on Ajie's mother, hoping that by hurting Ajie's mother, Ajie would be hurt by her own mother. The result was counterproductive, and at the same time, I also realized that I had to understand Song Chengxi from the bottom of my heart.

To a certain extent, if we dichotomize the entire story from a child's perspective, perhaps Sanlian has always hoped to structure the entire story through the concept of "he is the bad guy who stole her husband."

includes those words and deeds of an aunt who is like a shrew, and has a competitive mentality to at least get my son back, but in the end, what she understands is that - as Ajie said, he has neither of the two men. Rob.

What made me fall into the whirlpool in an instant, and even made my whole heart entangled and heartbroken in an instant, was the little question Sanlian asked in the clinic room all fake? Did he ever love me?

...

wanted to get a little proof of a positive answer, but in the final relationship, they seemed to get a negative answer. For Sanlian, this was the most serious injury so far. She was too small and innocent in love, but she was forced to learn to be considerate and tolerant in love. The key to letting herself go in the end was to let go of all the past and unwillingness.

So after watching the entire film, I will have a depressing feeling.

The Mistress’s Hundred Days of Farewell

The script of "Who Falls in Love with Him First" has a solid structure, and all the plots laid out in the past are neatly wrapped up in the end.

The best part of "Who Falls in Love with Him First" is when Ajie wanted to come out to his mother, but Zhengyuan stopped him. The reason was that Ajie's mother was old and didn't need to bear this. Jie said: "I don't understand why she would be sad if I love you."

Yuyuan said: "I don't understand either. But she will definitely be sad."

Later, in order to retaliate against Ajie, Sanlian deliberately told the truth to Ajie's mother: "Your son is a homosexual who robbed other people's husbands!" This scene At first glance, it seems extremely cruel, but unexpectedly, at the end of the film, it turns into a huge tear gas bomb.

Zhengyuan’s worries earlier turned out to be just worries. Love has the power of tolerance and acceptance. Zhengyuan could not guess the possible reaction of Ajie’s mother, so until the moment of his death, he was not able to become Ajie and his mother. They exist like family, and this is the greatest sadness of the film.

"Doctor, I want to ask a question. Is everything between him and me fake? Is there no love at all?"

The second question Cheng Xi asked in the film is - who is the mistress.

Who was the first person Zhengyuan fell in love with? Who is the one who steals someone’s husband? Towards the end of the movie, the mistress's question became no longer important. For Sanlian, she just wanted to ask: Did Zhengyuan ever love me? Is this all fake?

What Ajie wants to ask is, why do we spend so little time together?

Chengxi wants to ask, why does everyone have love, but in the end it can only end with tears?

This is precisely the touching point of "Who Falled in Love with Him First". It lies in understanding, Chengxi read the appearance of love from a love story about betraying each other; in letting go, Sanlian read forgiveness from a love story about betraying each other; in letting go, Ajie read a love story about betraying each other Here, I read about letting go.

"You are so good at math, do you know how long ten thousand years is?" Ajie said.

"Ten thousand years is just ten thousand years."

"No, when the person you love says he wants to be a normal person and then leaves you, every day from that day on will be ten thousand years."

This confession is related to "Chungking Express" is even better, it's a classic.

torture each other, no one is the only sufferer, and no one is the only winner.

At the beginning of the movie, there is a narration by the child Song Chengxi. His first line is: "I know my father is gay."

The whole movie As a child, he showed no discrimination or dislike for homosexuality at all. The reason why he should hate Ajie is just because his mother said that he destroyed their family and her mother said that he was a bad person. But what he wanted more was to feel him personally and understand his father's love for this man.

From the house where his father later lived with Ajie, he found traces of Ajie taking care of his father, as well as his concern that he was always afraid that he would be thirsty and hungry. He knew that Ajie was not a bad person. It seems that only we adults have preconceived ideas about labeling people of the same sex.

The most tearful part of the movie, but the best part is when the stage play ends, Ajie's mother presents him with a bouquet of flowers.

She said: "No matter you like a man or a woman, you are my son, and you will always be my strongest support."

This is the best ending, isn't it.

Changes in Educational Concepts

"Who Falls in Love with Him First" is definitely the best dark horse movie in Taiwan in recent years.

The script is well written , the dialogue is particularly well written, vigorous and powerful, and the laughs are perfect; the soundtrack is good, and several interludes composed by Li Yinghong are quite pleasant; the technical aspects such as photography, art, and lighting are also at a high level.

When the homosexual phenomenon collides with traditional values, these innate conditions come into being.

The brilliance of "Who Falls in Love with Him First" is none other than Song Chengxi, the narrator. Losing his father is equivalent to facing the destruction of the world for a child, but no one is willing to talk to him about this issue head-on. In addition to Ajie, this little king who stole his father and the insurance money should be a villain who does all kinds of evil and the common enemy of mother and son.

Just like sex education, when adults keep silent about an issue, the child will only make insinuations and piece together an imaginary whole picture in a negative way. Therefore, he misunderstood his father and felt towards Ajie. Curious and conflicted, he is full of resentment and thorns towards his mother.

keeps the room spotless and does his best to support the whole family.

Her son cannot be exposed to dust mites, so she changes the sheets every day. Her son has allergies, so she pays attention to organic ingredients and daily routine, and saves everything, just so that her son can study abroad and get ahead in the future, like a spinning top. He goes around the family every day, keeping his daily life in order, and taking good care of his only son.

Perhaps at first, people think that the mother who dislikes everything and Obasan who has opinions on everything is like a shrew when things happen, is unreasonable, emotional blackmail, and even full of homophobic words and deeds. , it is really difficult to live together in the same room.

But as the plot progresses, with a smile, she gradually realizes how much pain it takes for a working woman to raise her son alone. She transfers her expectations from her husband to her son, puts aside herself and devotes herself to her son. In order to understand everything, you must learn to listen, discipline in a timely manner, cook and clean, take care of your face, have a head and six arms, have inexhaustible patience and love, and have an indestructible psychological quality.

It is an unwritten general rule that a mother should be strong, just like the sentence in "Diary of a World-Weary Mommy" - I'm just not used to someone finishing things for me.

is the indifference that every independent person can relate to. Taking a closer look at the strong women in society who seem to have three heads and six arms, they are not born to be so smart and capable, but are forced by the environment and circumstances, so that they have to force themselves to become omnipotent. role, because later in life, you will understand that the most reliable person in this world is yourself. Why is

so beautiful?

's movie is actually very gentle and non-judgmental, but it tells a story that may be cruel and true with laughter and tears - formal marriage.

Why can't we be honest? Why does admitting we love each other lead to someone else’s downfall? Ajie can understand but cannot figure it out.

This also led to the scene where the mother appeared at the end of the stage play, which was so powerful for Ajie.

agrees and gives blessings, that’s all.

"Who Falls in Love with Him First" uses a light comedy to package a serious issue. This movie is both light and heavy. From time to time, graffiti is used to intersperse children's perspectives and narrations to describe what children understand about adults. Love and hate. Let us watch in detail how the three protagonists of the story make this tragedy-comedy clear.

It happened to catch up with the current topics of "same-sex marriage" and "gender equality education law" in Taiwan.

To be honest, the story of "Who Falls in Love with Him First" happens to tell a tragedy about conforming to secular values. Generally, what the traditional social system expects is a gender marriage between a man and a woman. When gay people are oppressed by the traditional social system, this kind of tragedy may occur.

In order to cater to the "so-called normality", some people thought that maybe it would change after trying it, but unexpectedly it failed. sexual orientation will not change due to education, but you can know how to face correctly through education.

So even with such a difficult "background" integration, the movie itself has a good rhythm at the beginning, clearly letting people know the position and identity of each character. The life-like dialogue allows the audience to integrate well into the plot and easily get close to their hearts. I was a little disappointed with the lackluster ending, but life has its ups and downs.

's good interpretation of the characters was my first good impression of "Who Falls in Love with Him First".

The acting skills of the two leading actors are amazing and impressive. Qiu Ze's acting skills are more sophisticated. I'm ashamed that I think my impression of him is still stuck in an idol drama.

It can be said that the world owes Qiu Ze a Golden Horse Best Actor. He should stay on the big screen and shine.

Especially the scene where he plays the guitar and instantly escapes into the memory, it can be called the magical moment of this film. Qiu Ze suddenly turns from a ruffian who doesn't do his own business to a flesh-and-blood character. It is touching, not only The script is well written and his performance is the main reason for the success of "Who Falls in Love with Him First".

Xie Yingxuan's acting skills are also above the standard, and she is worthy of being a theater goddess.

Her acting skills are completely unspeakable. I even have to say that if this movie did not have such superb casting and if it did not insist on letting Xie Yingxuan star, I think there might be a gap in the level of excitement, and maybe this work would be relatively different. Get mediocre.

And as director Xu Yuting said, "She allows two actors who feel that they are different in their past performance styles and methods, and even in the audience's perception, to create a new look and new sparks. For me, "It's very surprising."

uses the editing, animation, and actors' performances to make this story full of more loveliness. This is probably the magic of Taiwanese movies.

In addition to the starring roles, and Hsu Chi-yan , the two directors, capture the image style very accurately and the colors are very full, which just adds to the flavor of this slightly crazy Taipei urban movie. It is so impressive that Hsu Yu-ting is totally looking for the right partner. .

Song Zhengyuan died of illness, leaving behind him a wife who was diligent and thrifty but hysterical, a son who was in adolescence and did not know how to adjust himself, a homosexual lover who seemed to be careless and careless, and an insurance money that should be left to his family. It sounds like a tragic story, which is one of the reasons why "Who Falled in Love with Him First" shocked everyone.

has too many microcosms of today's Taiwanese society wrapped in relaxed and humorous sugar-coating, whether it is Liu Sanlian's homophobia and marriage transitions, Song Chengxi's changes in understanding of relationships between people, or Ajie's onion-like layers. How deep is the repressed love of same-sex love after the surface is peeled off? These are all questions that we need to think about carefully after reading it.

The director and screenwriter must be very gentle people. Like Ang Lee , they can put themselves very low, reaching into everyone's heart, asking what is home? What is love? What is marriage? What is happiness? What are social expectations? What are our respective life lessons?

Although it is a pity that the movie was not released in the mainland, I still hope that there will be more such excellent works in Taiwan.