Xiaoyan likes Yu Da not only because he can bring him a lot of happiness, but also because of his own stability, and the little surprises that suddenly pop up in his honesty, like a stupid young man.

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The beauty of marriage is only imagined by us. Only when we actually get married can we know the sourness of it.

Xiaoyan likes Yu Da not only because he can bring him a lot of happiness, but also because of his own stability, and the little surprises that suddenly pop up in his honesty, like a stupid young man.

Yu Da is a native of Beijing, and Xiaoyan is from outside. After graduating from college, Xiaoyan went to Beijing alone to experience the recklessness of youth, as if Beijing's alleyways and the bustling CBD could make her mistakenly imagine that she was also a capable character in a TV series. When I first got my job in Beijing, I met Yu Da. Yu Da later asked Xiao Yan to resign because he had a private message. Xiao Yan's sweet language made it too easy to seduce other men while doing telemarketing.

It would be nice if Yu Da was younger, even ten years younger. Yes, Yu Da is a full 16 years older than Xiaoyan. The gap between the two generations was blinded by the illusion of love. Xiaoyan desperately stayed with Yuda, even despite the fact that Yuda had a son who was ten years younger than Xiaoyan.

Xiaoyan often wishes that if Yu Da were richer, there wouldn't be so many conflicts. The sweet flowering period of marriage is short-lived, and everything changed when Xiaoyan became pregnant. Because Yu Da works in a state-owned enterprise and is a small leader of the department, Xiaoyan went to the public hospital alone for the entire prenatal check-up, facing the bustling crowd of people. Sometimes I would run around in line alone. I would feel aggrieved and cry angrily to Yu Da who was off work, "Why can't you accompany me? My husband doesn't even go to work?" Leaders cannot ask for leave at will, and do not make small talk publicly because second marriages are not good news and colleagues are not close friends. Let them know what to do.

Xiaoyan gradually accepted that marriage is like this. When you compromise on one thing, there will be more and more things waiting for you to give in.

At first, Yu Da didn't want his son to know Xiao Yan's existence. Every time his son asked Yu Da to go out to play, Xiao Yan would be at home alone. Later, Yu Da's mother leaked the news, and Yu Da tried to let Xiao Yan contact his son. Unexpectedly, the child had no grudges, but from then on, Xiao Yan felt more and more wronged, because no matter where he went on the weekend or when Yu Da went on a long vacation, he had to take it with him. son.

Let’s take a small incident as an example. Once Xiaoyan finished washing the vegetables and wanted to eat scrambled eggs with tomatoes for lunch. Yu Da, who had already decided that he wanted to eat scrambled eggs with tomatoes, turned around and asked his son, "Do you want to eat scrambled eggs with tomatoes or scrambled eggs with cucumbers?" "This also establishes that Xiaoyan will not be the first person Yu Da thinks of in the future.

After Xiaoyan and Yu Da got married, they didn't go to work because they got pregnant immediately. After all, it's unstable just after graduating from college, but a stable marriage is fine. At that time, Xiaoyan often thought happily about how she cooked for Yu Da after work every day, from her skills in burning the bottom of the pot to being praised by Yu Da every day for being a hundred times better than a restaurant.

It was really hard for Xiaoyan during the year when he was raising a child. No one helped him. Sometimes Xiaoyan would cry when he saw the crying baby, and he would see his classmates in the circle of friends working hard one by one, while he was raising a child at a beautiful age. Cook.

gradually had more conflicts with Yu Da. Especially when they quarreled with Yu Da, Xiaoyan had no responsibility for the family. Xiaoyan paid for herself, and she also spent her own money on prenatal check-ups. When Xiaoyan was angry, she would talk back, "My husband goes with me during prenatal check-ups." What kind of husband can't support his wife during this special period? "Yu Da would also say: "As long as you can, there are many couples who have two jobs, and they still get paid for prenatal care." Xiaoyan was speechless.

Later, Xiaoyan couldn't help but call her mother and cry, and her mother took the child back to her hometown. Although Xiaoyan cried uncontrollably when parting, she still reluctantly left her child when she thought about her future. Yu Da is not an unreasonable person. He pays his mother-in-law two thousand yuan every month as a filial piety.

Xiaoyan wanted to find a job, but Yu Da persuaded Xiao Yan to start a business with him. Yu Da had been a leader after all, so after several brainwashings, Xiao Yan agreed. It’s just that the legal person of the company is Yu Da, and the director is Yu Da’s father. Every penny the company makes must be collected through Yu Da’s WeChat, Alipay , and bank cards. Xiaoyan is just a poor guy who is called a boss but actually doesn't even get a salary.

Step by step compromise made Xiaoyan gradually lose himself in the marriage. In the past, Yuda would buy gifts for Xiaoyan during holidays, but later it became Yuda who said disdainfully: "What gift do you want for your birthday? How can a child survive?" Birthday?" On the other hand, Yu Da will celebrate his parents' birthday and prepare a cake for his sister.

Later, due to business problems, the company lost a sum of money. The money was accumulated by Xiaoyan through hard work visiting customers day and night. Xiaoyan was heartbroken at the loss. The air in those days was extremely depressing, and Yu Da's cold violence made Xiao Yan suffocate. But what makes Xiao Yan even more sad is that Yu Da can speak sweet love words tenderly when the sperm is in his head, soothing Xiao Yan's fragile heart. After Yu Da exerts himself to satisfy his lust, he can coldly point fingers at Xiao Yan. After

compensated the customer for the balance, it was another passionate night. Xiaoyan thought that Yu Da would reconcile with him, and the reconciliation happened the next morning. After Yu Da finished the breakfast prepared by Xiao Yan, he ordered Xiao Yan to quickly clean up the dishes, but Xiao Yan was not satisfied. In time the two quarreled again. Yu Da directly hit Xiao Yan in the face with his underwear. This insult made Xiao Yan extremely disappointed.

Combined with everything Yu Da had done, Xiaoyan couldn't help but call his friend. That day, his friend realized that Xiaoyan had been so sad for so many years. Yu Da even persuaded Xiao Yan to divorce him because he wanted to buy a new house in Beijing, and Xiao Yan did it. Just because Yu Da said: "You love me not because of my money. The house I bought is the wealth I accumulated before I met you, and it has nothing to do with you, so you need to divorce me and I buy a house, which is good for both of us." Guarantee."

's friend advised Xiaoyan: "That's it. You have been following an old man who is much older than you for many years, you have given birth to a child, you have been out of touch with the times for several years, and you have to get divorced to buy a house? "Xiaoyan was also too poisoned, saying that Yu Da's youth is more precious than mine, after all. I'm so much older, he would be worse off than me if we divorced.

's friend was helpless: "Then what do you have to say? The house and the car belong to other people. If I quarrel with you and kick you out, your character will suddenly fade away. Even in the company you open, you have a penny in your hand." ”

The company later broke up, and Yu Da took all the remaining money and only gave Xiaoyan 3,000 yuan as a loan. Xiaoyan asked him if he didn't have more than a year's salary? Yu Da said that he wanted to get back what he invested, and he would ask for any salary if he didn't make any money.

Later in their marriage, Yu Da always asked Xiaoyan to pay for water, electricity and other expenses in various ways. Even when Yu Da buys a pot, he has to say that it is made by AA.

Xiaoyan recalled when the love between them changed, and why the various romances that Yu Dahui had experienced in the past became more and more tense as their married life went by.

Now since Xiaoyan and Yu Da broke up, she has still maintained her old customers, and her business is getting better little by little. But the love with Yu Da is becoming more and more stalemate. Xiaoyan said that it was not that he didn't want to shoulder the responsibilities of the family, but he couldn't stand Yu Da's coercion, and there was a 16-year difference. Seeing that Yu Da was not bad even if he put aside his own material conditions, but he still had to struggle hard. How? Achieve a fair AA system.

Xiaoyan tried to discuss the idea of ​​divorce with Yu Da, but Yu Da disagreed. Yu Da must be reluctant to let go of Xiao Yan. She is becoming more and more beautiful as time goes by, and her career is getting better and better. However, Yu Da wants to control everything about Xiao Yan and prevent Xiao Yan from being free financially.

has watched many variety shows and often says that if a man loves you, he will spend his money on you. Yu Da is 16 years older than Xiao Yan. Xiao Yan always murmurs that it would be better if Yu Da had more money. This would be better if he would not force Xiao Yan to have an AA relationship with him, but Xiao Yan was wrong. Is Yu Da poor? Although an annual salary of 300,000 yuan in Beijing is not much, Yu Da has accumulated cars and houses for decades. When Yu Da buys things for his parents, ex-wife and son, he doesn’t blink. Why does he ask for an AA deal with Xiaoyan? , even the children born to Xiaoyan will have to bear a large part of the expenses. I believe that even if Yu Da is richer than Jack Ma, he will not treat Xiao Yan any better than he does now.

When we were young, we often read half of the story and thought it was over. From then on, the prince and princess lived a happy life. But in real life, the establishment of marriage is the real beginning of a person.

Love is often sweet, and the setbacks and difficulties in love also make people feel like tests. However, girls who have no experience in facing love are often blinded by the truth. I think Yu Da in the article wants to find a high-end free nanny. Just serve him morning and night, make money to support his family, and protect his own risks. As she prepared to get divorced without losing any money, she used her years of accumulated experience to brainwash Xiaoyan.

Fortunately, Xiaoyan did not become a housewife, otherwise she would be really sad. As her experience grows, Xiaoyan also understands her previous failures in marriage. Unfortunately, divorce is costly, especially when Xiaoyan looks at her child's childish face. Heartache.

With the development of society, there are more and more old couples and young couples, but when you are tender with an old man, please bring a heart detector. After all, the other person is an old fox with many years of experience. Be careful that a wrong decision will cause you to be unable to get out of the opponent's array. You must also maintain the ability to be single and at all times. Falling in love with an older man must have something to do with the material superiority he brings to you, but you have to remind yourself that you need to earn your own money. Life is not like acting in a movie, and the other person will not always pay for you.

Author: Ning'er

Source: Jianshu