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Parents are very concerned about the development of their children, and they have also experienced some confusion and confusion... This issue of "Family Education Experts Say" is written by Teacher Guo Wenhong of Nanjing Fangcaoyuan Primary School, through personal experience stories, and Parents and friends share the parenting methods of smart mothers.
Experts in this issue
case
Character: The mother of a monitor in the school
Time: One morning
Background: All students took turns to come to school to get vaccinated. During this period, they received a visiting parent, which left a very deep impression on the teacher.
Attitude towards things
Teacher, are you free today? I want to come to school to talk about my child's situation.
I am at school today.
If I leave from work immediately and come back to school in half an hour, do you think this time is appropriate?
Okay, no problem.
I'll leave right away, thank you.
25 minutes later
has parked the car and is still five minutes away from the school. Where can I find you later?
Please come directly to the classroom.
5 minutes later, we met in the classroom very smoothly, and I found that she was carrying her notebook very seriously.
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Seeing this, I think an experienced teacher can roughly guess the status of this child in school based on the few questions and extremely precise time control, right?
Indeed, with such a thoughtful, rigorous, and methodical mother, how could the child not be civilized, generous, conscientious, and steady?
Attitude towards grades
During the conversation, my mother talked about such a thing. In the first grade, there was a small English exercise, and the child scored more than 80 points. This score is substandard. Other parents might criticize or even neglect their children because of this, but this mother took her children out to eat her favorite ice cream that day. To this day, the child still remembers this incident.
To be honest, I didn’t expect this, because I know that mothers have high requirements for their children’s learning, pay a lot of attention and effort, and their children’s academic standards are also quite good. However, when her children did not achieve satisfactory results, she not only did not criticize her, but also had an unexpected surprise, which really impressed me.
She didn’t tell me why she did what she did that day, but I saw the follow-up results of this: the children will not be afraid to go home and tell the truth, nor will they be afraid of failing in practice, and of course they will not be afraid of any learning tasks. Because after every homework, there must be gentle guidance and attentive help from the mother, and even surprises. How can a child hate studying?
Attitude towards "fault"
Children are children after all, and it is inevitable that there will be some minor situations. It is said that once, when a child was playing with his classmates, he accidentally broke the new glasses that his classmates had just received. After the teacher informed her of the incident, the mother did not dwell on "Are both parties responsible for the children's fussing?" "Are you sure it was my child who broke it?" "It's not just one of us, what about the other kids?" ?" and other common passing thoughts, but immediately sent the glasses to the other parent.
Afterwards, the mother bought another set of books for the other party, and invited them to have dinner and play games together... When recounting this past, the mother did not forget to praise the little friend who "got into trouble" with the child, and the mother was also very awesome. In the end, the result of this "disaster" was that the three friends became very good friends.
What a beautiful story! Having dealt with all kinds of student disputes, I couldn't help but admire in my heart: What a wise mother. Not only did she not leave any psychological shadow on her children's unintentional mistakes while they were growing up, she also taught them how to deal with them. Taking responsibility, and using actions to let children gain pure friendship...
No wonder the mother said: "No matter who the child sits at the same table with, he plays well with others and is happy all day long. Is it reasonable that he was elected class president with a high vote not long ago?" I think, so The enviable interpersonal relationships may be related to the mother's mind and vision.
Expert Tips
Rather than raising children, it is better to cultivate yourself. We have every reason to believe that parents’ vision, speech and behavior have laid a solid life foundation for children before the age of seven, and their future will be bright.
Preview for the next issue
How to let children have positive psychological qualities is an important topic in home-school education, and it is the best gift our parents can give their children in their lives. How can parents create a good family emotional atmosphere and give their children a positive growth environment? Next Wednesday, Huang Jian, deputy secretary of Nanjing Fangcaoyuan Primary School, will teach you how to cultivate children's positive psychological qualities, so stay tuned!
"Family Education Experts Say"
This special topic "Ning Jie 137 Air Classroom" Family education course has a total of 40 issues throughout the year, comprehensively covering quality, physical and mental health, parent-child communication, minor protection, academic guidance, parent literacy, etc. Various aspects of the subject. The course will help parents and children establish correct family concepts in the following aspects, reconstruct family education in the new era, and enhance good parent-child relationships:
1. The responsibilities and concepts of family education, and comprehensively improve the capabilities and literacy of new parents;
2. Different ages Duan’s parent-child communication methods and skills, accurate awareness and recognition of children’s physical and psychological characteristics at different stages, guide parents in cultivating children’s self-control, emotional management, moral character, etc.;
3. Strengthen parents' ability to provide academic guidance to their children, guide parents to correctly stimulate their children's interest in learning, cultivate correct learning motivation, clarify learning tasks and learning methods at different stages, and respond to learning difficulties; understand the school's culture, master and Teacher communication methods;
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Acknowledgments for this issue:
Nanjing Fangcaoyuan Primary School
Acknowledgments for previous issues:
"China Family Newspaper·Parent Learning" School》Family Education Research Institute
Nanjing Yuhua Foreign Language Primary School
Hohai University
Nanjing Jinling Middle School Hexi Branch
Nanjing Xiaoying Primary School
Nanjing Xiaozhuang College First Experimental Primary School
Nanjing Yizhixing Art Education Research Institute
Nanjing Zhiyuan Junior High School
Nanjing Youfu West Street Primary School
Dandelion Youth Emergency Service Center
Nanjing Taipingxiang Kindergarten
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