In reality, many women have encountered changes in marriage. When there is no marriage, or when the marriage is not very beautiful, they will feel that life is meaningless and directionless.
In their eyes, marriage is the whole of life, marriage is the ultimate battlefield for women, and marriage is the ultimate happiness for women.
There are many kinds of happiness, and there is only one of the happiness in marriage.
There is no need to worry about marriage, but I am afraid that you will never recover from now on, afraid that you will give up your hope for the future, and afraid that you will think that life will have no meaning from now on.
This is the most terrifying cognition.
Smart women never regard marriage as everything. Whose life is not full of holes, life is broken, we repair it for life. There is no one in this world who is not hurt, no one full of happiness.
No matter when, you must believe that the only one who truly heals yourself is yourself.
A few days ago, I watched Huang Yi participate in a speech program. What touched me the most was the sentence she said at the end of the program:
"Love is not the whole of life, and marriage is not the destination of destiny. No matter what you experience, you cannot give up your hope for life."
I think this sentence must be her deepest understanding of her experience of the ups and downs of life.
Huang Yi, who was still star-studded four years ago, divorced her ex-husband, which caused her ex-husband to expose her skin on Weibo every now and then, humiliating her again and again.
Then, due to the crazy revenge of her ex-husband, the overwhelming negative news rushed towards Huang Yi. Whether it was filming or other cooperation, they were stopped. Even the previous advertisers directly asked her to claim compensation, and in the end, the entire network was covered with Huang Yi's black material.
Due to physical and mental frustration, Huang Yi closed herself during that period, dared not go online, dared not use her mobile phone, or even contacted any of her friends. She was extremely frightened and she lost her hair for a long time and even dared not go out and surf the Internet, which made Huang Yi fall to the bottom for a while.
Fortunately, in the end, she was inspired by her father in her seventies, regained her momentum, ignited hope for life, and started her business.
Huang Yi has now returned to the audience's attention. Even if he has no marriage, he is still a happy life. That miserable marriage has become a thing of the past.
Huang Yi experienced two failed marriages, which made her understand the importance of family and women's independence. In the program, she used herself as the negative teaching material and warned female friends that love and marriage are not the whole of life, she is!
What is the key to maintaining a happy marriage for a long time?
is not passion.
Passion will surely die in love, and a pot of water that keeps boiling will sooner or later be consumed.
You often see such scenes in life. The desperate man and woman in the love scene gritted their teeth and cursed: "I must have been blind at the beginning, but I fell in love with you. I met someone bad!"
What is more important than love is fairness.
In a good intimate relationship, everyone's benefits must be proportional to their efforts, that is, everyone feels that their efforts have been compensated and benefited.
The more you pay, the more you gain. When people feel that this is a fair "exchange", they will feel happiness and happiness, and will have the initiative to give from the bottom of their hearts.
A good marriage is a win-win exchange.
There are a million possibilities in life.
No one can guarantee that his future will be completely entrusted to major events in life. You do not have the ability to survive independently in marriage.
Then you will face crises all the time. Marriage is never the ultimate destination of a woman. Only when a woman lives up to herself and her marriage is the wisest choice.
Never give in to your knees in marriage, as you will not only lose your marriage, but also lose yourself.
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