01
Recently, I was watching a TV series starring Lei Jiayin . My wife suddenly asked me:
"Do you know? Lei Jiayin almost got scolded and cried back then!"
Me: What's the situation?
Then, my wife showed me a video of Lei Jiayin and Tang Wei . In the
video, the two were interviewed together. The reporter asked Lei Jiayin what Tang Wei couldn't stand the most when filming?
Lei Jiayin answered carelessly: When we were filming intimate scenes, she always went to the bathroom!
Speaking of this, Tang Wei smiled awkwardly.
At this time, Lei Jiayin's straight male had cancer and continued to complain: Every time I brewed my emotions and felt that, she would run to the toilet and film 10 scenes, and she could run to the toilet three times!
Hearing this, Tang Wei's expression changed from embarrassment to self-blame, and he sincerely apologized: I'm sorry, I didn't expect it to have such a big impact on you!
As he spoke, Tang Wei couldn't help but start to cry. The host of
panicked when he saw this and quickly comforted him, while Lei Jiayin joked indifferently: What are you comforting? Just cry for a while!
This interview immediately aroused people's dissatisfaction, and there were constant criticisms on the Internet. Netizens called out: Lei Datou is too straight, deserves to be scolded!
Lei Jiayin, who has always been very popular with the audience, why did he "discuss public anger" this time?
In fact, everyone is not targeting him, but feeling sorry for Tang Wei.
The reason why Tang Wei frequently goes to the toilet is that she just gave birth to a baby, and she really can't hold it in! Many female netizens saw Tang Wei as if they had seen her. When she had just given birth, she was embarrassed by and , and she couldn't bear to look back.
Sneeze, cough , or even laugh, will leak urine. Even if you go out to play, you must first find a toilet to deal with leaks in urine anytime and anywhere!
Leaking urine is a situation that every woman may face. This is the harm a woman suffers when giving birth to a child and should not be ridiculed.
Lei Jiayin is indeed too ignorant!
The man in reality is more than just Lei Jiayin?
He Yuwen shared the story of her and her husband. After He Yuwen gave birth to two children, her uterus sagged and pressed her bladder , causing her to urinate often and even went to the toilet three times a night.
, who was deeply in pain, not only did not get her husband's understanding, but was often criticized by her husband. Every time she got up at night, her husband would speak coldly to her, which put a lot of pressure on He Yuwen.
had no choice but to separate her husband for two years!
In fact, He Yuwen's situation is like thousands of women. In the face of the sequelae of childbirth, no matter you are a celebrity or an ordinary person, it is difficult for you to escape. The only difference between
is whether it can get the understanding and support of her husband.
Maybe some men will say, "If you don't tell me, how do I know you have so many things?"
But is this a woman's fault?
Is it a matter for a woman to have children alone?
Shouldn’t men take the initiative to care about their wives?
How many women are there? After giving birth, they experience depression, hair loss, and their bodies are distorted!
How many men see it and remember it in their hearts?
How many men are there when facing the embarrassing situation of women having incontinence and urine leakage, they laugh it off like Lei Jiayin?
02
There is such a scene in the TV series " Female Psychologist ".
In the play, a second child mother was walking on the street, and suddenly a boy behind her screamed:
"Look! She wet her pants! Why do you still wet your pants when you are so adult?"
At that moment, the boy seemed to have discovered something particularly fun. People around
follow and make a fuss and point a few tips!
The second child mother burst into tears in an instant!
The reason why she did this was just because she gave birth to two children.
She didn't expect that one day she would be pointed out by the child on the street to point out her inner pain!
At that moment, the second child’s mother’s heart was as if she was stolen!
Sometimes, after a woman gives birth, the test has just begun.
has a friend around her. Before giving birth, she was a pretty girl with a handsome personality, a navel-covered dress, a suspender skirt, and a bikini, without clothes she dared not wear.
However, when she gave birth to a child, all these clothes were stuffed into the innermost layer of the wardrobe, and she changed into a bloated big T-shirt.
Since then, she has never been to the beach again, nor has she worn a navel-exposed suit again.
At a party, she couldn't help complaining, saying that she had bid farewell to the navel-exposed dress in her life, because for a woman, if she had had a child, others could tell at a glance.
Stretch marks on her belly are like a tag that can't be removed no matter how hard she wants to tear it off. Tell others all the time:
"Look! She gave birth to a child!"
"That scar is so ugly, why is she still so embarrassed to wear a navel-exposed outfit? I really admire her courage!"
...
These light words are like mountains, hitting the woman's heart, causing her to fall into the anxiety of self-doubt.
If you think that what fertility brings to women is just losing the right to love beauty, then you are very wrong.
It has a more serious consequence, that is, the passage of life!
03
Someone has done research. Having a child will accelerate the aging of women, and most of them can last up to 11 years! How terrible
!
In addition to the endocrine reasons, another important reason is the hard work of raising children.
More than once heard such complaints. A woman said that after giving birth, her husband rarely helps. She comes back from get off work every day and plays games on her mobile phone and rarely asks about her and her children.
Therefore, women not only have to bear the pressure of taking care of their families, but also take care of their children. They have to get up at night, feed and change diapers, and eventually they have to sleep seriously and have a haggard face!
At this time, you will find that women who have always loved beauty have become plain all day long, and even don’t buy a piece of clothing for a year or two.
Many people laugh at women who have given birth to a child for being sloppy and say that they are yellow-faced women.
But, is this what they are willing to do?
Who doesn’t want to be refined and enjoy a comfortable life every day?
Who doesn’t want to wear beautiful clothes that attract the envy of people around you?
They have no choice. They choose to burn their lives to nurture new lives.
This is a greatness in itself and should not be cynical.
should not be laughed at least by "Lei Jiayin"!
This kind of smile is extremely disrespectful to women suffering from pain!
04
Is it painful to have a baby?
I believe that the answer to most people is yes.
But if you continue to ask, "How painful is it to have a baby?"
is believed that many people can't answer it!
To be honest, I didn’t know before. It was not until my child was born that I knew what a woman had experienced during childbirth!
It turns out that after giving birth, getting up in the middle of the night to feed, change diapers, and coax people to sleep is something that can drive people crazy!
It turns out that those women who are depressed all day after giving birth are not her tantrums, but that she is really exhausted!
Later, I began to learn to take care of my children, learn to change diapers, make milk powder, and do my best to reduce the burden on my wife.
Because I know that having one child is a matter of two people.
Raising a child should be a matter of two people!
Therefore, I would like to call on men to give women more understanding and tolerance.
These women who became mothers were once innocent girls.
Although "women are weak, but mothers are strong", they still need careful care!
and I will share with you!
