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Once read a report saying that it was Wang Weizhong, known as the godfather of Taiwan variety shows, who had been married to his wife for many years. After his daughter left home in college, she lived a life of separate living between husband and wife, which caused many people to discuss the marriage of middle-aged couples.
Although Wang Weizhong and his wife slept in separate beds, they were still under the same roof, just a door separated by a door. They could hear anything in normal times and take care of them. They did not sleep in the bed, which affected the relationship between the couple.
Coincidentally, I read an article on the Internet about how long a man can endure it after a couple is separated, which has caused a lot of discussion. Below the article, some people commented that they could not bear it for a day, while others said that they could bear it for a long time.
Of course, in the comment section, many men say they can't stand it or have a short time to endure it, while most women seem to have nothing to do with it. They have to endure it longer than men, and some even feel that sleeping in separate beds is still a relaxing thing for them.
For this question, I also asked some female friends around me, and the answers I got were worthy of everyone's deep thought.
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"We all slept better in separate beds. I think it's good. It's OK to always do this."
Luo Yu is 38 years old this year. He is a full-time mother with two children. She has slept with her husband for 2 years. Luo Yu has been married to her husband for 12 years. She has always had no good relationship with her husband, nor is she very loving. Anyway, she is just that kind of dull kind.
Luo Yu said: "My relationship with my husband has always been very ordinary. There is no romance on holidays or birthdays. However, although my husband doesn't know romance, he is still honest and dedicated. He also gives the money he earns to the family. He doesn't have any other bad habits.
My husband and I sleep in separate beds. After giving birth to a second baby, he considered that he had to take care of two children and was not worth it. He then quit his job. He gave birth to a second baby. It is time because it is an elderly mother and the child has a premature birth, so it is difficult for the baby to take care of it in the first 6 months and it is easy to cry.
Every time I cry, my husband can't sleep well. I thought I had to go to work during the day the next day, so I let him sleep in the next study. The sleeping mode between us has been determined since then. Now the child is 2 years old and has been sleeping with me. My husband is still used to living in the study and is not used to living together, so I just want to do it.
Me It feels good to do this. Originally, he snored again, and I slept lightly at night. Staying with my child will affect my sleep. When I was woken up, I would wake him up, and both of them couldn't sleep. If I live separately like this, I would be at ease and I would be able to do this all the time. "
Many couples sleep in separate rooms, just like Luo Yu and his wife. It's not that they have no feelings or that there is a problem with their relationship, but because of some objective things in reality, for the sake of their children, or even to not affect their sleep.
"I have been married for many years, but my feelings have disappeared. I even got really annoyed when I see him, so I just slept separately."
Zhang Ying is 45 years old this year, she has been married for 20 years and has been sleeping in separate beds for nearly 3 years. Zhang Ying said that about the couple sleeping in separate beds.
"When we first got married, our relationship was not very good. At the beginning, we got together because of the family of both parties.
After marriage, with the trivialities of life together, our relationship became increasingly indifferent. Now, except for eating and weekends, the two of them rarely communicate at other times, so they simply sleep without living in the same house.
I think we have no feelings for each other for a long time, and even often, we get annoyed when we see each other. Of course, we also know that remarrying is not good, so we still stick to it. One is for the children, giving the children a complete home, and the other is for the parents of both parties. Because our parents are close friends, we don't want to affect the relationship between the two families because of this matter."
Some couples sleep in separate beds, but they have been married for many years. The relationship between the couple has faded, but they have no plans to divorce. For children or other reasons, they will live a life, so sleeping separately may be a good way for them.
" My husband and I have a good relationship, and there is really no way to sleep in separate beds. Who He often traveled on business trips in other places. "
Liu Lan is 35 years old this year. She and her husband have been living a separate state of sleeping in separate beds. Regarding the current situation of the couple, Liu Lan just kept shaking her head, saying that there is nothing she can do, it is all forced by life.
"I have always had a good relationship since my husband and I were in love, because we all come from the countryside, our family is not in good condition, and our parents cannot provide help, so we can only rely on ourselves.
After getting married, we owe a lot of money to buy a house. In order to pay off the debts owed, my husband had to choose this kind of business trip with subsidies and work like this that he could earn more money.
Now our money is about to be paid off. I hope my husband will come back to you early so that this can end the dilemma of such a couple sleeping in separate beds. "
Some couples are like Liu Lan. It's not that they want to sleep in separate beds, but because of life, they have no choice but to passively accept the fact that they sleep in separate beds. However, this situation will not last long. Once the living conditions improve, the couple will return to their previous life state.
03
For couples, Everyone will have different answers and attitudes. For this question, the shadow attitude is that as long as it does not affect the relationship between husband and wife, it doesn’t matter whether they sleep in separate beds or not. Of course, the separation of beds mentioned here means that the couple still lives under the same roof and should be distinguished from separation.
Everyone has their own lifestyle, and each couple also has their own way of getting along with each other. As long as the general principles remain unchanged, the couple can accept it and feel it is appropriate, whether they are separated or not is actually a form. There is no need to care too much.
Just like Wang Weizhong and his wife, giving each other some space, and still living under the same roof. If you have any problems, you can still take care of each other. This is actually not bad.
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