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The birth of this article is thanks to Douban FM's song list that has not been updated for a long time. Recently, I played songs from several years ago, so I met the old time unexpectedly.
I have always considered opening a "Sound and Color" column, which is parallel to "Watching Movie" but has different functions. Movies can intuitively express stories and portray characters. I believe that " is good theater".
However, we often ignore one thing, that is, is at the age when we can’t speak, experience and memory have long existed in , and the imprint is really profound and long-term. If psychological counseling is Talking therapy, then how do we express the perception of the previous language period?
language ends with art. Now, try to recall if there is a song in your mind that will make you remember it deeply? When I heard this song again, did the local experience emerge suddenly? In contrast, the expression of language is much shriveled. During the consultation of
, I will encourage visitors to express their feelings in any way, such as melody, imagination, metaphor, color, dream, and , such "unspeakable" things, often reach people's hearts and restore the experience at that moment in an instant.
Music is better than a thousand words, and a photo can evoke your deepest memories. So, after opening such a small column, I don’t want to write too psychologically, I just invite you to listen, watch and experience this rich world together.
Red
Day too soon Sia
Use Sia's songs, not because of how fierce the melody is. "Love someone" is a deep expression, sometimes like a person traveling a long distance in the desert encountering a lake.
Oh I’ve been running all my life.
I ran away, I ran away from good.
What is on the run is not only the pursuit of doom, but also the shadow of the past.
Sia herself suffers from bipolar disorder (bipolar disorder), is bisexual, and has a certain degree of alcohol and substance abuse, so her body is getting better and worse.
Not to mention the impact of her early experience on her, she and her boyfriend Dan traveled around the world for the first time in her twenties, but her boyfriend died in a car accident in London at the end of the trip.
There are some songs that others can't sing, but Sia can.
Honey I will stitch youDarling I will fit you in my heartt
This kind of fanaticism that wants to penetrate the other person into his skin is like an emotionally hungry person meeting love. I read a psychoanalytical literature a few years ago. I don’t remember the name anymore, but I only remember the sentence in it: Normal baby sucks, hungry baby bites, starved baby swallows.
Love a person to the point of swallowing it, which shows how much fear, anxiety, trauma and deficit he/she suffered in his early years. So, he said to the people around him:
I promise I will not resist
Promise you won’t hold me down
And when we reach a good place
Let’s be sure to leave no trace
Promise they wont track us down
"Never leave me, never let go of me, let us escape like this, escape to the end of the world forever, no one can find it." Love like
is destined to be deeply engraved but difficult to last forever, and half of the sky burns red and is often almost annihilated.
Orange
The Clouds In Camarillo Brazzaville
, this song is a bit unpopular, and you may not understand it even if you listen to it a few more times. Because it shows the murmurs of schizophrenia patients.
Camaillo refers to Camarillo State Mental Hospital. It is said that since 1936, the hospital has conducted some extraordinary experimental attempts, and many patients died. One of the female patients is the mother of the lead singer David Brown of the band, the band leader David Brown.
The song actually originated from a letter written by my mother to David. It was modified into a minstrel singing style, just like the words written by a mother who has not seen her before. The chorus has Russian dialogues for the time being, but the rhythm and rhythm are quite accurate.
You were born in '67, about 9 o'clock at night, a couple years before I lost control and ended up inside.
"You were born at about nine o'clock in 1967, years before I broke out of control."
I stopped taking all my pills, they made me feel so dead inside. Just like the sun was going out, I didn't think I could survive.
"I no longer take medicines, They make me silent inside, The sun is about to rise, I don't think I can pass this level."
The girl who got pregnant unexpectedly under the trouble of drugs gave birth to a life when her spirit was almost exhausted. She was so panicked and confused. This is a true portrayal of young people in the United States in the 1960s.
Life is like this letter written to you in a trailer. I don’t know how to love you, I won’t even love myself. Forgive me to face reality and escape from it again and again. In the psychedelics, I feel as if I see myself.
The social security during that period was very limited, and coupled with the series of stimulation caused by pregnancy and delivery, the schizophrenia girl had crazy thoughts and extreme behaviors towards the baby, and was sent to the Camario State Mental Hospital.
Now I fear the stories that they told me of how I hurt my baby, must be somehow true.
"In a brief awakening, I remembered what they told me about how I hurt my baby, which is probably true."
Sleeping baby is awakened by pain, and the scar in his heart will be burned for a lifetime.
What touched me a little is that the band still retains valuable hope in such a creative background:
"Brazzaville has always had a simple ideal and worked hard for it, that is, The world we live in is beautiful and fascinating. We also believe that under the surface of this sober world, there is another reality, where everything is beautiful. " This is our reality, and we firmly believe that by helping others, we may no longer be so afraid of this world. Among the seven songs, the most worthy of consideration is this Papa was a rodeo. When I first heard it a few years ago, I just felt the melody was special. I never looked at the lyrics background. Until I heard it again recently, I suddenly realized that this was simply a hymn of avoidance attachment !
song was very warm at the beginning, with dim morning light, and the lover's eyes were sleepy and lingering. Then, the girl said to Mike: "I will leave early in the morning and will not come back before next year. If you rise up and ask for a kiss, maybe you can use a bottle plug to block your mouth." Uh, why is the style suddenly wrong?
Then the girl started singing:
Papa was a rodeo - Mama was a rock 'n' roll band, I could play guitar and rope a steer before I learned to stand, Home was anywhere with diesel gas – Love was a trucker's hand, Never stuck around long enough for a one night stand.
"Dad is an acrobat, and mom is a rock singer. Before I can't walk, I learned to play guitar and play ropes. The car engine is turned on, home is the end of the sky, love is the hand of the truck driver, and I have never stayed too much for the dew."
Just a few short sentences, surpassing several great books on attachment theory. You see, dad is an acrobat and mom is a rock singer. How realistic and artistically expressed "Parents are often away and cannot form a lasting and constant object environment" , so safe attachment cannot be formed, and the intimacy of children is continuously affected.
If we think of these two professions as metaphors, father is the unpredictable, unruly, mysterious and distant existence ; mother is often absent, unable to provide a gentle and safe nurturing environment.
learned guitar and rope before you can't walk. It vividly and sadly describes that a little baby strives to adapt and cater to his parents' temperament in exchange for pitiful attention and feelings.
Then, the days of displaced year after year, "Home was anywhere with diesel gas - Love was a trucker's hand", these two sentences touched me very much. Where there is diesel is home, love is the hands of the truck driver.
The crime rate of American drivers has always remained high, and I dare not think deeply. Even if it has not been violated, a person's psychological sense of security cannot be established in such a displaced life.
"I am so afraid of being abandoned and hurt, so when the relationship is good and the closer the relationship is, I will leave me before you and leave you!"
This is the voice of the avoidant attachment. Think about whether you or someone around you are, the closer you get, the further you push. If we experience his/her dangerous and uncertain early life, we can understand that after pushing your hands away, we are so afraid of a heart.
And now it's 55 years later, we've had the romance of the century, after all these years wrestling gators. I still feel like crying when I think of what you said to me. Papa was a rodeo, before you kiss me you should know - Papa was a rodeo. What a conflict, your Papa was a rodeo too.
Time flies, fifty-five years pass by (Wait a minute, so this song is an old man flashing the blueprint...) , we write a legend of the century together, and we have experienced the changes in life and the beautiful scenery. When I think of what you said at the beginning, I still burst into tears. Before kissing me, you should know that my father was an acrobat. What a coincidence, your father is also an acrobat.
I sincerely wish that you who read this sentence at this moment can also meet her/him who understands you, never leave you, accompany you, and writes your life.
Green
Then Silence Kjartan Salvesen
This song is quite old, but listening to it in the background of a series of "Website 404" has a different flavor.
I can't under what's been done, for game is over, then silence…So you say your last goodby, and leave the world behind and pray, you never let them down, when you look up to the sky, the angels start to cry for you. You're singing…..
What color is anger? Some people say red and some say black. I agree with the Hulk in Marvel, which is probably green . You argue that green represents hope, yes, it does arise because of hope and get angry because of frustration.
Anger to a certain extent is actually silence. This is often seen between partners and parents and children. When one party accuses, sarcasm, judges, or violates boundaries step by step, the other party is often silent.
that silence has endurance, helplessness, and ultimate protest. Therefore, when a person constantly expresses his dissatisfaction and complaints, he is at least venting his anger, but when a person is silent for a long time, the anger may have accumulated to the peak.
There are too many "dare to be angry but not speak" in our culture, so anger often faces itself, forming an inward self-attack , so then Silence - depression, low, sleepy soul cannot wake up.
qing
Sleepyhead Galen Crew
Many twists and turns in life, fairy tales have already told us in our sleep.
In 1239 AD, there was a beautiful girl of royal blood. She was sleeping alone every night, and no sound could disturb her. A stranger came from a distant country and wanted to get along with her. The father said, "No, go away, my daughter is going to marry the king."
The stranger left and the stranger returned, and brought 100,000 soldiers and cavalry to the city. The call of fighting evokes the dead souls, but cannot wake up the sleeping girl. The battle lasted a day and a night, and the stone walls were thick and high. A stranger asked her to decide, so the king knocked on her door and said that you were the only one who could end the war.
No one knows the end of the story, whether she wakes up or not, whether she will wake up.
It is said that this story is adapted from Nordic mythology and is the story of Ziegrude and Brenheld. Brenheld angered his father Odin was locked in the Castle of Flame and fell asleep. After Zigrud rescued her, the two fell in love.
Later, Goodlun drank the amnesia wine for Ziegrude, which made him forget the beautiful Brenheld. The grief and angry Brenheld killed the Goodlun family and then burned himself to death.
You want me to analyze the metaphor of this myth, I don’t stand it~ Let’s focus on listening to fairy tales.
Blue
Quiet Inside Andy Tubman
You like "depression system" is here, and there is a little cute little forced.
I couldn't make colors match today, I don't know what else to say, except I tried and they can't say I didn't .
"I can't match today's colors well, except 'I tried they can't say I didn't try', I don't know what to say."
I don't like the stuff they are feeding me
They don't like the things I see
But I don't think I need to be forgiven
I am quiet inside
Though they drag me by a wire
Through the storms that crack the sky
I am quiet inside
On the one hand, they don't like to be instilled ideas, hoping to be heard, and on the other hand, they deny saying, "I don't need to be understood, I am calm inside, I'm all OK," even if the storm cuts through the sky, even if they drag me with ropes.
My clarity did not come easily
My cell was knocked into me
Now at least I know who is in the mirror
"I used to strive for it, but now I am full of anger and tears, sober and thorough, I understand who is the person in the mirror."
Andy Tubman was born into an opera family and studied music therapy in college. The place where he was intern was the schizophrenia ward of the State Mental Hospital. He got along with mental patients suffering from illness, which inspired Andy's music creation and created a series of quality lyrics and music.
is just probably too low-key. Except for the quiet inside that is used in the movie "The Jacket" (the movie itself is also very recommended), there is almost no information found in other creations.
No matter what, a song written by a mental health worker and a music therapist is worth listening to.
Purple
Brooklyn Woodkid
Originally the last song I want to mention Peach Tree, suitable for memories. But a report the day before yesterday made me suddenly want to put Woodkid's Brooklyn.
reported that in an ordinary family in Brooklyn, the male owner was found in a pool of blood and died of death. At the time of the incident, the police found the suspect hiding in the closet. There is nothing special about this report in
. However, the victim is an identity of the victim. He is a well-known psychological counselor. He has published many monographs and has made outstanding contributions to the industry. Police said the suspect is likely to have a consultative relationship with the victim or his wife, and the case is still under further investigation and nothing can be decided.
In psychological counseling, clients and counselors may be in the "love, hate, and affection" of transference, countertransference, and may also be seen in some extreme states. Therefore, we should still tell our colleagues with concern that cares about yourself, stick to the settings, ensure ethics, and help others for a long time.
People leave messages under this news, and there is a saying that "People probably forgot that this is Brooklyn, no matter how it has changed" .
Woodkid's melody may not be as beautiful as the first six songs, but it is indeed suitable for memory. If you come from a dilapidated and decaying small city with many memories of love and hate, then maybe you will understand why you are in the bustling city of Paris, or often want to be in Brooklyn, fireworks in the night sky of Independence Day, old record shops on the corners, and small paper boats on the east coast.
Life is easier where the walls are red
Brooklyn is a place stuck in my head
Here in Paris the rain is falling
My heart belongs to Brooklyn
"Life is much simpler now, but Brooklyn lingers. Is it really worth remembering so much? The rain falling in Paris makes me think of Brooklyn only."
Movie Lady Bird, the stubborn, restless and rebellious girl insists that others call her Lady Bird, you can get out of the car and break your arm in order not to listen to your mother's nagging. Such a strong girl really came to the big city of her dreams and suddenly began to write down her name Christina and went to the church to pray seriously on Sunday.
Sometimes we hate the surrounding environment and rebelled against the life of others' raised, and swear in our hearts "I must leave here, it's best not to come back, I must Living the life we want".
When the environment and oppression are removed, the power of resistance has no place to rest. So, for the first time, we began to miss the hometown, in a distant foreign land.
This is probably the knot in the hearts of many people. tenderness and dreams cannot coexist. The hometown and hope are separated by one. We cannot stay or go back. We often look back and feel sad.
article | Ma Xiaoyun Simple Psychological Certification Counselor
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