▲ Hu Yinmeng The marriage story between Li Ao and her was tortuous and absurd, which hurt her deeply. (Photo/Provided by Mu Chuntang and Zhongying)
See a photo of Lin Qingxia and Hu Yinmeng when she was young. The two beauties, the former has sword eyebrows and starry eyes, and the latter has simple and charming hidden. Everyone is not unfamiliar with Brigitte Lin at all, so let’s talk about Hu Yinmeng.
▲Hu Yinmeng (right) is tied with Brigitte Lin to be the number one beauty in Taiwan in the 1970s. (Photo/Provided by Zhongying)
Hu Yinmeng is known as "the largest beauty in Taiwan in the 1970s", and her life is full of legends. She is 67 years old and is a well-known master of philosophy, psychology and mysticism. She is also a powerful translator for translating many foreign works. Among them, the book "Respect for Performing Arts" translated by her is regarded by the international director Ang Lee as the first textbook that beginners should read. In recent years, she has been deeply engaged in education and participated in various lectures, and is determined to pass on the crystallization of years of research to the public, so that many people who have been traumatized can receive healing.
▲Hu Yinmeng still maintains elegant at the age of 67. (Photo/taken from Hu Yinmeng’s Weibo)
Even though it is famous in the academic world, what shocks everyone even more is Hu Yinmeng’s beautiful appearance. At the age of 67, she has no traces of medical beauty at all. Every wrinkle is written with elegance, and even a smile can make people feel power.
▲The marriage story between Hu Yinmeng and Li Ao was tortuous and absurd, which hurt her deeply. (Photo/Provided by Zhongying)
"My life experience is full of 'accidental'. People should know how to adapt to various relationships and opportunities with an open mind, don't be afraid, and don't run away."
Hu Yinmeng's real name is "Hu Yinmeng". The name comes from the Buddhist scripture "Tripitaka". It has the meaning of "understanding the causes of all things and troubles" , which coincides with her lifelong pursuit of philosophy, psychology and metaphysics. But in her autobiography "The Incredible Life: The Autobiography of Hu Yinmeng", she said that she has been rebellious since childhood, often acts impulsively, and loves each other all the way with her mother, and is entangled and deeply in love. "This is why I like to discuss 's original family , because your childhood experience will affect the way you treat your relationship."
Hu Yinmeng's mother has a strong sense of lack of money and often argues with her father about money. One day, her father wanted to give the old bed at home to a neighbor, but when the other party came to pick up the bed, her mother regretted it. "This disappointed my father and had no face in her heart." The couple quarreled over money more than once, which made the young Hu Yinmeng feel disgusted with her mother.
15 years old, Hu Yinmeng's father had an affair and asked his mother to separate. Usually his children would persuade her not to leave, but Hu Yinmeng did not. She raised her hands to agree and said to her mother, "You don't love others, you don't love yourself." The mother was so angry that she replied, "Yes, you are the most special!"
Hu Yinmeng's custody was given to her mother, and the mother and daughter depended on each other all the way. The mother was particularly strict with her. As long as she got late, she would definitely interrogate and check her back when she got home. This made Hu Yinmeng's inner rebellious factor stronger. Not only did it promote her "sexual liberation" during her year of study in the United States, but it also indirectly led to her broken marriage with Li Ao.
She just wanted to go against her mother, but she ended up scaring herself.
Until I recalled my mother in my later years, Hu Yinmeng understood: "My long-term resentment towards my mother is all because of my refusal to grow up."
What happened to Hu Yinmeng's love? What does it have to do with your mother?
▲Hu Yinmeng is very beautiful. (Photo/Provided by Zhongying)
"I believe in love, not love. Love always carries too many hallucinations, but 'love' is extremely real."
When she was young, Hu Yinmeng was not only beautiful, but also liked to hold the guitar and sing and write articles. Her classmates praised her as a talented woman. When she left Fu University, a passage circulated on campus: "From now on, there will be no spring in Fu University."
She admitted that she had many loves, but once she felt hurt and could not pass the test, she would want to escape.She always quickly falls into a relationship, but often ends in less than a year. "When a person cannot face the truth in his heart completely, addiction gradually develops. My boyfriend at that time is constantly, but it is actually a heart disease." However, feelings are like doing homework. When you repeatedly avoid and do not practice, it will slowly accumulate, and devour you for the last time, allowing you to feel the deepest pain.
For Hu Yinmeng, Li Ao was her biggest scar, which made her completely understand the truth of marriage and decided to never marry again for life.
Hu Yinmeng is 18 years apart from Li Ao. He has long admired his reputation when he was a student. He even inserted Li Ao's famous work "Monologue under the Tradition" behind his jeans, feeling that he was very fashionable. After becoming a big star, she and Li Ao finally met. Both fell in love at first sight. The man even took her to her study and showed off her collection of books in the valley. "I was too naive at that time. I didn't live out myself or have my own value. Although I also wrote something, I had not developed my own view of the world yet, so I admired his (Li Ao)'s incisive criticism."
Although the couple fell in love, Li Ao's values of money were too self-centered, which made Hu's mother worried and did not agree with their marriage. However, Hu Yinmeng was so overwhelmed by love and was hostile to her mother. Not only did she not take it seriously, she even ran to Li Ao's house in her pajamas and got married to him quickly.
The marriage between the two was a sensation and was written by the media at that time as "This is a perfect match" and "the most beautiful face meets the smartest head", but the marriage ended only 115 days.
After marriage, Hu Yinmeng discovered that Li Ao was a suspicious and defensive person, and she called her women and whispered her. Even when she was having sex, she hoped that the other party could be united with her spirit and flesh. "But I always find that he (Li Ao) would look up at the mirror on the ceiling and admire his 'riding skills' very seriously." seemed to treat her as a spoil, not like a lover.
"At that time, I admired Li Ao too much and looked down on him too high... When people are full of expectations and projections, some important details will be decorated with Li Kebai."
Li Ao began to get tired of Hu Yinmeng. Before marriage, he liked to look at her barefoot and laughed at her as "hidden feet". After marriage, he saw her walking naked in the living room and was furious and said she was dirty. In addition, she never cooked and walked into the kitchen for her husband and prepared to make pork rib soup for him, but the steps were accidentally wrong and scolded by the other party: "You have no common sense fool!"
"Disappointment is the chariot that pioneered herself, forcing me to accept all the imperfections in life."
really disappointed Hu Yinmeng with her husband, which happened later on the "invasion of Xiao Mengneng's property." At that time, Li Ao took advantage of his friend Xiao Mengneng's overseas trip and embezzled the other party's antiques and furniture. Not only did he auction Xiao Mengneng's house in the Crystal Building without authorization, he also secretly transferred the "Jinglu" property he shared with the other party to Hu Yinmeng's name.
This incident made Hu Yinmeng die. She discovered that her husband was not a "champion who has true insights and surpasses fame and fortune", but a "wise criminal who has many desires and resources and helps his own selfishness", regardless of his wife's life or death. Hu Yinmeng said, "I later testified in court. Because I knew a lot of the truth, I broke up with him completely." After the divorce of
, their entanglement was not over. Because of the property rights of a Tianmu house, Li Ao accused Hu Yinmeng of forging documents, which made her two-year-old King Kong confused. The lawsuit lasted for three years. She couldn't help but say to her ex-husband, "Can you stop acting in this farce?" Li Ao responded with a wry smile: "Actually, I don't want to act, but I've already It’s hard to get rid of the tiger."
To this day, this lawsuit is still Rashomon. Both parties have different opinions, but they are hurt in their hearts. "Our relationship is so distorted and absurd. Love is mixed with so much fear and self-protection."
In the next 30 years, Li Ao always tires about slandering Hu Yinmeng in works, programs, and interviews, and makes fun of her ugly posture in the toilet, and teasing and mocking her ex-wife. In response, Hu Yinmeng only said to the reporter: "For many years, he has been humiliating me like this, which is a good training for me."
After the divorce, Hu Yinmeng was like a thorough baptism. "I lost to 44 kilograms, my ribs were exposed one by one, but I was very energetic and calm." After experiencing the big issues of life, she began to learn from the direction of body, mind and soul. "I found that my strengths were not performances. I had special potential for spiritual and theoretical things such as deep philosophy and psychology. I don't like the sensuality and sensuality in the entertainment industry." More than 0 years later, she even accurately analyzed her ex-husband, "There will always be opposite emotions behind the hatred. He is about me. The humiliation seems unforgettable, or something still feared." . "When I go deep into the truth myself, I find that my ex-husband is a thinker, but not a wise man."
"If you can settle in pain and fear, you can go through it and contact the soft area behind it."
Hu Yinmeng's works and words are full and powerful. Each principle has the trajectory of Jung and Freud, and even the images of Lao and Zhuang, as if you can see everything through. But she did not hide the fact that these understandings were all caused by the trauma suffered in the original family and emotional marriage in the early days, which made her feel the importance of physical, mental and spiritual balance. "After having a failed marriage, I learned how to develop myself and summon my inner potential. I had to work hard, because it is easy for beauties to not work hard."
She devoted herself to meditation and was obsessed with translating, admitting that these things can calm her mind and empty her mind. "Once a person learns to focus, his mind will become bigger and bigger. I like reading and culture, and these have helped me a lot. "
She is becoming more and more famous, and the more films she makes, but she doesn't feel happy. Only reading can bring her real pleasure. She longs for wisdom and also likes culture. In the process of exploring knowledge, she also opens up her own nature. "The older she is, the more she can realize the happiness and challenges of "mastering consciousness". It is very important to face herself honestly."
Hu Yinmeng has many stories, and the author only takes a few important clips. But from her journey, we can learn that a person's spiritual growth is often closely related to the sufferings he has endured and the mistakes he has made. Therefore, don’t be afraid of making mistakes, and don’t avoid those bad experiences that are put on you, because when you choose to face them, you will eventually discover that setbacks are often wonderful gifts that can help you explore yourself.
