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Li Ao and Hu Yinmeng are both very well-known in Taiwan. One is a cultural fighter with huge pens, and the other is a "mysterious" movie star and beautiful writer.
On May 6, 1980, Li Ao and Hu Yinmeng got married, causing a sensation on the island of Taiwan. At that time, Li Ao was 45 years old and Hu Yinmeng was 27 years old. Three months later, the marriage broke down, and the two were involved in a lawsuit dispute between Xiao Mengneng and went to court, causing another sensation and attention.
In "Li Ao's Memoirs", there is a detailed description of the entire process of Li and Hu's acquaintance, marriage and divorce. In the interview program of Central Station 4, Hu Yinmeng mentioned that past event. She attributed the reason for the failure of her marriage to the fact that she was too pursuing perfection, which made her unable to accept Li Ao in reality.
A failed marriage is difficult to simply use right or wrong to draw conclusions. When analyzing the marriage between Li Ao and Hu Yinmeng, there are two points that destined to be a tragic ending.
One: There are too many differences in the expectations of the two for marriage.
Li Ao does not need a confidante who exchanges ideas and expresses his emotions. Li Ao's thoughts are rich enough, and his ways of expressing his thoughts are rich enough. He reads, writes books, gives speeches, argues with the political and academic circles, and even works as an lawyer . All he needs is a beauty, and Li Ao is not hiding about this. Li Ao's psychology can be clearly reflected from Luo before Hu Yinmeng, Wang Shangqin , Xiaolei, Xiaotun afterwards, etc.
Hu Yinmeng is not the case. Her wish for marriage is not a vase. She has acted in more than 40 movies and was shining with stars, she suddenly withdrew from the entertainment industry and became a writer, and then engaged in psychology research. In the interview, Hu Yinmeng explained the reason as "I feel that I am capable of engaging in a more intellectually related job." He is quite disdainful of the role of an artist who performs according to the script, which shows that he has a high opinion of himself. Therefore, she is not as keen on committing herself to wealthy families like other beautiful movie stars, but rather admires Li Ao's talents. In college, Hu Yinmeng was Li Ao's fans, "and once inserted Li Ao's "Monologue in Tradition" behind his jeans and passed the campus of the University."
Entering marriage with a fan's mentality will inevitably encounter the gap between dreams and reality.
Second: Marriage needs to be compromised, and neither of them has any room for compromise.
Li Ao has many weaknesses in the world, and of course, they have many ordinary people’s weaknesses. Based on her experience, Hu Yinmeng talked about two dissatisfactions: one is that she attaches too much importance to money; the other is that she acts extremely.
is too serious about money, and there is no reliable information. In addition to political lawsuits, Li Ao also fought many economic lawsuits, which may be evident. But in the material world, human survival requires a certain material basis after all. It seems unfair as a disadvantage, and can only be regarded as a discord with Hu Yinmeng's concept of understanding. There are examples of extreme behavior in
. Hu Yinmeng said that Li Ao often takes trivial matters seriously and becomes furious. In the book "Cultural Naughty Boy - Li Ao", Li Ao's second sister Li Xun also talked about personal experience. Li Ao has a very big temper and often gets angry for no reason. His usual target of venting is Li Fang, and later Xiaotun (Li Ao's current wife Wang Zhihui has a son and a daughter with Li Ao).
Li Ao's personality traits are unique. In college, he wore a robe that was incompatible with the environment and was regarded as a "robed monster". At his father's memorial service, he was not conservative and did not shed a single tear in front of 3,000 people, which aroused public anger because of his "unfilial piety". In the future, he continued to challenge political leaders and authority. Under social pressure, he insisted that "even millions of people, I will go." With this personality, he could not ask him to change himself for someone.
Hu Yinmeng is called a "mysterious" woman, which is also due to her behavior. Before marriage, Li Ao's article "Drawing Dreams - I Painting Hu Yin Dreams" describes her richness and unruly:
If there is a new woman who is beautiful, wandering, charming, confused, and elegant, sad, sexy, incomprehensible and unreasonable, it must be no one else, but Hu Yin Dreams.
Usually stars only have one shape and one look, but Hu Yinmeng painted the skin from the screen and taught us to appreciate her depth and wide angles with multiple faces.She is a talented woman, a noble lady, a gypsy who does not set up a tent, a landscape painter, a singer of the times, an appreciator of art, and a brave suitor of the meaning of life.
From this point of view, Hu Yinmeng certainly cannot be the Hua Xiren of Jia Baoyu. Although Hu Yinmeng regards his marriage with Li Ao as a gamble in life, thinking that "Li Ao is the best card I have ever won, and it is necessary to bet", the ending was decided when the card was not taken, which may have been unexpected.
