Dr. Lisa Turner from Australia has created a psychological trauma treatment called "conscious emotional transformation" (CET).
The reason why she invented this therapy was that she wanted to heal herself at first.
Her trauma came from a past of being abducted and PUA when she was a student.
She fell into a trap step by step. It was only after 30 years that she realized that the person she met was a pedophile...
2-year-old Lisa met Gary, a music teacher in her 30s for the first time when she joined the school choir.
He is new, and Lisa will take vocal and guitar classes with him.
When Lisa performed the solo part of a song, she found that the teacher was staring at her and gave her a smile, which fascinated her.
Not long after, Gary gave Lisa the phone number and told her that if she wanted to chat, she could call him.
Lisa called him that night, and the two had a great time chatting, and Lisa has always called him since then.
They have more and more chatting time. From after school to class or private guitar classes,
The teacher always praises how beautiful and talented Lisa is.
As a teenage child, Lisa did not hear that these are false flatteries.
At the same time, Gary also seized the opportunity to flatter Lisa's parents,
praised Lisa in front of them as an amazing super genius.
Gary's approach makes Lisa and her parents have a good impression of him,
But behind the scenes, he will tell Lisa that her parents do not love her, care about her, and do not support her, and they will alienate their parent-child relationship.
This makes Lisa increasingly distrust her parents, but more and more trust Gary.
In the first contact, Gary seemed very kind and was willing to do a lot to please Lisa.
But gradually, he also began to make requests to Lisa,
asked her to spend all her time on him and not meet with friends anymore.
Lisa felt the pressure and felt trapped. I don’t know how to get rid of it.
Gary also often uses the excuse of “If you love me, you will do this” to force her.
Gradually, Gary's request became more and more excessive, and even induced her to have sex. She was not allowed to tell her, otherwise she would threaten her.
Gary scared her that if others knew about it, she would be in trouble, and made her feel that doing these things was her fault.
Lisa chose to remain silent, and at this time she did not realize that she had been PUA.
Two years later, Gary decided to move to the UK to live and wanted to take Lisa with her.
He taught Lisa word by word how to convince her parents to let her go to the UK -
and said he wanted to experience British culture, see his mother's relatives living in the UK, and study in the UK for a while.
Gary shortly after going to the UK, he wrote a letter and called to urge Lisa. said that she would not be able to survive without her.
also said that if she didn't come to the UK right away, he would commit suicide.
Lisa was 14 years old at that time and could not withstand such emotional blackmail and pressure.
In order to go to the UK as soon as possible to "save Gary's life", she begged her mother to let her leave early.
Mom saw that she was absent-minded recently, but she heard that she wanted to go to school or agreed.
However, my mother only agreed to let her go to a few weeks, fly to London for a few days, and then go to northern England to live at my relative's house to attend an English summer camp. After the summer camp ends, she will go back to Australia.
At that time, my mother will pick her up in the UK and take her to play in Disneyland , and then go home together.
However, neither Lisa nor her parents expected that things did not follow their plans at all.
Lisa was very excited when she first arrived in the UK.
Far from her hometown, she finally became independent and came to a new place, everything made her happy.
This excitement was completely extinguished until Lisa was taken home by Gary and saw their residence.
It is a small apartment located on the roof of a shop, like a garbage dump.
Just a few days after living in, Gary became more control over Lisa, and in the following months she had almost no freedom.
You are not allowed to go out alone. You cannot talk to strangers without Gary, you are not allowed to contact friends in your hometown, let alone go to the north to join relatives.
Lisa is trapped in a small apartment in a foreign country.
What to eat, wear, watch TV, everything in life is controlled by Gary.
At the beginning, Lisa thought about going home. In order to keep her, Gary said that only he cared about her, and her parents didn't care about her.
If she went back, he would commit suicide.
Lisa was brainwashed and coerced day by day, and finally stayed.
(Lisa and grandma)
Gary In order to control her, she used a very common trick in PUA - completely destroying her self-esteem.
He began to say that Lisa was very disgusting and no one wanted her.
Lisa would not survive without him. If he didn't do what he said, he would break off relations with her.
Gary packages itself as Lisa's only source of love, and then threatens to withdraw his love and control Lisa in this way.
For Lisa, who was 15 years old at that time, it was very terrible to be abandoned.
Her self-worth and self-confidence were further suppressed and even completely destroyed.
She felt that she was incompetent and worthless, and could only live on Gary.
Lisa can go to school, which is one of her few freedoms.
She devoted all her energy to study and thought in her mind that if something happens in the future, she will achieve good results and find a good job, it is the way out for herself.
After living like this for several years, as Lisa grew up slowly, one day she suddenly figured it out and wanted to leave Gary.
There is no specific reason, Lisa just feels tired and becomes more and more unhappy.
She found that her peers, those children who grew up in normal environments, have more freedom as they grow older,
However, because of Gary, she has nothing.
Lisa thought about it for a year, but she didn't think of a way to escape.
Until Christmas, she called her home and told her mother to tentatively say that she wanted to leave.
My mother immediately said she could support her: "What do you need?"
Lisa has never had a bank account. She was a minor when she arrived in the UK. Gary had applied for a sub-card for her and was monitored by him for spending money.
With the advice and help of my mother, Lisa opened her own bank account and started saving money in preparation for escape.
Lisa does not plan to go back to Australia immediately,
Because she has been admitted to a university in the UK and has a good academic performance, she has made new friends, and she wants to stay in London to complete her studies.
Finally, in 1988, before Lisa's 20th birthday, she prepared everything and mustered up the courage to move out of that small apartment.
Gary heard that she was leaving, and cried and begged her to stay, but she was so angry that she started smashing things.
This time, although Lisa was afraid, she did not compromise, and she insisted on her decision.
So far, she has lived with Gary for 4 years and 11 months.After moving out, Lisa never contacted Gary again, never met him, didn't know where he lived, or what job he did.
The person who dragged her into the abyss was finally completely picked out of life by her.
She continued to study, graduate, work, study psychology, and gradually returned to normal life.
Thirty years have passed in a blink of an eye. In 2019, Lisa's mother died of cancer.
Before her death, my mother told Lisa about the original story, which made her realize how worried her parents were.
The reason why parents reluctantly agreed to let Lisa stay in the UK was because they were forced to go home and Gary was angry and might do something unfavorable to her.
The parents felt that the result was more terrible than letting her stay in the UK.
So they had to compromise, on the condition that Lisa would keep in touch with her family.
A few years later, it was the requirement of "staying in touch" that became Lisa's life-saving straw for escape from the abyss.
A few weeks after her mother passed away, Lisa heard about something that shocked her -
Her alma mater, the middle school she had attended in Australia, and the principal was arrested on suspicion of multiple child sexual abuse cases.
This principal was once Gary's boss.
Lisa quickly contacted the alumni to find out the situation.
It turned out that in those days, it was very common for teachers to give students private phone numbers, and Lisa's experience is not an isolated case.
Coincidentally, in 2017, a similar case appeared on the pages of major media.
A 34-year-old British male teacher named Jeremy Forrest abducted a 15-year-old female student and fled to France. The teacher was eventually arrested and sentenced to jail.
This case is exactly the same as Lisa's experience.
Lisa saw this case and recalled what happened to her alma mater. After 30 years, she finally realized that
She did not experience a bad relationship, but was abducted and emotionally abused.
The male teacher who took her away was an absolute pedophile. What he did was a vicious crime.
In order to cure his psychological trauma, Lisa invented a set of treatment methods,
also wrote a book called "I Fall in Love with Pedophilia", hoping to raise people's awareness of this.
"There is a big difference between thinking you have experienced a bad relationship and realizing that you have been controlled and manipulated."
"I think what needs to be changed is that people need to be raising awareness, which is why I share my story..."
