Hello everyone, welcome to the meeting to give speeches and communicate. I am Brother Qiao!
In interpersonal communication, there is a kind of person trying to avoid communicating too much with others and try to avoid bothering others.
People who usually think this way generally have a smooth career.
He often reflects on himself and feels that he has worked hard, but he just doesn’t know which link has gone wrong and can’t figure it out.
Today we will talk about how to get help from others.
: One fence, three stakes, one hero and three help!
In any organization, things must not be done by one person. If so, then why do you need to organize them?
So, no matter how strong a person is, you are just a personal heroism. If a group of people are strong in , that is a team with combat effectiveness in .
Doing big things cannot be separated from the assistance and support of others. Although everyone knows this truth, it is often not that you want others to help you, and others may not be able to help you.
When you hope others will help you, they may not be able to help you.
Many of our friends who have a bad career in the workplace often face this kind of problem. When things are about to happen, they need help from others. They are embarrassed to speak up, and they take the responsibility alone, fall into trouble, are under great pressure, and often cannot sleep at night!
What old seniors, old colleagues will only stay out of the matter when they see it, pretend not to see it, and even watch jokes behind you.
So how can we get help from others?
How to make yourself happy in the workplace?
I want to talk about this problem from three aspects.
The first low pose.
The second is intangible assets.
The third one is to pay.
1. Low posture
Let’s talk about low posture first. To ask others to do things means to learn to show weakness and low posture.
There is a video like this. A young man found a master to complain, saying that I lived a hard life and felt lonely and no one helped me. Master, what should I do?
Master picked up a tea cup and said, "Pour cup of tea for me, and the young man poured tea for the master, and the master held the tea cup over his head. The young man said, "Master, your tea cup is too high, I can't reach it, you can lower it."
Master said that if you want to get the water in the kettle, the position of the tea cup should be lower than that of the kettle. If you are like a tea cup and are always high, you will never go in no matter how much you are.
So if you are always arrogant, self-righteous, and give people a cold feeling, and there is no low attitude at all, others will not only not help you, but will only wait to see you make a fool of yourself.
So low-stance, can only get help from others . When you look at the Three Kingdoms, do you feel that Liu Bei can only cry and have no ability, but if no one helps him, can he dominate the world?
What is dedication? Low-mindedly in front of career.
What is respect for teachers? Low posture in front of the teacher.
What is Jingzu ? Low posture in front of ancestors.
If you want to get everyone’s support, you have to be in a low voice in front of everyone.
Low posture is great wisdom . Only by low posture can you learn something, and only by low posture can you gain good popularity.
2. Intangible assets
There is an asset called tangible assets, and there is an asset called intangible assets.
In fact, everyone's name is their own brand, your reputation is your intangible asset . Many people consume intangible assets in order to obtain tangible assets, which is an act that lacks wisdom.
actually we have a memory card for everyone around us.
For example, if you have a good project, you need to find a career partner. When someone recommends someone to you, you will immediately call up this memory card and recall the other party’s behavior pattern of handling things. No, this person’s behavior pattern has experience of harming others for self-interest and is not suitable for cooperation.
This person's behavior pattern will consider the gains and losses of others, and even take care of others at the expense of his own interests, which is suitable for a role in a partner.
So why did Liu Bei get defeated by Cao Cao ? Liu Bei still had to escape with 100,000 people. He has been building his own intangible asset , which has been favored by the people.
Let’s take a look at Lu Bu . He was scolded by Zhang Fei . Lu Bu was arrested by Cao Cao and wanted to surrender to Cao Cao, begging Cao Cao not to kill him.
Lu Bu is brave and good at fighting, Cao Cao was moved, but Liu Bei said to Cao Cao: Do you still remember how Ding Feng and Dong Zhuo died?
Cao Cao killed Lu Bu without hesitation after hearing this.
Before others help us, we must manage our intangible assets , be honest and trustworthy, and establish a good social reputation and personal image.
So protect our intangible assets just like we protect our eyes.
3. Get help from others by helping others
The third behavior is to get help from others by helping others.
For example, we all say integrating resources, and you find that when you go out and integrate resources, you are rejected and doubting your life.
For example, if you want customers to cooperate with you.
You must build on a win-win mentality of . You can first introduce customers to the other party. When the other party immediately feels that you are not using him, but extending an olive branch to him first, he cannot refuse you.
But if you integrate for the sake of integration and publish a short check for others, it is due to the cost of trust, and it is natural to refuse you.
Ask someone to do things this really need to learn Liu Bei's great wisdom . Look at Liu Bei, at first, Cao Cao wanted to hit Xuzhou , Xuzhou Mu Tao Qian asks for reinforcements everywhere, no one helps him.
In the end, Liu Bei brought 10,000 miscellaneous troops to rescue Xuzhou, but was almost defeated by Cao Cao's 300,000 troops. He retreated back to Xuzhou City in a panic. Guan Yu and Zhang Fei kept complaining that we finally accumulated some of the family's assets and were defeated. We didn't know Tao Qian. For the sake of someone we didn't know, it was not worth it.
Liu Bei said that a benevolent and righteous army is invincible in the world!
result returned to Xuzhou City. The people of Xuzhou were decorated with lights, clean water and poured on the streets, and the loess was padded with the road. Tao Qian's tears fell and said, "Uncle, you moved me so much. In order to help solve the difficulties in Xuzhou, I have lost my family's assets. If you have any difficulties, I will ask me to help you too."
Liu Bei said, the situation is critical, you have so many things to deal with, I won’t cause trouble for you, I can tolerate this matter myself and have no requirements.
Tao Qian was anxious, Uncle Liu , please, let me help you, otherwise I will give you Xuzhou. Look, Cao Cao used a 300,000 army and had not taken down for several years. Liu Bei had owned Xuzhou for half a year. Many things cannot be solved by asking for it. If you think reversely, I will give it to you, and it will be easy to do it.
So if you want to get help from others, give yourself first and get help in the way of helping others.
You will always help others, and in the end everyone will take the initiative to help you.
To summarize, if you want to get help from others:
first, you need to be low-standard;
second, you need to build intangible assets;
third, you need to fulfill yourself by helping others;
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