Why are rich, beautiful and sincere female celebrities still cheated?
Those who are watching this week's gossip may have such questions.
pre-record summary, Zhang Tianai and Xu Kaicheng have been in love with underground for several years, and it is said that it has progressed to talking about marriage:
Fans leaked
. Recently, the man was photographed and often went in and out of Nazha 's residence, suspected of cheating:
It was on the hot search at that time (Source Weibo @王子子Jiang Xiao Banquet) After
was released, Zhang Tianai released a heavy hammer recording. It was a boy who admitted that he was scammers after drinking. He begged Zhang Tianai for forgiveness:
is the same as Mao Xiaotong , very decisive and very fond of
. Later, Nazha also forwarded it, saying that she was deceived was mistress , and it was a scumbag who was cheated on both ends:
Two beauties tearing the scumbag, popular
and with Jiang Kaitong (catched by Mao Xiaotong with Chen Xiang at home, Chen Xiang was naked) forwarded Nazha's speech, saying that she was also and was mistress :
Emm, netizens generally do not buy it
Netizens also took stock of the "scumbag universe" of domestic entertainment:
From "You are my only sister" Ding Zeren , to Ji Lingchen of "You like the sea, I have loved you", to Luo Zhixiang and Zhang Mingen , are all on the list:
has been lively for several days
The question is:
The scumbag's words are obviously so crappy, why can we find so many rich and famous beauties?
Zhang Tianai and Mao Xiaotong are good at tearing scumbags and stopping losses decisively. In my opinion, it is because they use the popular words currently, and know how to use "male thinking" to fall in love.
What is "male thinking in love"? How do ordinary people learn?
1 Silly female supporting scumbag?
different accounts
reasoning, this combination of girls are good and sincere , boys are scumbag and have no sense of responsibility , it is very common from celebrities to ordinary people. In
love programs and emotional submissions, there are often stories like this:
, a man has done a lot of excessive things, from cheating to borrowing money, to various unreasonable requirements, he is simply dancing in the minefield .
Netizens were heartbroken and said, "Do you have no choice but to wait for the New Year?"
There are even people who carefully settle the score for the girl: what is her condition and how much she pays; what is the other party's condition and how much she gets. Finally, they came to the conclusion " You lose a lot , run away!"
But at the end of the story, usually girls stand up and say, "He is still good to me", "He is not easy", "He still loves me", "He can't live without me" .
Love CP, Chen Yichen x Zhang Tian’s pair made many people say they can’t understand (left picture comes from Zhang Tian social media)
Not only may girls not tear up scumbags like Zhang Tianai Mao Xiaotong, but they may even attack netizens "Thinking your boyfriend too much" "Do you can’t stand yourself?" - Not only is it a submission from netizens, you may have friends like .
On the one hand, we are angry at it, but on the other hand, we are a little scared: Will I also get involved in this "love brain" virus one day?
In fact, this situation is good, or the cause of " Love Brain " is good, listen to my analyze the essence , and you can understand and avoid it.
Why can netizens and outsiders often see through this relationship?
is essentially because we are calculating the "rational account" . Our focus is on what kind of person is he? Is reliable ? How deep is his relationship with ? How much has he paid and how much has he obtained? What other choices do you have in ? Is it a good choice in comparison?
rationally weighs the pros and cons, which is actually closer to what we usually call "male thinking" (not exclusive to men). If calculates it like this, you will understand the gains and losses, and there is no room for beautification of .
Why do people with "love brains" rarely get them even if they put these accounts in front of them?
Some people may attribute it to it, men are too cold-blooded and girls are too soft-hearted and good people - I personally don’t agree with this view.
In my opinion, men and women actually settle accounts in relationships, is just that many girls calculate "feeling accounts", which is close to "female thinking" (does not mean exclusive to women).
There are also lines in TV series
What is "calculating the account of feeling" ?
Someone did something wrong, and their focus is often not on "Is it right or wrong", "reflecting on what kind of personality issues", "reflecting on the depth of feelings", etc. facts, etc.
On the contrary, they will pay more attention to "feeling": You made a mistake, you made me feel bad .
Since the focus is on "You make me feel bad", then, I can forgive you and this matter can be revealed.
Another couple who has been popular recently can explain this difference in thinking between men and women.
Korean "Transfer Love" Please return to the show after breaking up, you can choose to get back together or choose a newcomer. There is a couple who make many people say "uncomfortable":
Hain (female) x Kyuhyun (male)
The girl obviously has an unforgettable old love, often cries , and variously expresses love to boys:
makes everyone feel very distressed to watch
and although boys also take care of girls:
Help girls get luggage
, they are very restrained in their behavior, try not to give girls wrong hints, it is obvious that they have moved on:
Some people think that boys are very cold-blooded
is disassembled from "male thinking" and "female thinking". In fact, it is easy to understand:
The boys are obviously using male thinking here, focuses on the other party's personality, character, hopeful emotional pattern and other "factual" parts .
Whether it is a few good words or some short-term efforts, cannot change the "factual reason" that led to their separation at that time: Girls need boys to coax and accompany them, but boys cannot give it to them.
The girl said that it was because the boy was too cold and quarreled and broke up
, but the girl still kept sending text messages to her ex-boyfriend for emotional value during the show, and the boy's expression was obviously not good
Since the "cause" of has not yet gone, the relationship will probably still hit the rocks in the future , so the boy seems quite "heartless" here. In fact, may not be a girl who doesn't love .
And the grievances of girls are also very real, because she is using "female thinking" here :
Breakup is that hurts your feelings , but I also tell you that you are very important to me, do I still love you very much? Your feeling has not been better yet, can't you accept me? Have you never loved me at all, or even loved me?
It feels like girls are this brain circuit
substitute them. If this girl encounters scumbags who do extraordinary behavior but are very good at "making her feel good back", they may also think that "since the other person loves me, you can forgive" -
because they often take "the other person makes me feel good" and "the other person really loves me" seriously .
Next question: What is the scumbag's saying "make you feel good"?
2 Scumbag man's speech
highlights plus identification
scumbags are not necessarily handsome, not necessarily rich, but scumbags are generally good at "making you feel good back" and can provide a lot of emotional value .
It can even be said that the confidence of scumbags is that they have the confidence to "coax you back" . Of course, there are also people like Xu Kaicheng and others who play with it.
But Xu Kaicheng also got back together for a short time, but the beauty finally opened her eyes! Like it!
In fact, some netizens pointed out that Xu Kaicheng and other scumbags are exactly the same as their ex-boyfriend:
The same scumbags in the world
Jianni I summarized it as follows:
① Show weakness
Show weakness may not be scumbags, but scumbags are often showing weakness, which will stimulate your motherhood and sympathy .
Like Xu Kaicheng, he said he was very sad at the beginning:
. Even if you get angry, you will leave some mercy.
. After saying that you are sexually aroused after drinking, you also express yourself in various ways. is not feeling well :
. You can choose not to have sexually affair.
. Later, he mentioned why he didn’t want the relationship to be exposed. In fact, it was because of his sexually arrogance after drinking. Everyone knows that he outputs another wave of fragile :
. Brother is so tall and so fragile. Isn’t the thin Zhang Tianai fragile?
, and Chen Xiang also has a very similar statement, and he also said that he is in a bad mood , is not in a good mood, it is difficult to endure :
Because it is "because of you, you are fragile", it stimulates your sympathy
Girls are prone to "showing weakness" the other party as "the other party treats himself as a close person" and "the other party is very honest".
of course does not rule out this possibility, but showing weakness is indeed a common trick for scumbags to provide emotional value.
The more he says he is weak, it actually implies that he thinks you are very strong, so he can hurt you with peace of mind - the problem is, if he feels uncomfortable, won’t you feel uncomfortable? He is fragile, won’t you be hurt? The boy who talks about his own discomfort from beginning to end is worthy of warning!
② Show loyalty
Female thinking about falling in love, compared to the gains and losses, the focus is often on "Do you love me?" .
Zhang Tianai has not clearly talked about his views on love, but Nazha has clearly stated that has focused on whether her boyfriend is considerate enough :
so her ex makes many passers-by feel that they don’t understand
. Therefore, scumbags are also very good at engaging in their preferences. Not only do they express “I love you” in various ways, but they even increase their purviews into “I can’t live without you” .
Like Xu Kaicheng this time, the parallelism sentences are out of the box:
Although it was peeled off later, it seems to be searched online (the picture below is from the Internet)
and three sounds of Aibao have become memes:
also means that I need you very much
Ji Lingchen "I loved you" Although he was ridiculed by the crowd, it is actually quite useful for some girls :
After all, many girls are confused about their relationship, whether the other party loves themselves or not
. The time management master obviously understands the heart of women better. publicly expresses loyalty and has written a short essay:
Various expressions of love for girls
. Zhou Yangqing and Zhang Tianai are the same this time. Although he finally angrily beat the scumbag, he actually forgave Luo's cheating many times in the middle, which shows that this set is quite useful.
Congratulations on awakening
③ A good attitude
What will happen to most people when they find out that their partner has made a mistake?
will lose his temper, and some people will even throw things when they are excited, right?
Some people even think that this is the performance of Sister Sa
. But both Mao Xiaotong and Zhang Tianai this time, the reaction was very good. The attitude was not very gentle, but but they were both calm and decent.
Mao Xiaotong said, "I hope you are fine."
Zhang Tianai has never gotten angry
In fact, this is actually very exciting.
Even if you lose your temper because of the other party’s mistake, if you lose your temper and the other party is very good at treating you, and you can beat and scold you in all kinds of ways, most people may relieve , or even feels guilty towards the other party.
And the scumbag obviously knows this kind of brain circuit.
No matter how you attack them, they generally have a good attitude towards you, constantly admitting mistakes and showing loyalty. No matter what you say, they will say you are right:
Luo Zhixiang was released by Zhou Yangqing , but he still has a good attitude
Xu Kaicheng has never made bad words
Many girls who are not well-informed will interpret their behavior as "They still love me", "They know that they are wrong", "They have a good personality" .
, in fact, it is probably not.
They know that The more ruthless you scold them now, the easier it will be for your feelings to come back. The better they are to you, the more likely you will feel guilty to them, and the easier they will get your forgiveness.
or even, sometimes you don’t need to scold the other person yourself. After submission, netizens scolded her boyfriend , which will also make the girl feel that is “relieved” and “can go on” . This is why many online submissions, the more the masses scold, the more they persuade them to part, and the stronger the will of the parties involved.
What’s more excessive is that some people will deliberately do something wrong to make you angry . After you lose your temper, they will treat you very well, make you feel guilty, and even brainwash you. "It doesn’t matter if you have a bad temper, (only) I can tolerate you."
From this point of view, can remain calm even after the other party makes a mistake, so that the other party will not be able to take advantage of your guilt - get angry for a while, be rational for a lifetime .
Of course, there are misjudgments in the above three points:
When a person truly loves you, he will indeed express fragility, affection and a good attitude. How to distinguish
? What is the other party’s “real thoughts” ? What is the “emotional value” provided by the other party?
3 Digging out the real ideas
is not biased by love price
The reason why Zhang Tianai and Mao Xiaotong can decisively fight for scumbags is, in my opinion, because they were not biased by scumbags in the end .
For example, even if Xu Kaicheng repeatedly expressed his loyalty to admit his mistakes, Zhang Tianai attributed it to the "recurring offender":
In short, he thought this was a routine, not the truth
Mao Xiaotong asked Chen Xiang, and did not ask whether the other party loves him or not, but asked the details of the facts and saw through the other party's bad intentions:
was so wonderful
is actually not difficult to see through. We can apply it:
emotional submission example, men and women are different places, men chase women , I took girls to meet parents very early, and even took girls to to to see houses , and bought a house. I have also expressed my intention to get married many times, and said what kind of wedding to do.
But every time a girl asks a boy how to solve the problem of a different place, the boy either interrupts , or says "I have seen two years of development", or expresses loyalty "Anyway, we will definitely be together in the end, I won't let you down."
As a result, the two had some conflict during the Chinese New Year and were indifferent for several months. The girl thought the boy was in a cold war with her. She found that the boy actually met a blind date during the Chinese New Year and had already set a date for the wedding.
The man is definitely a scumbag. The key question here is, what exactly does this man think about ?
In fact, there are only two key sentences for the method:
The first sentence, Don’t look at what he says, but what he does .
The second sentence, set this sentence, "If he really thinks so, then he will..." .
set on this man, has he ever thought of marrying a girl?
is likely not, because 's behavior does not overcome the actual difficulties . Whether it is seeing parents looking at houses or expressing wedding styles, it can be understood as a kind of " painting cake ", a kind of use for to stabilize the emotional value of girls .
Maybe he does think that girls are a good partner and can get along with each other first, but he is also looking forward to something better. If he really encounters them, he will get married decisively.
is here. If you believe that he is "whatever he says is what he says", then he will believe that he is really focused on marrying a girl, and he will easily be led by the other party.
and If you know how to reverse the behavior, you can truly recognize the other person’s true thoughts in your heart —"Spoken of oral integrity" has always been established.
Use Zhang Tianai's example. Xu refused to disclose his relationship and said it was a love contract:
Zhang Tianai also believed in
. But the problem is that a love contract is generally determined by the company to prevent the artist from decreasing its value. If you fall in love with a female artist whose popularity is much higher than that of her, the company may not agree. Even if you still disagree, if you really want to give your girlfriend a sense of security, you should at least try to win in your actions, but you can't see such a sign.
, for example, after drinking, he was chaotic. Although Xu said variously, he expressed his fragility and regret and helplessness:
is no longer pure me.
, but if you look back from the behavior, first of all, if he really loves Zhang Tianai, he can not be chaotic after drinking (hot knowledge, boys really can’t do it after getting drunk).
steps back ten thousand steps, even if you really can't control your drunkenness, after it happens, can hold it in and choose to torture yourself instead of torture Zhang Tianai. No matter how nice it is, I hope my conscience is happy and would rather make my partner feel uncomfortable. I have to say that after that, if I really want to get along well, should have substantial changes in in action, but there is no manifestation in the recording.
After all, I only have one mouth, and I want to exchange for conscience, forgiveness, and return to the relationship - No real action at all, what is there to say?
4 Scummate trick
What is the strength of
After analyzing this, some people may still wonder:
I still think their words are very ordinary? Why do these two beauties take the bait?
The essence of all scams is not actually about "saying what" but about "precise filtering objects" in .
is like many people who think that many telecom fraud are full of flaws, but in fact, they use this form to filter out objects that are too difficult to deceive, and what is left is easy to cheat.
So, the best way to eliminate scumbags is actually not to become a "high-risk group for being cheated" :
hardware, the more you make the other party "profitable", the more you are, the more dangerous you are.
It is of course a good thing to be rich and beautiful, but beauty is like money. In fact, it requires the ability to control it. If you don’t have skills to identify people to assist (the series of people to recognize people at the end of the article), it is like a child holding gold nuggets in a downtown city, which is actually more dangerous than people without resources.
These two famous and beautiful beauties are very attractive to scumbags
. There are fans who have revealed that Zhang Tianai also gave the man a lot of resources
software. The more you make the other party feel "easy to cheat" , the easier it is to attract them to attack.
For example, if you like to repeatedly criticize scumbags emotionally, but cannot do it in action, it is actually that is very fond of scumbags' appetite, because this means that you have attracted scumbags and have been hooked on scumbags, but your thinking is still about venting emotions rather than dealing with problems.
Mao Xiaotong sets a good example for women
For example, you need others to coax, and can’t tell what emotional value is and what the other person’s true thoughts are , and it is also easy to attract scumbags.
Finally, the most heartbreaking thing is that, in fact, many times, is not deceived by scumbags, but by .
We are unwilling to face "the other party is a scumbag", "the other party may not love me", "the other party may be drawing a cake", so even if the facts are in front of us, we will not accept it.
Why can't we accept it? After all, it is because we think:
the other party is scum, which means we have poor conditions and poor vision.
The other party does not love me, which means that we are not worthy of being loved and the conditions are not good enough.
The other party is drawing a cake, which means we cannot get the life we want, which means we cannot know people.
But, in fact, the other party’s scum may mean that you have a bad vision in the past, but if you can summarize the experience and lessons, your vision will improve in the future. scum is your nutrient, not a stain .
It may not be that the other party doesn’t love you, it may not be that you are not good enough, maybe you don’t have the need for him, or maybe he doesn’t have the ability to love his partner at all .
We are so eager for other people's love, maybe because we don't love ourselves enough:
What kind of life we want, you can create it yourself, you can not get hurt, you can become stronger by yourself. I can be my own good mentor and friend, and be my warmest back.
The more we love ourselves, the less we need scumbags to love us in a high-intensity manner. Thank you Zhang Tianai and Mao Xiaotong for setting a good example for girls .
is responsible for assistant: Mu Qing
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