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It is said that men are afraid of entering the wrong career, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.
No matter how outstanding a woman is, once she marrys the wrong person, she will find it difficult to be happy in the second half of her life.
Although women can choose to divorce or remarry, the "memories" of second marriage are always in their hearts, and they are an invisible wound.
Before getting married, women should examine the character of men, and after getting married, they should train their character. Women should understand that good love is the foundation for making a good man.
Generally speaking, men can do the following things well, and their character will not be too bad, and it will be more obvious when they are middle-aged.
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First, no matter how hard you are, never forget your responsibility.
likes this sentence: "Don't be afraid, the sky falls, I will hold you back."
Although the sky is about to fall and no one can hold you back, this sentence makes people warm and touching.
As a man, when he is middle-aged, he is the pillar of his family. If you have old people above and young people below, life will inevitably be very hard. Even if there are a lot of money in the family, they will feel the pressure.
Born in the 1970s, I lived in a ravine and a bark house when I was a child.
My parents went through a lot of trouble to support me and my brother and sister. When I was in junior high school, I couldn't even pay the tuition. My father went to work in a lime kiln and went to a foreign country to help people build houses, and he survived the difficulties.
There is a local saying in the countryside: "You can't bear the shoulders anymore, just hold your back."
A man's backbone is the pillars and hope of the family. If a man surrenders, there is really no hope for the family. Therefore, good character is a responsibility.
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Second, no matter how poor you are, you will never forget your parents’ kindness.
At the time of the Eastern Han Dynasty , farmer Dong Yong made a living by helping people farm. His mother passed away early, and he and his father depended on each other for life.
When his father passed away, he had no money to bury his father, so he sold himself to Cao Caizhu. After burying his father, he went to Cao's family to work as a long-term worker.
The Seven Fairies in Heaven were moved by Dong Yong's filial piety and took the initiative to descend to earth and become a farmer's woman. She endured hardships with Dong Yong and changed her destiny.
There is a saying in "Su Shen Ji": " Seven Fairies tells Dong Yong that is the most filial piety, and the Emperor of Heaven asked me to help you repay your debts ."
A person who knows how to be grateful to his parents will not have bad character, and his luck will also increase with the increase.
In real life, many families are only children or two daughters. A good man will also take good care of his parents-in-law when he is filial to his parents.
Think seriously, a woman grows up by eating her parents' family, marry into her husband's family, helps her husband's family to make money, and takes care of her parents-in-law. Shouldn’t men “feed back”? A good man is filial and has no different intentions.
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Third, no matter how difficult it is, I won’t ask for friends.
There is a news in the "HuaShang Daily": Jiang from Hebei met several friends who are "very good at making money" in an Internet cafe. After a while, we bought card swipe machine to help people who are not compatible with cash out.
They get the handling fee from it. Making money is not a waste of time. However, Jiang's behavior was quickly seized, not only did he not make any money, but he was also trapped in a prison.
There is a saying that goes: "As long as money comes with the right way, less is happiness."
Middle-aged men will inevitably encounter financial difficulties and need help. But he can't use his wits to get along with friends and make money without conscience.
The ancients said: "If you are poor, you will be able to keep yourself safe."
The poorer a person, the more he should join a clean circle and do good deeds. Most of the friends who eat and drink are not reliable. They will only come up with "bad ideas" and say irresponsible words.
What’s even more hateful is that men often participate in dinner parties and drinks. Women at home will be worried that getting drunk will also hurt their bodies. If you stay in a unclean circle for a long time, you will learn bad things. There are endless disasters.
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fourth, no matter how rich you are, you will never give up your wife.
Ming Dynasty writer Ling Mengchu wrote a story: When he was in the Tang Dynasty, Wang Xianke and Liu Wushuang got engaged since childhood and were childhood sweethearts.
At that time, Liu Wushuang's father was a minister in the court and thought that it was too much of a loss for his daughter to marry an ordinary man. So, the Liu family regretted the marriage. After
, Liu Wushuang's father was plotted and lost his official position. Therefore, she was arranged to work as a cleaner in the imperial tomb, and her life was miserable.
When Wang Xianke learned about Liu Wushuang’s experience, he took the initiative to find Liu Wushuang and did his best to achieve fate.
It is said that without a cold, how can you get the fragrance of plum blossoms?
Where couples do not go through many hardships and endure the bumps and bumps of life, they cannot live until they grow old. Therefore, a good man will see through this and will not abandon his wife because of quarrels or setbacks.
When a man gets rich, the first thing he thinks of enjoying happiness with his wife is not "flowing and drinking".
Any time, when something happens, a man must discuss with his wife and treat his wife as his right-hand man.
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No matter how busy you are, you will never be tired of doing housework.
When it comes to doing housework, many women have a deep understanding of it - no matter which day, a man comes home, just sits and lies down, doesn't look at the kitchen, but only asks "Is the rice cooked?"
During the holidays, women are busy all over the place, and men are looking at their phones, playing cards, or talking about gossip.
As people reach middle age, everyone wants to take a few days off, and so do women. What's more, many women, in addition to doing housework, also have to go to work, and they are not lazy to eat or do.
From whether a man is willing to take on housework, he knows his true character. Men with poor character like to point fingers and think that the floor is too dirty, the windows are not bright enough, and the food is not delicious enough.
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Xu Zhimo said: "I understand you as profound as I understand myself."
The best character of a person is "understanding you". Men understand the difficulty of women, women know the difficulties of men; couples get along with each other, they understand the bitterness of life, and they also know the sweetness of life.
As the saying goes, "Everything will come to middle age." If you want to change the situation, you have to work together.
Follow people, starting with appearance, becoming economic, and finally character.
Money, house, and car are of course important, but character is the "starting point and end point" for getting these things. For people with bad character, don’t talk about success.
can be a good man in the above points. If you meet him, cherish him, carry out love to the end, and integrate happiness into your life.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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