Recently, have all the students watched Kim Goe-eun’s new drama " Little Ladies "?
My best friend died and I became rich, poor families, women support each other, Korean chaebols, poor raising wealth raising …
Adults reasonably suspect that the screenwriter of this drama set the plot outline after going to Weibo to draw hot words.
However, although the plot is step by step, Kim Go-eun, one of the leading actors, has received a lot of criticism as soon as the drama was broadcast.
It’s not that he has poor acting skills or is not attentive. The main reason is that Kim Go-eun’s temperament is really good, it is really difficult to put her in with the poor character in the play…
The face is as noble and clean as white porcelain, exuding a natural carelessness with a good education.
No matter in terms of temperament or appearance, it does not show the twisting feeling between the state of mind and the situation. ,
instead reveals a "slack feeling" that can only be possessed without ups and downs.
And the same character of poverty and hard work to climb upwards is Suzy, who originally came from an idol singing and dancing performance in "Anna" is more vivid.
even if the surface has climbed up later, the appearance is bright enough.
But no matter how you decorate it, it is hard to hide your "competitive" expression with life.
The contrast shown by the two background colors of life, one tense and the other wantonly, suddenly attracted netizens' attention to their yearning for "slackening".
Speaking of which, have students ever seen such a 40w+ likes and discussions about "sagging" on Weibo?
This family can still maintain a stable and natural relaxed state when facing emergencies outside the plan. After being recorded by the bystander, it instantly caused heated discussions among netizens of 40000+.
Some netizens believe that the fundamental reason for this attitude is that it is rich.
If the conditions are average, the money of wasting air tickets is enough for family members to complain to each other.
But some netizens believe that the development of this state is not directly linked to money.
Even if the family life is burdened, but the mentality is good, you will not easily fall into blaming each other.
emmmm…How to say it, although the word "slackening" has only been collectively cited recently.
and collectively endowed with it seems to symbolize that only "material and psychological abundance" can be so effortless and natural to decorate.
But I don’t know if my classmates have read this sentence: The reason why a person can always remain normal is because he is in a normal environment, not because he should be a normal person.
For example, it is also a tutoring children to do homework. When they are in good condition, they often have more patience.
Don’t say that the clouds are calm and gentle, but at least I can endure until the child gets 2*2=5 for the fifth time and then starts to be anxious.
But if you are in a bad state, you will feel a little painful after one day, your shoulders and neck are stiff, and your legs and feet feel a little swollen.
Then, when the child said the wrong answer for the third time, he couldn't help but want to transform into Hongxing's eldest sister.
So the "sagging feeling" may not be something that can be maintained as long as you have money or silently recite "not angry"!
The body is in the subconscious anxiety?
# Potential discomfort in the body
When a cold is present, the head will be chaotic when Rhinitis occurs, the endocrine disorder before the aunt comes, the mood will be roller coaster, the increase of cortisol will cause people to lose their immunity, and then the sensitivity and anxiety...
The surface relaxation of a person needs the harmonious operation of various parts inside the body.
If you want external performance, your physical condition is also the basis for external reactions. Only by connecting internally and externally can you have the energy to face various changes calmly.
Or picking up chestnuts, everyone knows that Iceland is a world-renowned sadness depression country with high incidence of lobster .
It and other Nordic countries around it have basically added the family bucket of high depression.
The reason is that these Nordic countries have relatively cold weather and shorter sunshines.
A study published in The Lancet shows that , as the serotonin of our "happy hormone", is directly related to the duration of being exposed to strong light.
. Another experiment published in Nature Research showed that the mice had obvious depression-like behaviors after only three consecutive weeks of irradiation with blue light every day for 2 hours.
SO, continues to endocrine disorders, and the happiness hormone decreases, so people will naturally easily get into the horns of life.
Not to mention the feeling of relaxation, even a casual word or expression of others may become a trigger for their own anxiety and cause mental self-tug.
# Rejudgment of self-judgment
Students should realize that there is no universal formula for the feeling of "relaxation".
It is a perception that requires you to be self-aware enough to obtain.
To put it more specifically, for example, for many older generations, "hard-end behavior" can make them feel more at ease and at ease than the "enjoying life" given by younger generations.
The same is true for adult mothers. When I try to ask my aunt to help her clean up the house and do housework, she will instead pace around the room, worried that her aunt will not clean up carefully, and sometimes worried that her hands and feet will not be clean.
Instead, the whole person fell into a state of anxiety and anxiety. The same is true for
including adults themselves.
For some people, reading books, reading Douyin, and reading Weibo is a relaxed state, but for adults, under this behavior, the brain will enter a working mode of "finding topics".
Real · Other people's relaxation, my overtime work...
This point is also confirmed in a large-scale survey of 18,000 subjects in 135 countries by Durham University .
Research shows that for 10% of people, "doing nothing" itself will make people feel guilty.
SO, before students want to relax, think about whether the "relaxation" pattern they follow really makes you feel comfortable?
, especially the "correct and excellent" way that everyone praises, such as exercise, reading, and sucking at work while thinking about work... Does it increase the potential tension or does it really burst out with pleasure?
# Find a rhythm of work and rest
Sociologist Judy Wajcman found that the root cause of thinking that he was not having enough rest or overestimating his working time may not be that a specific period of working time is too long.
But these times are not regular. (For example, employees who need to work shifts think they lack rest.
So for many people, may strictly pay attention to their rest time or total working time. Not only is it a bit putting the cart before the horse, it may even cause their anxiety.
For example, I accidentally worked late overtime, so I didn't sleep enough for 8 hours, so I lay in bed and couldn't help but urge myself to fall asleep quickly, which made me nervous and insomnia...
For example, to make yourself relax, the work that should be completed is extended to private time, and finally the result is that 24 hours of online...
What many people need to find is The rhythm of our work and rest.
Let’s do it by using the actual
# At least 15 minutes of time to face the sunshine every day
Do you know Why does Kuafu have to go through the day? It is because he doesn't want to emo. (not
First, increase immunity from the body level, regulate endocrine, and keep the body's internal system in a healthy cycle is the key.
Whether it is to reduce bad emotions or increase negative emotions, it is the key to increase the body's internal system. Resistance, students can start by extending their daytime (such as going to bed early, getting up early) and bask in the sun more.
Although this method sounds traditional, the effect is really very obvious!
Received sunlight to stimulate the brain to secrete more serotonin.
If you can cooperate with exercise and increase the secretion of dopamine, it can be said that it will be half the result with twice the effort and eliminate emotions.
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After solving the body, let's solve the potential anxiety of the psychology.
Action is always the best medicine to solve anxiety, so after recognizes what is true "relaxation" for yourself and what makes you really nervous and anxious , students can try to use the four-quadrant rule to divide the boundaries of work and life.
quadrant is an important and urgent matter, is the main source of our daily stress;
quadrant is an important and unurgent matter, if is not taken seriously, it will slowly develop into the first quadrant transaction.
The third quadrant is an urgent and unimportant matter. Although is time-consuming, it is not important to itself.
4th quadrant is an unimportant and unurgent matter. daily chatting and watching dramas can be included in this category.
And the rest of the time outside this is the time to relax.
Adults should emphasize that the relaxation here is real relaxation, not the continued "fragmented learning" in the subconscious.
For example, some people subconsciously listen to those types that can increase their knowledge when they are relaxing on the radio...
The brain does not get a rest at all when it should receive the reward, which is about the same as lasting long standby.
Let’s just say, who can still cultivate a sense of relaxation while always online?
# relaxation therapy
This therapy should be not unfamiliar with students. It often appears in yoga classes or some sleep software.
After lying in bed at night, close your eyes and follow the following steps to implement:
. Relax muscles piece by piece in the order from the head, arms, head, torso, and legs.
. Feel the ingress of air flow during breathing, focus on feeling to reduce other thinking and cognitive activities, and relieve physical tension.
is very simple, just follow it.
Three minutes of popularity has three minutes of results. Do not do things because of small good deeds.
When you see it, practice it. Even if you are hot for a few days, it will still be of a little help to your health.
