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The relationship between father and son should be very close, just like Big Head Son and Little Head Dad . Wouldn't it be a very happy pair of good buddies! However, most of our generation, especially those born in the 1980s, are helpless in the face of our sons and sigh. It is not that our son is incompetent, but that as children's parents, they have not fulfilled their responsibilities and obligations of family education, and have not communicated, contacted, and accompanied them in time. However, they have described all the shortcomings and incorrectness of the children as being disobedient, but blamed the children for being incompetent.
Can children blame their children if they are disobedient and have no effect? Many parents do not look for reasons and shortcomings in themselves, and blame everything on their children. It is indeed ridiculous to think about it.
As the saying goes, someone raises it but no one educates it, it means that parents who never care about their children.
The day before yesterday, Xiaoma came to my house to complain to me again, saying that his son had made him angry. I asked what was wrong. He said that he slept from night to twelve noon the next day. He said that he could write and read books. His son said casually, "Don't care about me." When he heard his son refuting himself like this, he rushed up and slapped him. The child who was beaten rushed out of the house and disappeared.
Xiaoma's family is actually quite good. His parents are retired cadres, but he achieved nothing and made a living by running for rent. Since he gave birth to a son after he got married, he has not fulfilled his responsibilities for a day. His son has been taken care of by his parents since he was a child, and the same is true for her wife. She never cared about her children and worked hard to earn money. Sometimes I think, the child is not good, what can I do if I earn so much money.
Xiaoma's child has been with his grandparents since he was a child. Of course, his grandparents take care of his grandson. I believe everyone knows that grandson is the treasure of his grandparents. When the child was in elementary school, his studies were not very good. Until the fifth and sixth grades, Xiaoma found that his child's learning was too poor, so he spent money to hire a tutor. The typical technique of making up for the loss of the sheep was lost at the starting line in his life.
So the little ma couple thinks that the child is not attentive, so are they scolding the child severely? If they don’t have good grades in each exam, of course they can’t escape his beating. Gradually, the child becomes very bad, often causes trouble, never get close to him, and even says a few words. In this way, the father-son relationship, how can you let the child grow up mentally healthy?
As the saying goes, filial sons appear under the stick, but it is not like this now, but "traitors" appear under the stick
The way parents educate their children is to give their children a kind heart, not a good face, sometimes they will not be upset when they are beaten by their fathers, but instead remember them in their hearts, knowing that they are wrong is wrong, but in this way of education, the children all have a heart that respects their parents and never fights against their parents. Children born in the 1980s still respect their parents very much, and they all respect their parents.
Today's children enjoy a superior living environment, and have the love and protection of their grandparents. In addition to their parents' education, most of them have developed an "young master's attitude". They are all indifferent to oil and salt, not eating soft and hard, and holding on to the end, which has caused many parents a headache.
Back to the topic, Xiaoma hit his son, and he felt a little regretful in an instant, so he hurriedly called his wife who was working outside and hoped that his wife could find the child. However, no one expected that his son had a dispute on the bus due to seat problems due to a serious injury when he got off the bus, and the other party's spleen was ruptured.
is stupid now. This is revengeful and irrational. Faced with the child's rebellion, the little ma couple still did not realize their shortcomings. They involved the child home and beat them up to vent their resentment.
But as a child’s parents, is there no other way to convince and educate the child except to beat him up? Just as he finished beating the child, his son actually jumped off the building.
No matter how strict the parents are, educating children is really not without companionship
As the saying goes, companionship is the longest confession, and the child’s heart is a slim heart. The child knows who loves him and who doesn’t love him. In the child’s heart, the cognition of love is indeed too simple, because he regards the love of his grandparents as the kindest love, and holds a grudge against his parents once he blames him.
This depends entirely on those parents who have not accompanied their children for a long time. They throw their children to the elderly to take care of themselves. This makes the children lose the principle of distinguishing right and wrong, because except for the education the children receive in school, no one is the second teacher of the children to share their worries and problems for their children. Simply put, it is our tutoring, responsibilities and obligations. Children cannot let themselves go. They need parents' company. Only parents' words and deeds and guidance can make a child's mental growth healthy, rather than beating can make a child obedient.
Many people say that children are difficult to educate nowadays, and most children are very troublesome. Although parents of children do not know how to explore their children’s psychological problems, they just verbally say how much they love their children and blindly let their children do things they don’t like according to their own ideas.
Reprimand, blame, beat, and roar can only make the child feel resentful, and even close himself and not communicate with his parents. Such children can only become more and more eccentric on the road of growth and cannot gain the understanding and recognition of their parents. Their choices are often very rebellious, and even catch some parents off guard and unexpectedly.
Like Xiaoma's son, even though he has the love of his grandparents and the hard work and efforts of his parents, what have he gained? When children make mistakes, many parents cannot provide ideological education for their children calmly, but a storm-like education method. This method can only increase children's negative emotions and make children's mental health growth more and more deviate. Can't parents have more time and care to accompany their children, and give them a growth environment full of understanding, caring and loving, not just let a child have a tragedy in the environment where they grow up.
There are still many families like Xiaoma. Regarding such naughty children, if you want to save them in time, what are the good suggestions and methods for them? Let me talk about your views, thank you!
